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Premarital Sex...
What Real Catholic Men Do!
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Premarital Sex...
What No One's Telling You!
In this 23rd episode? We tackle the problem of Premarital Sex! As well as, these other important lessons... When you have sex with a woman, she will do almost anything to keep you, to satisfy you, and yes manipulate you, if need be.
- How do you become a hero in the eyes of God, and your girlfriend?
- Once you have sex with a woman, why is she now bonded to you for life?
- When you have sex with a woman, why will she desire to control you by any means necessary?
- When men sleep with a woman, what valuable asset do they steal from them?
- What is the greatest test of Authentic Masculinity?
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Links And Resources Mentioned In This...
Premarital Sex Episode
- Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
- 20-Minute Marriage Makeover - https://catholicalpha.com
- Article on how to man up Christ's way: Christ - The Original Catholic Alpha
- What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
- Fr. John A. Hardon - Help with celibacy - Modern Catholic Dictionary Definition of Chastity
- Fr. John A. Hardon - Fornication and adultery in the bible as viewed in Sex And Sanctity
- FR. Ripperger - on the Four Stages Of Courtship (helps deal with the sin of fornication)
Baggage Stemming From Premarital Sex?
Want to understand why?
Consider the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!
5 (less than) 20-minute (do it yourself) videos, to help you discover ...
- Chaos in your marriage and home? Watch video 2
- Could your lack of leadership or Authentic Masculinity be the culprit? Watch Video 3
- Is your intimacy average or non-existent? This is most likely the reason – Watch video 4
Your Next Step Starts Here...Stop The Feeling Of Helplessness…
Holy Lover Tactic #2 - Marriage Maintenance
Episode 20 - Show Notes
Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.
Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!
And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!
While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!
Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 23 - BAM!
So, Let’s-Do-This!
Catholic Marriage (Quote Of The Day)
When I practice chastity as temperance, I am abstaining from a pleasure; and the abstention pleases God; and it makes me more holy because I am doing the will of God.
When I practice chastity as sacrifice, I am more than abstaining. I am willingly and (with divine grace) cheerfully offering God the pleasure as an oblation to the divine majesty.
I am offering a sacrifice, which is the surrender of something precious (and sex is precious) out of love for God.”
~John A. Hardon, S.J. ~ Sex and Sanctity
Wuss Or Warrior Alpha Courting Tip...
Premarital Counseling...For Some Premarital Sex!
The Problem: Premarital Sex: What Real Catholic Men Do!
Tell Story: about having sex in high school and nothing good came from it because of the pain it caused Kelly, my son, and myself!
You know before I was Catholic I never even heard of the word chastity…
Let alone what it meant, and that it’s connected to God and His Church…
Just so we’re clear, the meaning of Chastity according to Fr. John Hardon’s Modern Catholic Dictionary is…
The virtue that moderates the desire for sexual pleasure according to the principles of faith and right reason…
Chastity implies an opposition to the immoral in the sense of lustful or licentious…
It suggests refraining from all acts or thoughts that are not in accordance with the Church's teaching about the use of one's reproductive powers…
It particularly stresses restraint and an avoidance of anything that might defile or make unclean the soul because the body has not been controlled in the exercise of its most imperious passion (end definition).
As with anything that has to do with Christ, it’s all about self-control and sacrifice.
Which means: the complete control and mastery of our inner-self and desires as men for the good of others!
I’m going to tell you something that no one is every going to tell you or really knows…
Once a woman gives herself to you (even one time) and she reaches coition…
She is bonded to you for life, and you to her.
For the most part she is now yours (like it or hate it) this is fact.
Instinctively, she now will do almost anything for you,
She will do almost anything to keep you, to satisfy you, and yes manipulate you if need be.
This is partly do to the curse of Eve. Which because of the Fall of man (original sin)…
She instinctively desires to control you at all cost, by any means necessary.
For this reason, we must understand our power as men.
When we have sex with a woman, we think “Hey she knew what she was getting herself into.”
Yes, we put all the blame on her.
Why?
Because it’s easy to deflect our own duty in this area in lieu of pleasure.
And what is our duty as men in this area?
To protect!
Protect from what you may ask?
Protect her from us.
God charged men to protect and defend women and those weaker than us.
I ask, how is using up a woman’s body for our own selfishness and pleasure an act of protection?
Then we get upset when she wants more, craves more, from us.
Yes, we sleep with her for years and years…
Taking from her the most valuable assets she possess as a women…
Time!
Women aren’t like us.
Their time is 10 times more valuable than ours.
Why?
Because with time women lose their youth, their beauty, their vitality, their ability to have children.
And when men abuse them by sleeping with them, and not marrying them…
They steal from her what makes her great in God’s eyes.
Why he created her, her main attributes for attracting the man she is supposed to live her entire life with, build a family with, become one flesh with.
And what do we as men do, we come in with no control, no empathy, to the situation.
Look women will tell you anything to have you, once bonded to you.
They will tell you, they don’t want marriage…
They will tell you they don’t want children…
They will tell you they don’t really care if you sleep with other women…
They will let you use their bodies, hearts, and minds for decades, all on the promise (whether said or not said) of marriage.
Why because marriage is infused into their souls (it’s part of the Natural Law of Man).
Look man…
No woman, I mean no woman, unless she is extremely disordered (which in that case, you better get as far away from her as possible) sleeps with a man that she doesn’t think she wants to marry.
As men we must understand this truth!
When you have sex with a woman, and then leave her…
She will get mad, angry, and in most cases distraught.
Why?
Because in her mind you have broken a promise.
The promise of; I gave myself to you…
Which basically means, I gave myself to you, because I thought you loved me, wanted to build a family, get married and spend eternity together.
Look, no matter what she says through her lips…
Inside the above statement is what she is feeling.
And with women, feelings are everything!
Again, like it or hate it, it doesn’t matter, this is fact!
And finally, one of the greatest tests of authentic masculinity, is the ability of a man to control his sexual power in lieu of protection of the woman.
Not exploit her very being (even if she desires it)
As men God gave us the responsibility to protect, defend, and serve those around us. And that main duty extends more so to our helpmates of the opposite sex!
So, I pose the question to you as we end this segment…
What kind of man are you trying to be?
What do you think?
Send your questions or comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
Baggage Stemming From Premarital Sex?
Want to understand why?
Consider the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!
5 (less than) 20-minute (do it yourself) videos, to help you discover ...
- Chaos in your marriage and home? Watch video 2
- Could your lack of leadership or Authentic Masculinity be the culprit? Watch Video 3
- Is your intimacy average or non-existent? This is most likely the reason – Watch video 4
Your Next Step Starts Here...Stop The Feeling Of Helplessness…
The Solution...
So, what’s the solution?
Here are some things that will help…
One: Confession because it’s a sacrament, and all graces from God stem from you being in grace with God.
Two: Prayer because as Fr. Hardon says, you can’t defeat unchastity without the grace from God.
Three: A daily examination of conscious throughout the day
Plan on what you will do when God allows the temptation of sexual desires.
Theses temptations are allowed to make you stronger and build your will.
Will you succumb or will you battle by resisting with your will?
Four: Expel impure thoughts from your mind immediately by
Invoking the Blessed Mother or the name of Jesus by saying a Hail Mary
Five: Custody of the eyes
Do your best to turn your eyes away from women dressed in revealing, form fitting, or tight clothing.
Next, Benefits to defeating this enemy…
Your ability to embrace Authentic Masculinity by controlling and sacrificing your sexual passions for the good of God, your wife, or your girlfriend, will make you stronger, holier, and a hero…
But more important, a man that has engaged in the most brutal battle in life; a battle against himself; And Won!
What are the consequences of failing to conquer this enemy?
Look, arent’ you tired of failed relationships?
Aren’t you tired of the baggage of all the hurt women that flatten your tires…
come to your job and cause chaos…
blow up your phone, or bang on your door when you are with your new woman?
Or worst yet, all the kids you’ve created that have no true family of a mother and father married and together in the same home.
Not spread all over the planet, with different mommas, and their boyfriends raising your child!
I’ll tell you what I always tell my sons;
Look man; pick one…
Make her as happy, fulfilled, satisfied and secure as you can…
And if you have anything left after that…
Get on your knees and ask God for the grace to keep it going!
Send your questions or comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
Conclusion
As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI
Quote “Society offers you comfort…
But you weren’t made for comfort…
You were made for greatness!
So go forth Christian Soldier…
The Spiritual fight is upon you…
Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!
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- The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
- Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
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