Marriage In The News: Hollywood Hookups, shack ups, and Screw ups!

This segment is my take on marriage in Hollywood from a Catholic point of view!

On Jan. 1, 1970, the first "no-fault" divorce law in the United States went into effect in California.

Within five years, the country's divorce rate nearly doubled…

skyrocketing from 650,000 divorces a year, to more than 1 million.

It's never fallen below that mark in the decades since.

(article by Emily Stimpson Chapman OSV Newsweekly) I’ll to it in the show notes.

In an article by the economic times Here are 5 celebrity couples who decided to go for the quick fix, an opt out for a no-fault divorce

But first l talk briefly about God’s true position on divorce.

I’ll quote Sacred Scripture proof a little later.

But for now let me tell you a short story:[tell story about how I was at grouping and I thought divorce was ok in case of adultery]

Divorce is unacceptable in the Church (Christ’s Church) why?

Because one the grass is never greener

People get a divorce and don’t work through anything which makes their marriage stronger

Then find that the person they are now with is just as bad or worse than their previous spouse.

Second, you take you with you!

You can’t escape you!

So if you leave your spouse and get a divorce…

But you have so much pride and don’t look to fix your faults first…

How do you really expect things to change with your next so-called spouse?

This is why second marriages fail just as much or worse than first marriages.

And God knows this, he knows we are broken!

Look, we must fight and work things out how?

For men it’s through prayer, suffering, sacrificing, and serving our Beloved…

So that she knows unconditionally that we cherish, love, and are devoted to her.

For women it’s suffering and sacrifice, through prayer, submission to Christ, and her husband, and serving him and your family…

By forgoing your wants and desires for career, your friends, and the world.

Now let’s talk about 5 Hollywood hookups, shack ups and screw ups that failed…

and are the true example of what not to do!

#1 Elizabeth Taylor & Conrad Nicky Hilton

The movie star and the real estate tycoon met at LA’s Mocambo nightclub in October 1949.

A year later they were married in Beverly Hills, with MGM picking up the tab for the actor’s lavish wedding.

Within 205 days of their wedding the couple got divorced.

An 18-year-old Taylor won the divorce on grounds of mental cruelty and refused alimony.

Look, Elizabeth Taylor had probably more marriages than any person in the history of Hollywood!

But she just never got it.

I mean after about the third marriage…

Maybe… just maybe… you look at yourself and ask yourself…

what in the heck is wrong with me?

Moreover, with Elizabeth, she had given herself to so many men…

that her pain and inhibitions were so high, that every marriage she entered…

was probably hell from the get-go for her husband…

Because he had no idea how to calm her or make her happy!

I know fellas, it’s not fair that no one teaches us this stuff!

#2 Christie Brinkley, Richard Taubman

The supermodel and the real estate developer met at the Telluride ski resort in Colorado in 1994…

when the two of them survived a helicopter crash.

Brinkley was married to Billy Joel at the time.

Eight months after the crash, Brinkley and Taubman married near the site of the crash…

and announced at their wedding that they were expecting a child.

Their marriage ended a year later.

Ok here is another lesson…

that we all realize…

but no one wants to admit it to themselves until it’s too late!

What makes you think that when you meet a woman, and she is married to another man or with her boyfriend…

And you somehow get her to sleep with you…

Then be with you or marry you…

That eventually when your relationship starts tanking…

that she won’t do you the exact same way?

Please get real…

People tell you who they are if you are willing to see it!

In this case Christy Girl, left her husband, slept with another man…

And had his child, and… married him!

All I can say is, when it tanks they will run…

Why?

Because they have a track record…

And have shown you that track record in spades!

#3 Chad Johnson, Evelyn Lozada

The football player and the reality TV star married on July 4, 2012 after dating for a couple of years.

On August 11, Johnson was arrested on grounds of domestic battery…

after headbutting Lozada during an argument.

The athlete was released from Miami Dolphins soon after.

On August 14, Lozada filed for divorce which was finalized on September 19.

Johnson entered a plea of no contest for his charges and received a year of probation.

Ok this is classically what Father Chad Ripperger classifies as The Curse Of Eve (explain the this)

This comes from the point of view from the man and from the point of view from the wife.

First off the wife!

Oh boy Chad’s wife felt he didn’t love her!

She felt he didn’t give her enough attention…

or basically started putting her and their marriage on the back burner.

And once a woman senses this…

she begins to rebel and exhibit the curse of Eve.

Which is what is happening here!

First, they begin trying to control you by disrespecting you…

becoming angry, depressed and unhappy.

Then they begin thinking of an exit strategy when you don’t begin fixing yourself!

Then most times they get another man to make you listen…

Then they leave to make you listen…

Then they file for separation to make you listen…

Then they file for divorce to make you listen…

Then they file for an annulment to make you listen…

The key takeaway here?

We are men, and most times we don’t listen until…

They leave or ask for a divorce…

Why does your wife do this?

Because, these are the stages that she goes through to try and get you…

to prove your love for her…

and prove that you are the man she needs!

Finally, these are the stages she goes through, to get you to man up…

become the leader and begin fixing yourself!

But, what do most of us men do…we punk out and become effeminate…

and agree to the divorce and give them all they want!

Look here is the saying…

You never give your wife what she wants…

You give her what she needs to make her happy!

So, this means…you never…

Submit and give a crazy woman what they want…

when they are trying to destroy your marriage…and split up your family!

#4 Kris Humphries, Kim Kardashian

The Kardashian and Humphries marriage lasted all of 72 days!

but the divorce proceedings went on for months.

The reality TV celebrity and the NBA star met in 2011 while Kardashian was filming her show.

After a quick engagement that lasted 90 days…

the couple was married in a star-studded, widely-televised ceremony.

At the time of the divorce Kardashian was expecting a child with her rapper boyfriend Kanye West.

You know I just have to say it…

God the Father knows what He’s doing!

Mannnnn…This is the prime reason…why you don’t sleep with a woman before you marry her!

Because once you do things get all murky and cloudy!

Then everything is all about emotion.

And logic is thrown out the window.

I mean come on 72 days!

He probably didn’t even know her favorite color when they got married!

Then when they did get married, and he began living with her…

He saw how completely like Eve she was (complete and total selfishness)

He basically found himself in his worse nightmare (HELL ON EARTH!)

#5 Donatella Versace, Manuel Dallori

The Italian power couple - one the leader of a hugely successful fashion house…

and the other a businessman…

divorced within a year of being married.

The couple was married in 2004 and were divorced by 2005.

Despite speculation, little is known behind the couple’s decision to part ways.

Versace has two children with her first husband Paul Beck.

You have to know…

that this is the classic case of too many involved in a couples marriage!

Babies from other people all over the place.

The other babies mommas and daddy’s all in the business.

And the married couple has no idea how to handle it.

But, instead of digging in…and focusing on the marriage…

They succumb to the demonic influence in their marriage and home…

And they are defeated easily!…Why?

Because… God is nowhere around…

And… JESUS… HAS… LEFT… THE… BUILDING!

No grace, no true love, no sacrifice!

Doomed to failure!

Look here is the bottom line…

I stated many good arguments for the reason Our Lord forbids divorce…

And if you really think about it and remove the blinders…

You will see that they are valid and true…

But one thing I didn’t say is this…

Even though we arent’ allowed to divorce…

We are allowed to separate…

and get away from a spouse who is physically abusive.

But separation is not divorce.

Why?

Because people change and come to their senses…

and this takes time.

So, if God allowed divorce, and the person changed…

THEN became this great and awesome husband for his wife…

But she has divorced him, and given herself to another man…

This makes things very difficult for them and the children!

Also, I’m so sick and tired of people saying the kids will be ok in a divorce…NO THEY WON’T!

Now, let’s go into the foundation of marriage…

as seen through Sacred Scripture and the Church (Christ’s Church!)

Divorce in scripture – Matthew Chap 19 (v. 1-9)

Marriage and Divorce.

When Jesus finished these words,* he left Galilee and went to the district of Judea across the Jordan.

Great crowds followed him, and he cured them there.

Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him,* saying…

“Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?”

He said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female?’

and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”

They said to him, “Then why did Moses command that the man give the woman a bill of divorce and dismiss [her]?”

He said to them, “Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

I say to you,* whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery.”

Well, that pretty much says it…It’s from Christ’s own mouth!

Ok, here is what the Catholic Church (Christ’s Church!) teaches on divorce…

(which is what Christ handed down) as stated in the Catechism of the Catholic Church (Christ’s Church!)…

(paragraph 2382) The Lord Jesus insisted on the original intention of the Creator who willed that marriage be indissoluble.

He abrogates the accommodations that had slipped into the old Law.

Between the baptized, "a ratified and consummated marriage cannot be dissolved by any human power or for any reason other than death."

(Paragraph 2383) The separation of spouses while maintaining the marriage bond can be legitimate in certain cases provided for by canon law.176

If civil divorce remains, the only possible way of ensuring certain legal rights, the care of the children, or the protection of inheritance…

it can be tolerated and does not constitute a moral offense.

(2384) Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law.

It claims to break the contract, to which the spouses freely consented, to live with each other till death.

Divorce does injury to the covenant of salvation, of which sacramental marriage is the sign.

Contracting a new union, even if it is recognized by civil law, adds to the gravity of the rupture: the remarried spouse is then in a situation of public and permanent adultery:

If a husband, separated from his wife, approaches another woman, he is an adulterer because he makes that woman commit adultery,

and the woman who lives with him is an adulteress, because she has drawn another's husband to herself.

(2385) Divorce is immoral also because it introduces disorder into the family and into society.

This disorder brings grave harm to the deserted spouse…

to children traumatized by the separation of their parents…

who are often torn between them…

and because of its contagious effect which makes it truly a plague on society.

NEED I SAY ANYMORE…BAM!

So, what do you think?

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