In divorce cases, this is called mental torture or domination.
Really, it is egocentricity, in which one ego loves itself in the other ego. The I is projected into the Thou and is loved in the Thou. The Thou is not really loved as a person; it is only used as a means to the pleasure of the I.
As soon as the other ceases to exhilarate, the so-called love ceases.”
~ Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen, Three to Get Married
Cheating Wife: The Gift Of Ten
When is the last time you gave your wife “The Gift Of Ten?” You may be wondering; what is “The Gift Of Ten?” Well, “The Gift Of Ten” means 10 orgasms (a partner of “The Forever Orgasm”).
You’re right, this question is raw. Especially, for Christian husbands. Because many of us are taught that sex is naughty, dirty; should be kept in the dark; stored away in the storage room. To only be dusted off and mentioned, when the so-called; urge hits us.
Well, this train of thought is foolishness. Holy Sex; the marital embrace; the Holy Caress; [pullquote]Sacred Intimacy is not what we do. In fact; when ordered toward God; sex is who we are.[/pullquote]
The Father is good. Therefore; He can only create good. God created sex. Therefore; sex is good. That’s why the marital embrace is referred to as; the marital embrace. Because, it’s meant to only be done between the married couple.
But, when done outside of marriage; which means, done outside and ordered away from God (in essence, evil.) The act of the Holy Caress, is engulfed in eroticism, filth and causes great evils.
I’m speaking crazy you say? Well, the proof is around you. How many sexual relationships outside of marriage, end up in the toilet (unwanted children, abortions, fatherless homes, broken, hurt, used, and abandoned women, rapes, pedophilia, incest, infidelity?)
Each of these evils, have a root cause, stemming from sexual relations outside the marital embrace. Please; please try and rationalize that I’m wrong. But of course, I’m not.
To Stop A Cheating Wife?
Understand The Purpose Of Your Manhood
You must remember; God gives us what we ask for. Whether it’s Heaven or Hell.
You indulge in filth; He allows you to feel and be treated as dirt. You embrace purity, sanctity, and Holiness, the way He has designed it? Your marriage is rewarded with peace, passion, fruitfulness, unbelievable intimacy, fidelity, and an amorousness unlike any other.
Again, the question. When is the last time you sacrificed your ultimate pleasure in service of your wife, by giving her “The Gift Of Ten?” My bet, is not of late, or in many marriages; not ever!
God has given you the gift of masculinity. You in turn, must view your ability to satisfy and fulfill your Beloved as a gift from the Father. On loan, given to you by Him. Your masculinity is a gift in service and dignity of your wife; and the Father’s will. Not merely, to satisfy your urges and ego.
As St. Pope John Paul II proclaims in his writings, Love And Responsibility; the husband is required to make sure that his wife is given the gift of climax. As not to be used as a mere object, but to uphold her dignity as a human person. (More on female orgasm and a man's duty here)
I will add to that by saying, this is the minimum standard. Many wives need much more than one, for a deep and fulfilling sexual experience. And, I believe it’s safe to say, your wife is in this category (enter “The Gift Of Ten”).
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Do You Have A Cheating Wife?
Fix Yourself First!
You boast, you love her. You say, she’s the most important person in your life. You claim, you would do anything for her happiness. In the end, aren’t these mere words? Until you put into action these phrases, they have no meaning whatsoever.
Until you insert the Father at once, into the center of your marriage, you and your wife will continue to be attacked by the Evil One.
If you have a cheating wife? Do me a favor, and consider; just consider, your roll in this travesty. Until you learn to sacrifice, suffer, and place yourself last. Moreover, to understand what this truly means in your marriage and family. You; your Beloved; your children; nothing but unhappiness, misery, and attacks from the Father Of Lies.
Listen or don’t listen. The ultimate choice is yours. But see, I have a joyous wife. Do you? Have you ever even considered this question?
Probably, over the span of your marriage. You’ve refused to absorb the clues, your wife has given you, concerning her unhappiness and emptiness. In wait for you, her Beloved husband to return to her. To once again love her, engulf her in pure passion and intimacy. To insure her; she’s first in all things in your life. Only you can answer these claims as true or untrue, in your marriage.
This cluelessness is a gargantuan problem in husbands, and men in general. You know the type. They know everything. You can’t tell them anything. And if you do, you must use kid gloves. Because they will get offended, upset, or muster a complete breakdown. Total emasculation and effeminacy.
So, when their wife approaches, and makes known, she’s leaving. Or instead of leaving him, she has an affair on his lazy, aloof butt!
He’s in total shock and bewilderment, as to her cause or reasons. He’s too stupid, to realize what his Beloved needs to feel close to him. Mainly, because he’s too concerned with his own selfishness.
He refuses to zero in on his wife, to make her sense appreciation and fulfillment. In essence, he’s slowly over the years, started to take his Beloved for granted. And, she can no longer stand being treated as an object. Do you blame her?
Now, I understand the wife deserves blame as well. But, we aren’t talking about your wife. We’re talking about you. The leader. The man of the household. The individual, charged to protect, defend, and serve. The Christian soldier Christ left in charge.
If you keep company with the millions of men who suffer from a cheating wife. I must proclaim, look at yourself first. Place yourself in front of the mirror and examine your roll. Fix you! Get yourself right with God. Before you rush out and scream, blame, and attack, your wife for her problems and indiscretions.
In fact, I’m asking you to become the husband she needs. In order that your Beloved is compelled, to follow and embrace your leadership.
Deny Yourself Pleasure In Lieu Of Greatness!
Remember; Christ left you in charge of this realm. Not your wife; you! She is your helpmate, your battle partner. But you must fight, to become the man God created you to be, so you can lead, and become worthy of your wife’s loyalty, love, and trust.
In essence, become the best moral example of yourself. Then and only then, will she submit to you, and allow you to be her hero, her champion. To once again, become worthy of her; the man of her dreams.
Your first instinct will be to resist what I’m telling you. Don’t! That’s evil, and your brainwashing from society kicking in.
Refuse to hear that foolishness, and to further be manipulated. Use what the Father has given you. Invoke the Holy Spirit. They will help you realize what needs to be done?
My proof? Consider your life up to this point. You’ve done everything and all things on your terms. My question to you?
Many husbands reading this article, will complain and whine, concerning how I've painted a picture of them having to do all of the work.
The problem, most of our lives we've been conditioned to focus on the other person's faults and misdeeds. While in complete denial of our own foolishness and selfishness.
Well, I don't roll like that. You can't keep your Beloved, not to mention a cheating wife happy, by continuing to only focus on her craziness.
You must zoom in on what you can control. And, the only person you can completely control is you. Change you; dig deep into what you can do to improve yourself. And I promise, you will look tantalizing to your Beloved.
Insert God. Realize the meaning of sacrifice and suffering, for the benefit of another. Kill your ego. Dismiss selfishness. In essence, become marketable, a great catch, a stud, a blue chipper again.
Stop being lazy! Stand up for the truth, and what's right and virtuous in this chaotic society.
Be "A Man Of Courage".
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- You learned what "The Gift Of Ten" is. And where to learn more on this wonderful concept. (Subscribe to my two week email course to learn more; much more.)
- You also learned, how important it is to adopt the proper mindset concerning the marital embrace. Moreover, how God views the art of making love.
- You now understand that in order to understand a cheating wife. You must first understand, what the Father expects from you concerning the gift of masculinity He's entrusted to you.
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- Your ever growing roll as the protector and defender of your home.
- Also, we'll cover what wives really need in a husband; not necessarily what they want. And how it's important that you realize the difference.
Catch you next article. It will be powerful!