The human heart is not wrong in wanting love; it is wrong only in thinking that a human can completely supply it.
What the soul yearns for in the crisis is the Light of love, which is God, and not the shadow...
Instead of thinking that the other partner is to blame for this emptiness, which is so common today, one ought to peer into his own soul
~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married
Christian Marriage Advice For Men
Part One Recap
In part one of "Christian Marriage Advice For Men" we listed the first five consequences of you placing God on the back burner. To review they were:
- Your Wife Will Not Submit To You: Never on the same page. Bickering, tension, rebellion etc...
- Your Children’s View Of You; Low: disrespectful, rebellious, disobedience.
- Your Marriage Will Fail: The chance of divorce; high!
- Your Marriage Will Be Lackluster: Your marriage is merely hanging on. No fire or passion. You find yourself putting out fires most days.
- Your Marriage; Your Home Attacked: The diabolical will infiltrate your marriage and home, while causing chaos.
Remember, God first, wife second, children third, yourself last. As a husband, your job is to serve. To in essence, consider your wife and her needs before your own. Difficult? Yes, at times. Worth it? No doubt!
So, now let's move forward to the final five concerning, Christian marriage advice for men. Take heed and embrace; be cautious, as in the first five, these will sneak upon you. Many times you won't see them coming until it's too late.
Christian Marriage Advice For Men
Top 10 Consequences Of Placing God On The Back Burner (6-10)
Six: Your Children Will Grow Up Screwed Up!
Oh, so funny how parents suppose their children will grow up so perfect; so wonderful. Even when they themselves are broken, depressed, and have no idea, how to be a man or a woman, of great moral character. Furthermore, they deny they are bad people.
It’s hilarious, how parents and humans, really believe they are good people.
This is an utter joke! Without the Father, if they haven’t already started before 18. Percentages are high, your children will abandon you. They will abandon the faith. The will do, each and everything you hoped they wouldn’t do.
Why? Because you screwed them up. You presumed, you could do it all on your own. You turned your back on God. You robbed your children of goodness and holiness. You did this, it’s your fault. And yes, you should be ashamed!
Without God, your children will grow up; screwed up. Why? Because you believed the hype. You let society manipulate you into agreeing, evil; Satan; don’t exist.
But my friend, he does. How do I know? Brother, we are killing millions of unborn babies per year! And I bet most of, if not all of, your friends and family, assess this is perfect; it’s fine.
To repeat; Christian marriage advice for men; we are lost; insert God now; and forever!
Seven: You Will Be Lost; No Mission; No Direction
I bet you feel lost right now? You may not want to admit the fact. But, it’s there. You may proceed day to day, using tricks of self-deception to hide reality. But most occasions, during what little self-reflection time you have. It surfaces.
Without Christ as your example. Without His grace. Without the mission of everlasting life. You will remain lost. You will remain bonded in chains. Why? Because if you in truth believe God is present, then you can’t be controlled.
Furthermore, you understand that these short 100 years on this earth are meaningless. As when compared, to eternity and immortality of the soul.
As husbands; Christian soldiers, we must understand; this life is a test. The test? CAN YOU BE OBEDIENT; CAN YOU SERVE; CAN YOU DIE TO SELF; IN ORDER TO BECOME HOLY AND WORTHY, TO STAND BEFORE THE FATHER IN JUDGEMENT!
See man, God; Christ; The Holy Spirit; The Trinity; instill true purpose and meaning in a man’s life. Without them, you are a vagabond. In essence, lost in space. Sad; but true.
You can’t be free, because you’re too busy being controlled by the government, by your brokenness, by your job; your sin! But through the Father; you can be released into everlasting freedom. Free from control of any entity.
Eight: You; Your Wife; Will Never Become One Flesh
I know Jerry; it always boils down to sex. Look, sorry, I didn’t make the rules; God did. I’m only the messenger.
One flesh is two separate souls; dying to self and joining with the Father; to create and join, in His divine love.
Don’t refuse this gift. As proclaimed before. This takes hard work, Determination, reckless abandonment. You mustn’t take this for granted. You are cheating your Beloved, your family, and yourself.
Either you want greatness or mediocrity. Sure, your sex life may be ok, or even good. But I guarantee, without the Father; it isn’t one flesh!
Nine: Your Wife Will Place Most Relationships Above Her Marriage
She won’t do this on purpose. But without the Father, she’ll be as aimless as you. She’ll be lost, because you are lost.
The reality is pitiful; but true. The Fathers grace, your refusal to embrace obedience and place God first, will damage your Beloved. She won’t look at you through the eyes of holiness and virtue. But through blinders.
Moreover, your holiness is masked. Why? Well, you have none., because God is absent. True, deep, and divine attraction, comes from the Holy Spirit, flowing from you into the world. And if you don’t embrace the faith fully, as said before; blinders cover your Beloved.
She will place the children above you. Her mother above you. Her father above you. Her sister; her brother; her friends. Her job as well. You’ll be lucky to even be in the game.
These are worst-case scenarios. However, they will in the end, invade your marriage. The invasion may take two years as in my marriage; or maybe 50 years. But without the Father, the result is inevitable.
Ten: You Are Turning Your Back On God; So He Reciprocates
Last, the Father is so ironic. Just as we suppose that God sends us to hell. We also conjure up; He will keep giving us grace and mercy, as long as we wish.
Wow! How arrogant, selfish, and really stupid! Remember, we have free will. A true gift given. God can only exist in the presence of purity, holiness, saints. How can you think your dirty, impure, butt can enter heaven with all the sin and evil attached to you?
See, this foolishness has been preached by ignorant so-called clerics for decades now. And its placed, millions upon millions of souls in jeopardy.
If we would stop and consider the logic of it all. None of this stuff makes sense. The logic doesn’t hold up.
So, you expect me to understand that God lowered Himself to the equivalency of a nat. In order for us to think “Once Saved, Always Saved”. Are we in complete denial or what?
This ignorance is just an excuse to partake in our own selfishness. To justify it.
As a human person, you can’t remove the rough edges from your soul, if you aren’t in complete obedience. How else can you die to self, and become holy and able to stand in front of God. See, it just doesn’t make sense, when you really consider it.
Well, let them go ahead and keep thinking this way. And God will let them determine their own destiny. The levels of hell; or a place in utter peacefulness.
In this post, I've covered the last five consequences for husbands who neglect time with the Father.
The proper Christian marriage advice for men in this situation, is to start putting actions in place, to insert God firmly in your daily life now!
Many times, men are under the notion that they are placing God first. But in actuality, are neglecting time with Him.
We must remember, this is a spiritual battle. The benefit to our marriage, and our children is irreplaceable.
All of the items above, can be easily defeated by enhancing our relationship with the Father; first and foremost in our lives.
In part three of this series, I'll give you plenty of actions you can start today, to help with your ever growing relationship with God. This will also give you an indication; if in fact you are placing Him first, and serving your family before yourself.
In placing God first and yourself last, you open up the attainable goal of holiness. Which is the duty of every Christian soldier.
My question to you, have you started analyzing yourself, as it pertains to the points in this article?
Above all, this is a must for your Beloved, your children, and your environment.
Don't disappoint the Father any longer. Work hard to build a solid relationship with Him. Realize, your marriage can help change society at large. If it is great, holy and journeying toward the Father, you can't lose!
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- We covered, the last five of the top 10 disasters that can befall your marriage and family. As a result of you denying the Father His rightful place in your life.
- We also discussed, the benefits of you moving to change your current habits more toward God.
Are there more disasters you can think of that can add to the destruction of your family, if God is removed?
Be sure to share this article with your friends, to help them become aware of these dangers.
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- Part Three: Actions you can do today to begin placing God first in your life, and getting the grace that you need in your marriage.
So, see you next time.