The human heart is not wrong in wanting love; it is wrong only in thinking that a human can completely supply it.
What the soul yearns for in the crisis is the Light of love, which is God, and not the shadow...
Instead of thinking that the other partner is to blame for this emptiness, which is so common today, one ought to peer into his own soul
~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married
Christian Marriage Advice For Men
Christian marriage advice for men? Never leave town, with your Beloved angry at you. As well as, you angry at her. The trip will be a disaster.
My first wife and I, married young. I’m 19; she’s 22. I’m in the Air Force, and we’re stationed in Guam.
Guam is a small territory of the United States, positioned in the Pacific Ocean.
We’ve been married for two years. Then I’m asked to venture on a temporary duty assignment to Australia. It’s to last a week.
Now, for the life of me, I can’t remember what our argument was about. Looking back, I’m sure it’s stupid.
As she dropped me off at the plane, I remember, we didn’t even kiss goodbye (wow, not good).
The flight is near eight hours, from Guam to Australia. During the flight, the fellas spoke of the many women we would meet, as we disembark from the plane.
Over the next week, I meet several ladies (Yep dumb). We spend tons of time together. And, I sleep with one of them. At once, I experience shame.
I pondered the ramifications, of having to return home and tell my wife?
Will I even tell my wife? Should I tell my wife? Should I lay this on her? Should I keep the incident to myself, and cope with the guilt and shame alone?
In the end, I decide to tell her. Why? Because the marriage is in shambles, anyway. I don’t favor secrets. And even at 21 years old, I understand, although I was a knucklehead. First, mistrust; infidelity, can be recovered from. Second, secrets; not so much.
Cafeteria Catholics: What Will You Choose?
Understand, this treachery happens when our life, our marriage, any environment, we’re part of, is void of God’s grace.
Being obedient in complete fullness, is the only possible path. Many Catholics and Protestants, engage in what Catholics call cafeteria Catholics. This means, we only indulge in the part of God’s word, that we feel we agree with.
Of course, this foolishness is a recipe for chaos. As a result, we lose tons of grace. As well as, invite the diabolical into our lives.
What’s This All About?
We will discuss what happens in your marriage, when you the husband, refuse to place God first. Moreover, your Beloved second, your children third, and yourself last.
Why? Because as seen in the story above, without even realizing the ramifications. One, we’re inviting evil into our marriage. Two, into our home. As husbands, we must battle the temptation, not to place everything in front of the Father.
Next, I will show you actions you can partake in, to help place God first in your marriage. Further, in your life at all times.
Last, if you follow my advice, your marriage will be on its way to greatness and holiness. Just as the Father expects.
First, we will start by listing the top 10 disasters that will occur in your marriage. As a consequence, of your refusal to follow the proper order of things. In essence, the way God has designed the family for success (the natural law).
Second, we’ll engage in 18 actions you can take at once. Henceforth, encouraging more time with God, in your marriage and life.
So, let’s get started shall we?
Refusal To Place God First: Enter The Abyss
Again, Christian marriage advice for men, must be truthful and direct (as Christ was in the Gospels). Don’t have time to place the Father first; always something in the way? The diabolical, scratching and tempting you daily?
Wonder if God decided, He didn’t feel like sustaining your life today, by ceasing operation of your lungs? Why? Well, He just didn’t have time today. Get my drift?
These next 10 items are consequences of your refusal to lean on the Father early and often. Stop the foolishness; start the process of recovery now! Or if you deem, everything is cool in your marriage. Heed the warning signs.
Christian Marriage Advice For Men
Top 10 Consequences Of Placing God On The Back Burner
One: Your Wife Will Not Submit To You
Period! Your Beloved will be uncooperative. She will always feel the temptation to go her own way. Your relationship won’t be first in her eyes. There will most times, be interference from other entities and projects.
As far as being on the same page at all times; forget it. Moreover, bickering, tension, rebellion, to you and the Father; always present.
See, when you place God first, His grace handles these trials. Sure, many times placing Him foremost in all you do, is tough and grueling. For this reason, you mustn’t rely on feelings. You must view this as a duty daily.
Two: Your Children’s View Of You; Low
Sure, sure, you say, my children respect me, and hold me in the highest esteem. Sure they do, in your face maybe? But the true test? When you are not around.
What do they say? Do they respect your wishes; do as you ask? Do they fight you, and struggle with you at every turn? Do they disrespect your wife (when you aren’t around)? Are they always acting out at school; in Church? Do you have to place them on Ritalin, or some other ADHD medicine to control them?
Do you have to punish them frequently? Do you have the courage to punish them?
Again, the proper Christian marriage advice for men; a peaceful home is hard to achieve. A brilliant marriage is hard to foster. You can’t do it without the Father. It’s just too much, for any one man to handle.
Many occasions in our lives, we don’t realize the chaos abound. We don’t realize how miserable we are. Get on the mission; place the Father first!
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Three: Your Marriage Will Fail!
The chances of your marriage failing without the Word first, and in the forefront; is an extreme possibility.
Not sure? In denial? Do me a small favor; check your surrounding environment. View the many husbands that flow day to day, without even mentioning the Father. Not one prayer. Not one thought!
I guarantee you; inside their marriage; utter meltdown. They are struggling by the hour, to keep it under control. Is this you? Abandon this road to dudsville right now. It’s a losing battle.
You must ask yourself, do I want this fight my entire life? Is this my destiny? To forever battle my wife, my children?
Okay, like I said. Remove the anchor from around your neck. Seek the comfort; of the Savior.
Four: Your Marriage Will Be Lackluster
No passion. No fire. In fact, you always find yourself; putting out fires!
Your marriage is surviving. You can’t seem to thrive. A problem or obstacle looms. Man, I know. I was there! You can’t fool me. I understand the tricks; the small things we do to take our mind off reality. Yep, each of us takes part.
I proclaim, it’s impossible to have a thriving, fantastic, great, toe-curling, awe-inspiring, magnificent marriage. Without the grace of God.
Not going to happen. No way; no how. Sure, you can fake it, until you make it. But in reality, magnificence will never happen. Been there; done that!
But hey that’s why you’re here.
Later, I’ll give you great tips to get the Almighty in the game.
Five: Your Marriage, Your Home; Attacked
Ok, this one is simple. If your marriage, or your home, is absent of God, then what’s the only other essence that’s circling?
If your marriage is absent of God, then contrary, evil, the diabolical is the only thing left.
Realize, you must choose; God or Satan; no in between. If your marriage is void of the Father, then the diabolical is infested, and causing havoc; in your marriage. Furthermore, in your life; in your home; Period!
Understand, many suppose evil is robbery, murder, rape. And yes, this assumption is correct. But, evil also comprises of refusing to pray. Allowing our wife to ingest birth control. Supporting our daughter dressing as a whore, by showing most of, or a high percentage of her body.
These practices are evil, as they breakdown your goodness; steal our innocence. They make you weak to what goodness even is; while inviting in the diabolical. Again, proof? View your surrounding environment; the answers will show themselves.
In this post, I've covered the first five consequences for husbands who neglect time with the Father. Coming in my next article, we'll cover the final five.
The proper Christian marriage advice for men in this situation, is to start putting actions in place, to insert God firmly in your daily life now!
In part three of this series, I'll give you plenty of actions you can start today, to help with your ever growing relationship with God.
In placing God first and yourself last, you open up the attainable goal of holiness. Which is the duty of every Christian soldier.
My question to you, do you want to remain where you are forever?
You must find something that you are willing to sacrifice your life for daily, to in essence, become True Man. But the first step, is having courage to place God first in your life. Every day and all day; no excuses.
At first this will seem weird, uncomfortable, and daunting. However if you persevere, and breach your comfort level, you will start a wonderful journey towards holiness.
Above all, this is a must for your Beloved, your children, and the rest of mankind.
Refuse to disappoint God any further. Embrace your destiny, find your purpose, seek greatness; Place the Father front and center now!
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- We covered the natural law, and the proper order of our families. So that we can seek the proper graces from God.
- We also covered, the first five of the top 10 disasters that can befall your marriage and family. As a result of you denying the Father His rightful place in your life.
Are there more disasters you can think of that can add to the destruction of your family, if God is far removed?
Do you see anything wrong with placing your children above the needs of your Beloved?
Be sure to share this article with your friends, to help them become aware of these dangers.
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- Part two: The last five of the top 10 consequences for not placing God first in our life, our marriage life, and our children's life.
So, see you next time.