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Before I tell you the #21 clue let’s review the previous 20…

1) Does she seem distant?

2) Is she spending more time with single friends?

3) Does she seem uninterested in the marital embrace?

4) Is she still as supportive as she used to be?

5) Is she still as loving as she used to be?

6) Does she go out to clubs and events without you?

7) Does she take longer to answer your texts or phone messages?

8) Has her conversation with you become very short and to the point?

9) Has the bickering increased?

10) Has the arguing increased?

11) Has she started putting the kids, above you?

12) Has she started putting her friends, siblings above you?

13) Have you going to mass and entering the spiritual battle daily

14) Does she seem unusually depressed or unhappy?

15) You make love less than once per week

16) You make love less than once a month

17) Has she lost weight for no apparent reason

18) Has she started getting her hair done more often for no apparent reason?

19) Lately, does she dress nicer, or more provocative?

20) Is she staying out later

So, what is clue #21 that your wife may want a divorce?

Drum roll please – She blames you for everything going wrong in your marriage?

Marriage Killers the core of communication

Marriage killers is how we hurt each other deeply, cause resentment, and cause intimacy to leave our relationship.

Especially for wives.

If your wife is blaming you for all things wrong in your marriage…

this means that you are doing marriage killers…

so she has started doing marriage killers to you.

Now, what are marriage killers?

Oh, I am so glad you asked Grasshopper!

To be specific they are…

Arguing with her, bickering with her, debating with her, criticizing her, trying to control her, correcting her behavior, blaming her, and complaining, verbally attacking her, and defending, reminding her of past wrongs, and stopping the need to defend yourself!

One thing that is higher than a marriage killer which damages your marriage severely over time is…

When your wife is talking you are not listening.

All of these items push her further away.

And stops your relationship from progressing.

Each time you feel the need to do any of these relationship killers ask yourself:

Do you want to be right, or do you want your marriage and family back?

The way you stop the killing behaviors is, if things begin to rise to arguing…

you only respond to what you agree with, and say nothing on things she says that you don’t agree with!

If you break this rule, you will cause an argument and your relationship will regress!

And eventually, sadly, your marriage will be over!

Which means divorce court has entered your future!

Remember even though your wife blames you for everything and you blame her for everything…

She is the one who is more effected by the marriage killer practice.

Why?

Because she runs on emotion…

and when you insult her, argue with her, yell at her, raise your voice to her, disrespect her by not listen to what she is saying…

It hurts her very deeply because women can’t take trauma as well as men can.

So, when husbands yell, fight, criticize, argue etc.

It hurts their wives to the core of their being because they are bonded to us.

Which means we can hurt them much easily and deeply than anyone else on the planet.

This is why one of our missions as men is to protect our wifes from ourselves!

This is our power as men that we have no clue about.

Why are husbands able to cause so much pain so deeply…

Because you and your wife are bonded.

Bonded through marriage before God…

Bonded through the marital embrace…

Bonded through children together.

This is why when or if a wife has an affair…

She is still drawn to her husband way more because of the bonds they share.

When we continually do marriage killers on our wives…

She begins to become resentful…

He begins to become resentful…

She begins to feel her husband doesn’t care or love her anymore

And the all important, emotional connection begins to leave her and consequently your marriage.

And as you know or should know by now…

When the emotional closeness is gone…

Your beloved desires to leave with it.

Again, if your wife is blaming you for everything…basically nagging you!

This is the first clue that you have serious marriage problems.

But more importantly, this is a gift from God because…

You have a chance to fix your marriage before the Wife’s exit strategy really sets in…meaning…

Her leaving, getting another man, moving to another bedroom, asking for a separation, asking for a divorce, filing for divorce, getting the divorce, filing for annulment, getting an annulment.

Gentlemen remove marriage killers, and this will remove her nagging.

Doesn’t that sound like a beautiful world?…BAM!