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So, what are the behaviors of a troubled wife?

Moreover, what are the clues your wife displays when she is unhappy and considering or planning to leave your marriage?

A more important question is why?

Do you know…do you even care?

Those of you listening who think your wife will never leave you are in a dream world.

And if right now the answer to the question of, “Are you and your wife as emotionally close as you could be?” is no or I’m not sure…

You have entered the Wife’s Exit Strategy Zone where your wife is considering or has considered what to do about the lack of emotional connection in your marriage.

Why? Because for her this is the most important thing (above God, the children, her duty as a wife or mother etc.)

Once the closeness is gone, she will start telling herself, “This is not what I signed up for!”

Then comes the question, Can I be happier with him or without him?

If the answer, is I can be happier. Sadly, she will start planning her exit strategy. And you her husband will not even suspect it.

For this reason, the clues in this series are so valuable as they give you an idea of what is about to happen, if you are willing to see and act upon them!

If you make the rookie mistake and think, she is being emotional or I’ll take care of this later…

You’ll find that later never comes and your wife and family have exited stage left!

Because I know from experience that no one teaches us how to build a great, loving, passionate, and exciting marriage over decades!

So, in my effort to help you, I present to you the clues that if noticed or better yet removed from your marriage, will help you rekindle it and save you and your family much pain and agony!

Before I tell you the #23 clue let’s review the previous 22…

1) Does she seem distant?

2) Is she spending more time with single friends?

3) Does she seem uninterested in the marital embrace?

4) Is she still as supportive as she used to be?

5) Is she still as loving as she used to be?

6) Does she go out to clubs and events without you?

7) Does she take longer to answer your texts or phone messages?

8) Has her conversation with you become very short and to the point?

9) Has the bickering increased?

10) Has the arguing increased?

11) Has she started putting the kids, above you?

12) Has she started putting her friends, siblings above you?

13) Have you going to mass and entering the spiritual battle daily

14) Does she seem unusually depressed or unhappy?

15) You make love less than once per week

16) You make love less than once a month

17) Has she lost weight for no apparent reason

18) Has she started getting her hair done more often for no apparent reason?

19) Lately, does she dress nicer, or more provocative?

20) Are you beating her home, when before she was already home?

21) She blames you for everything wrong in your marriage!

22) You can’t seem to make her laugh anymore

So, what is clue #23 that your wife may want a divorce?

Drum roll please – You can’t see her phone because its hidden and locked?

Many are going to disagree with me on this one.

Why?

because your phone is hidden and locked as well!

Sure, if this is new and your wife has just started doing this…

When before it was out, open, and unlocked…

But now it is hidden and you can’t get into it because you don’t know the code.

This is a huge clue that something is wrong.

Everyone talks about how they love their spouse.

And they trust them and of course wouldn’t hide anything from them.

But our phones always seem to be off limits.

I must tell you, this is the way to a failing marriage.

Why?

Because it starts with the phone…

Then what else will you rationalize is ok to hide and keep from your wife as well or she keep from you?

You see the evil one comes into our lives and marriages slow, cool, and sweet!

He doesn’t just barge in like a robber or home invader.

It’s slow, methodical, and smooth!

And if we aren’t alert…

He will find his way into the heart, mind, and soul of our Beloved!

In my house I could care less who sees my phone.

Really!

It’s unlocked and is open for anyone to look at it.

My wife is the same.

My kids have been playing with her phone since they were babies.

Doing games, videos etc.

Of course, now they are grown and have their own phones.

The point is, you and your beloved are one flesh before God.

And according to Him, you each have bodily rights over each other.

Now, I know many of you out there will say…

Yes, Jerry, she has bodily rights over me…

But that doesn’t include my phone!

Look, I know this clue is not easy for you or your wife.

But in order to build a great marriage…

There must be complete openness, honesty, and trust.

There is no legendary marriage without it.

You as a husband and she as a wife…

must put everything out and in the open at all times.

Not only when you feel like it!

In this evil and demonic society today…

Almost everything we do is against God.

He is no longer on the courthouse steps.

He is no longer in the schools.

He is no longer at our jobs.

So, consequently, it is easier for us to remove Him from our hearts.

Look, I understand privacy is important.

And sure it is sometimes needed.

But that does not and must not include our Beloved.

Why?

Because trust and vulnerability in marriage is everything.

And remember, your wife and kids do what you do.

And if you are locking and hiding your phone which fights against the trust factor.

Then your wife will do the same, even if she could care less who sees her phone.

Also, if as a husband you are making the mistake of unknowingly neglecting your wife.

Then, you argue with her.

Then you criticize her.

Then you blame her.

And then on top of all of that…

Your phone is locked an inaccessible.

If you were her, over the years wouldn’t you think maybe he is hiding something?

Gentlemen this stuff doesn’t happen in a day.

It takes weeks, months, and years for your wife to believe you don’t love her.

So by the time she starts locking her phone and being extremely vague and private…

In her mind, you aren’t really her husband anymore.

Basically, just a roommate!

Why?

Because if he neglects me, doesn’t spend time with me, calls me names, hides his money, and gives me bad sex…

What else am I supposed to think?…BAM!