Understanding A Holy Lover: Authentic Masculinity
A Man Of Courage: Embraces Suffering, Serves Thy Beloved, Sacrifices Self. While Being The Rock For Masculinity, And The Full Truth Of Christianity."
~Catholic Alpha
Part Two The Art Of Manliness Video
Quick Holy Lover Recap
Of Part One
Again, the definition of a Holy Lover is becoming the husband your wife needs; As well as, becoming the man God created you to be. Yes, this isn't easy, but it creates dam good marriages!
In part one, we discussed the first eight gifts of a Holy Lover (Category one, Prayer Warfare). Click here if you haven't read it.
Now, let's get busy digging into category two, "The Art Of Manliness". Ok, man up fellas. Time to recover your masculinity!
Category Two
The Art Of Manliness
Let’s face it, today’s men have lost their way. Indeed, we are weak, soft, effeminate, and emasculated. We hide behind our momma’s, our wives, as they do the things we as men should be doing.
We stand up, and fight for nothing of consequence (But, we will kill someone if they speak ill of our favorite sports team.)
Most of us haven’t a clue of what it takes to be a man, a husband, or a father. We’re only concerned with our own well-being, and our own wants. We wallow in our weakness, as our feelings are hurt, and hide in our emotional corners.
We raise boys, who possess no fight whatsoever. As a matter of fact, we allow our children to run our households. We allow our boys, to emulate girls, wear skinny jeans, and the soft, emasculated, color pink. We retain, no fight or pride. As we allow the mothers of our children, to raise our sons as basically; girls in waiting.
As men in this country, we command no respect. Our women view us, and pity us inside. Why? Because they know deep down; we are useless. We bitch, whine, and complain, about everything (we have ceased doing the tough stuff; effeminacy).
We abandon our families, screw around on our wives, make babies with homewreckers; and our useless friends; say nothing!
Above all, we’ve failed God, our wives, our families, our country, and ourselves. We’ve allowed the feminazi’s, emasculated, and evil ones, to infiltrate and hijack this country.
But, I will offer this. The feminist are doing what we refuse to do. They feel they’re protecting themselves against us. They’re doing what women do, when they deem leadership, masculinity, and the security of their children, are in jeopardy.
They challenge, fight, and scratch, to find it!
In essence, we haven’t a clue what our mission is on this earth. We’ve no clue, of our true power and potential, as men. WE ARE LOST!
This section will focus on, who we are as men; as husbands. As well as realizing, how to emulate, and use as our example Jesus Christ, the ultimate model of a man. Last, this section is about you understanding your masculinity, your manhood, your manliness.
Furthermore, how to be the man God is calling you to be. How to in fact, become great!
Take back your manhood. Listen; Learn; and Do!
Gift Nine
A Holy Lover is his wife’s best friend, and she is his.
If you and your Beloved, aren’t best friends, your marriage will eventually fail. And I don’t mean just divorce. I mean a dull, lackluster, passionless marriage.
I mean, why did you get married? To spend time with other men; allowing them to steal precious moments away from your soulmate?
Your job is to become one flesh with your Beloved. How can you do this, if you and your wife share your dreams, wants, and desires with another human being?
Answer; you can’t!
Gift Ten
A Holy Lover shows his wife never ending appreciation.
If you have an unhappy wife, one of the best things you can do at once, is show her genuine appreciation. Women thrive on this. More important, from their husbands. They are ordered toward a nurturing nature. They need this from you for validation and assurance of love.
Gift Eleven
A Holy Lover never takes his Beloved for granted.
This foolishness is the big one. For this reason, husbands arrive home from work, and find their wife gone with the children.
Men, our problem is we’re hard-headed. We suppose we know it all. And worse yet, we act like it. You must never allow this to infiltrate your marriage. Your wife is first; now and forever. Neglect this; your masculinity card should be revoked!
Gift Twelve
A Holy Lover uses Christ as his ultimate example of manliness.
I know, Jesus Christ today isn’t presented in the most masculine light. The soft images of Him don’t inspire masculinity. But don’t get it twisted. Christ was powerful, strong, tough, aggressive, direct.
Christ was perfect, and He demands we’re perfect. And that means modeling our lives after His.
Only through Christ, will we ever get back the respect, the love, the loyalty, the courage that Our Lord meant for us. Not this emasculated mound of Jello, we’ve amounted to in the last 60 years.
Gift Thirteen
A Holy Lover never ceases learning every inch, every inner thought, every mystery of his Beloved. No matter how long the marriage!
Why is your marriage boring? Because you make it boring. You’ve stopped being intrigued by your wife. You’ve stopped exploring her. You’ve given your marriage over to the marriage gremlins.
Over the years, your wife has grown. She’s learned new things, new interests. You must continue to invest time, and focus on her.
If you want passion, fire, and splendor in your marriage. You must inspire it within your Beloved. To accomplish this? Continue to discover her mysteries?
Gift Fourteen
A Holy Lover must suffer, sacrifice, and give his life away a little each day, for his Beloved.
Your ultimate goal as a husband, is to present your wife before the Father blemish free and pure. You can only do this by placing yourself last. By praying, by doing what’s best for her according to God. Moreover, denying yourself pleasure in lieu of hers. And many more.
And as you endure these sufferings, you unite this suffering with that of Christ, for the benefit of your Beloved.
Gift Fifteen
A Holy Lover must stand for and seek the truth of the Catholic faith.
Wow! This statement is a controversy starter I know. But remember, we are seeking greatness, not mediocrity. So, as a Holy Lover, we must discover the complete truth. And view everything we do, through the eyes of He; who is the Truth; Christ. Most agree that the Catholic Church was the first Church.
But, whether we presume this or not. It’s the Church that Christ started, by giving St. Peter the keys to the Kingdom (Matthew 16:18). So if there’s a problem, take it up with the Father (Don’t kill the messenger.)
To this I would say, many protestant and other religions, are important starting points. We come into the faith by our own environments, and what we’re taught. But it’s our responsibility as men, to seek the absolute truth of what Christ is asking us to do. Not stay where we are, and refuse to grow.
I’ve been in protestant religions. Have seen most of them from the inside (Baptist, non-denominational, Presbyterian, Jehovah Witnesses etc.)
As I advise, they are a great starting point. But we as men, in order to become a Holy Lover, a husband made for greatness. We seek the complete fullness of Christianity. And the first Church, the Catholic faith, the faith Christ started. The faith whose bishops originate from the Apostles. I promise will give you a complete mission as a man, a husband, and a father. While assisting you towards your complete union with the Father.
We must remember that the Catholic faith is not a faith of feelings. It’s a faith of the intellect (doesn’t rely on emotions for motivation to be obedient). Many protestant religions, don’t quite understand this. As they rely on their emotions, to motivate them towards obedience to the Father.
Besides, they forget that Christ requires us to suffer and sacrifice, in order for us to imitate Him. Thus, to muster the courage, you need a sense of duty, responsibility, and self-sacrifice, for something greater than yourself (not emotions).
On this account, the Catholic faith is designed to place you on this journey, by using Christ as the example. The outcome; so that you become closer to the Father.
Religion is hard. Prayer is hard, discipline is hard, perseverance is hard. Men are made for this difficulty. As a result, feelings have no place in the equation. Why? Because feelings will abandon you. Or, give you a false sense; that’s just not there!
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Gift Sixteen
A Holy Lover embraces fidelity.
If you are serious about understanding your masculinity; your manliness. The first virtue you must endure is chastity. A man of God, realizes that he must learn to control his urges. Battle his inner demons, and protect his Beloved from himself.
How can you proclaim, you’re “A Man Of Courage” “True Man”, a “Holy Lover” if you indulge in your own selfishness?
Man, you are not made for this. You are made for more than this. If you can’t make the woman you have happy. What makes you presume, you can make another happy without fixing yourself. Furthermore, conquering the battle within yourself?
Gift Seventeen
A Holy Lover wins the heart of his Beloved daily.
Yes, I said every day. Why? Because you are a man. And, here’s what you will do over time. You will become aloof, concerning your wife and your marriage. The end result, you will put your wife in the trunk of the car.
Rationalizing, she will be ok. While you give your time, energy, and passion, to some other unimportant task. Designed for your pleasures.
I ask, do these outings mean anything in the big scope of your life; your marriage; your journey towards God? Of course not! Get your priorities correct now, so you’re not begging for forgiveness later.
Gift Eighteen
A Holy Lover protects his sexual health at all times.
Ok, going to attack your manhood a bit here. If you suffer from sexual performance issues, such as (premature ejaculation or impotency) you must fix this at once. Next, put a plan into place to protect your sexual health daily.
For example, premature ejaculation. If during the marital embrace, you Lose Your Cool before your wife has experienced one orgasm. You are disrespecting her as a human person. You’re only considering yourself; your pleasure.
I argue, is this what Christ did? Did He place His wants before that of His bride the Church? Of course not!
And so, I ask; and He asks, no less from you! Isn’t this what men do? You must get your sexual health in order. If you need help in this area (and most of us do) I have a course created that addresses this problem directly here.
Are you now starting to understand, how all of these points work in conjunction? You can’t ignore one aspect, otherwise, it affects the others. STAY THE COURSE CHRISTIAN SOLDIER!
Gift Nineteen
A Holy Lover rejects selfishness in all areas of his life, more important his marriage.
Here you have it. The number one cause of divorce; selfishness! Again, if you consider yourself first or second or third. Your marriage will fail!
You aren’t entitled to anything. What you earn is what you deserve.
So in order to gain a legendary marriage, you must work for it, sacrifice for it, suffer for it! Focus on your marriage, with reckless abandonment!
Do you intend to be great? Do you seek to be a man of respect? To build a legendary marriage? To inspire passion, splendor, and holiness, in your marriage and Beloved? Then don’t compromise your morals and virtues.
This my friend is “True Man”. This is a Holy Lover. This is Christ’s desire for you; Greatness!
Gift Twenty
A Holy Lover understands his masculinity is a gift from the Father; on loan in service of Him, and his Beloved!
Your masculinity is a gift. The aim of that gift, is to serve the Father and your wife. This gift is on loan, and has purpose. Understanding the intent of marriage, is important to your understanding of this gift. You must use your masculinity, as an example for all else to follow. Emasculation and effeminacy, are not an option.
You will fall at times. Maybe even fail. But for this reason; you are man! Rise up; dust yourself off; and get back in the game!
Summary
Many husbands don’t have the staying power, the perseverance, the courage to become a Holy Lover. However, I believe most do. We just need direction and awareness that we do have a problem or potential problem.
My goal for you, is to place your marriage on a maintenance plan. To cheerfully bestow upon your Beloved, the gifts of a Holy Lover.
Over time, add new gifts as you become comfortable with the previous. I will not lie. This work is difficult and complicated. But if you love your wife, are devoted, and desire to be True Man. You can become the ultimate; Holy Lover.
The categories; Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; and Lovemaking Mastery; can’t be neglected for one over the other. As you’ve seen in this article, each works off of and compliments, the other. Neglect one, and you might as well neglect them all.
Are you willing to put in the work? Are you the man for the mission? Can you become the husband, the Father is calling you to be?
Can you become a Holy Lover? Become something greater than your current self?
She’s waiting on you. Your Beloved, the mother of your children. Your helpmate, your battle partner! She’s waiting on you, to rescue her; from you. Once you chisel the rough edges from yourself; this will encourage her to become the wife you need her to be.
Finally, again, I ask you to instill passion; instill splendor; inspire holiness. Refuse to fail; become a Holy Lover.
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- You have been challenged with a great task; to become A Holy Lover.
- You learned much about Authentic Masculinity.
- Moreover, what God is asking of you as a Christian Soldier.
- You've also learned how men have been robbed of their masculinity, and how we need it to help us be True Man.
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- The marital embrace, and some critical changes you must make to ensure your Beloved feels complete and total love from you.
- Many husbands take this for granted. And have found themselves in divorce court. Don't you be that man!
