Understanding the philosophy of a Holy Lover:
This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections.
Part One Prayer Warfare Video
Does She Deserve Any Less?
Are you a Holy Lover? Is your mission to become the man God created you to be? Do you understand your role, your duty, as a husband in marriage? Is your marriage thriving, prosperous, peaceful, full of the Father? Or is it lackluster, passionless, void of intimacy?
Are you and your Beloved, one flesh? Do you avoid each other like the plague? Do you go along to get along? Do you want more, crave more, hunger for more? But, don’t understand how to get what your marriage needs? Does your marriage lack greatness?
Well, I can help you reach this feat. I can help you understand your purpose. I can help you, in your pursuit of greatness.
In fact, I experienced many of the above questions. I didn’t understand, what I was supposed to accomplish on this earth. I had a family; a wife. But didn’t realize my purpose, where I was supposed to go. More important, where I was headed. Not to mention, how to lead them there.
So, I did what everyone else did. I chased the almighty dollar. I pursued careers. I tried with much passion, to fill my empty gut with things, stuff, sex, and distractions. None of it worked!
I required something more. There had to be more. THERE-MUST-BE-SOMETHING-MORE!
Mission: To Become A Holy Lover
By the grace of God, more did present itself. I stopped allowing myself to become distracted, with the lure of society. I decided to rise up, and search for the truth of my life. Moreover, what that meant for me, and my family.
My mission of this article, is to get you to elevate yourself. To rise up from your nothingness, meaningless existence. Furthermore, to realize every decision, every thought, every action you take, means something in the universe.
Your marriage, your Beloved, your children. They are depending on you, to lead them to greatness. More important, to help them reach their full potential as members of the Kingdom Of God.
Can you do this? Are you the man for the mission? You have to be because my friend there’s no one else.
If you read this article, and follow the attributes. Then decide, you want more for your marriage. As well as, for your children; for yourself; than just a meager, selfish, one hundred years of existence.
Then I ask you, sacrifice yourself, your wants; your every desire. In benefit of the Father and your Beloved.
Become a Man Of Courage; embrace suffering, in service of your Beloved and Christ. In fact, give your life away for something far greater than yourself. For Christ, for your Beloved, for your marriage.
Once again, become her hero, once again become the husband she needs, once again become the man of her dreams. I plead with you, become the man God created you to be; in essence; become a Holy Lover!
What is a Holy Lover?
Let me be clear. Even though, I created the concept of the Holy Lover, along with the help of the Holy Spirit. I myself, have not reached the full potential of Holy Lover status.
I must admit, becoming a Holy Lover is a journey. It’s not something you can accomplish in a year. Something of this magnitude, takes time, perseverance, patience, discipline, humility, and prayer. But above all, to reach Holy Lover status requires the help of the Father, and His merciful grace.
As you embark on this path towards the Father; towards greatness. I implore you, to lean on prayer, and the Holy Spirit to help guide you. You cannot become great; holy; a saint without the Father. It’s impossible!
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I’ve divided the gifts of a Holy Lover into three categories (Prayer Warfare, The Art Of Manliness, Love Making Mastery).
Each category is as important as the other. Further, each category should be strived for and completed, for total success. You cannot neglect one category, in favor of another, and expect to reach ultimate and True Man. You must embrace each category, to become a Holy Lover.
So, let’s get started. I will list each gift in each category. Followed by a brief explanation of each.
The Gifts Of A Holy Lover
A Holy Lover is A Man Of Courage; True Man. He understands in order to serve, he must deliver the gifts of his manliness, given to him by the Father.
A Holy Lover understands every action, every thought, every word, is a gift given in service of the Father.
Your mission? To unleash as many gifts upon your Beloved, as she can stand. The reward? A magnificent, fantastic, passionate, holy and legendary marriage!
No one wants to believe in evil, really, above all, not in an evil being, an evil spirit. Everyone wants to abolish the idea.
To admit the existence of evil means a responsibility, and no one wants that responsibility. That is the opening through which the evil spirit crawls, stilling all suspicions, making everything seem normal and natural.
This is the “thought,” the unwariness of the ordinary human being which amounts to a disinclination to believe in evil. And if you do not believe in evil, how can you believe in or ever know what good is?”
~Father Malachi Martin
This category is first. Why? Because it’s foolish not to consult the Father, before you make a decision of consequence. If you don’t, plain and simple, you will fail.
Look, many husbands today believe they’re independent. They don’t need anyone, but themselves. Somehow they have it all together.
No matter who you are; evil, time, life, eventually, will force you to submit to its will. Depend on yourself, lean on yourself, continue to act as if you are your own god.
And, you’ll invite meaningless suffering, upon your marriage, your Beloved, your children, and yourself.
Ask yourself, “Do I want greatness or mediocrity?”
This abyss, is what society offers you.
As a husband, either you want your life to mean something or not (something bigger and better than yourself). Remember, Christianity is hard. It’s supposed to be. So I implore you, be tough; Lean on the Father!
More important, unleash upon your Beloved, every gift your masculinity has to offer. Refuse to be stingy, selfish, and lazy. As a husband, realize the power you possess. Again, unleash it; every bit of it; upon your Beloved!
A Holy Lover enforces, God first, marriage second, family third, and self; last!
As a husband, your mission is to protect, defend, and to serve. If you place your wants and desires above God’s, your Beloved, and your children. Are you in fact; serving? Or, are you wallowing in your own selfishness?
A Holy Lover engages in the spiritual battle daily.
Spiritual Warfare (prayer) is your number one duty as a husband! You are a fool, if you neglect this battle. The Evil One loves it, when you place his will above that of the Father’s. Indeed, my friend. I beg, choose a side; any side. This the Father demands!
Again, you are charged to protect, defend, and to serve. Prayer is the battle you engage in daily, to combat assaults on your family and marriage.
Examples; when your daughter leaves the Catholic faith. When your son gets a girl pregnant. When your son becomes an alcoholic. If your wife seeks another man’s comfort.
Can you withstand these trials on your own?
Will you continue to allow your family to journey through this life unprotected by you their husband; you their father? You have great power; use it!
A Holy Lover rejects contraception (birth control) in any form.
Why? Because birth control, will kill your marriage sooner or later.
Love is destined, to be shared. Remember, God loved the Son, and their love created the Holy Spirit!
If you and your wife, only love each other. That love will start to turn in upon itself, and murder your marriage. If its fruit isn’t the gift of children. Realize, love must create, it must multiply, it must never become selfish.
LOVE-MUST-HAVE-CONSEQUENCES! Love, must have something on the line. Otherwise, the marital embrace means nothing.
Contraception ruins this. It’s compared to masturbation. Complete and total selfishness. And sooner or later, your wife will feel used!
A Holy Lover understands marriage and its meaning.
Marriage and the Holy Caress, are created by the Father for procreation. As well as, the forming, and education of His children. More and more, for the couple to become one flesh, by striving to be holy, and as an example of His Divine Love, for the entire world to mimic!
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A Holy Lover understands the value of children (at least four) to the success of his marriage.
As said before, love is meant to be shared. And the gift and creation of children, solidifies your marriage will survive a lifetime.
In his book “The 7 Big Myths About Marriage” Christopher Kaczor, proclaims that marriages with at least four children, have a low percentage of divorce.
On a more practical plain, do you want to be old, alone, and placed in a nursing home? In addition, with no one to love and care for you.
Your wife will die. Your children, will love and care for you when you can’t care for yourself. This is called love, honor and respect. Don’t believe this can happen? Check the nursing homes filled with, old and alone people. Who likewise, drunk the Kool-Aid, and considered children as a hindrance and a curse. Yes, selfishness is hard to overcome.
A Holy Lover never ceases in his pursuit of holiness, sainthood, and perfection!
Your wife and children, will follow your lead. They will do what you do, act how you act, be what you be.
If you are the best moral example of yourself (which by the way, is the duty of every man on the planet) your Beloved will follow suit. Your children will follow suit.
If you don’t seek perfection and holiness, you will become aloof. Your marriage will suffer. And you will become just another average man, meant for greatness. But somehow, got distracted, and became less than his potential.
Do you want to be responsible, for the downfall of your marriage?
A Holy Lover reads, understands, and applies Ephesians 5 (21-33) in service of his Beloved and the Father.
These verses, are your roadmap to greatness. This comes direct from the Word. View my article on (Ephesians 5) to get a greater understanding.
But in short, St. Paul is asking us to submit to Christ, and as long as we do this, our wives must submit to us. As husbands we must do as Christ did for his bride the Church; die a little each day, in service of our Beloved, and the Father.
A Holy Lover understands sexual purity and chastity.
Sexual purity (masturbation, sex outside marriage, homosexuality, infidelity, pornography) each of these acts of selfishness, emasculates you, fosters effeminacy, and steals your masculinity away.
Controlling your sexual urges, fosters maturity, holiness, and manliness. This suffering, and being able to battle it, strengthens you, and purifies your inner-self. In like manner, suffering draws you closer to the Father as you mimic Christ, and his sacrifices.
You want to be great? Or you want to stay soft, weak, and effeminate? Become magnificent. Understand chastity!
Many husbands don’t have the staying power, the perseverance, the courage to become a Holy Lover. However, I believe most do. We just need direction and awareness that we do have a problem or potential problem.
My goal for you, is to place your marriage on a maintenance plan. To cheerfully bestow upon your Beloved, the gifts of a Holy Lover.
Over time, add new gifts as you become comfortable with the previous. I will not lie. This work is difficult and complicated. But if you love your wife, are devoted, and desire to be True Man. You can become the ultimate; Holy Lover.
The categories; Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; and Lovemaking Mastery; can’t be neglected for one over the other. As you’ve seen in this article, each works off of and compliments, the other. Neglect one, and you might as well neglect them all.
Are you willing to put in the work? Are you the man for the mission? Can you become the husband, the Father is calling you to be?
Can you become a Holy Lover? Become something greater than your current self?
She’s waiting on you. Your Beloved, the mother of your children. Your helpmate, your battle partner! She’s waiting on you, to rescue her; from you. Once you chisel the rough edges from yourself; this will encourage her to become the wife you need her to be.
Finally, again, I ask you to instill passion; instill splendor; inspire holiness. Refuse to fail; become a Holy Lover.
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- You have been challenged with a great task; to become A Holy Lover.
- You learned what is needed to get you on the path to becoming the man God is calling you to be.
- As well as, how to become the husband your wife needs.
- You've also learned how men have been robbed of their masculinity, and how we need it to help us be True Man.
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- We'll discuss the one thing that has been stripped from most men in this country.
- Also we'll speak on the phenomenon of why women crave True Masculinity.