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How I Saved My Christian Marriage!

And Became A World-Class Lover For My Beloved! (Part 2)

Marriage Unchained

The Journey Of A Lifetime

Love  to be real, it must cost—it must hurt—it must empty us of self."

~ St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta~Catholic Nun
 

My Christian Marriage

I love being married. Nothing on this earth compares to loving and serving my wife; having and raising my babies; the joy of our journey together towards God.
 
Marriage is my life. For 30 years this has proven true. I’d like to hope, I’ve learned plenty over the years, more lessons then I can ever recount.
 
The lessons I’ve learned are sound, involved at first, but they get the job done in the end: Peace.

 

Lessons: Come Slow; Hard; And With Plenty Of Pain

My Trial

My first dreams of marriage didn’t go well. In fact, it’s a teaching moment that forever lingers. I am ending my high school career as a senior, and near graduation.
 
My girlfriend and I, are in our third year of dating on and off. Plus, we’re having sex throughout our relationship. She cared for me and I cared about her. The just of it is, she is pregnant. Before she told me, I enlisted into the military, but scheduled to leave after graduation.
 
One day, I went to her house, and we talked. Following that, for some reason we started to argue. For the life of me, I can’t remember anything concerning the argument.
 
 In turn, I got mad and left. We didn’t speak for a long while. The next occasion, is when she birthed our baby.

Crossroads: Test Of Character

If my memory is correct, the last few months of her pregnancy, I’m in basic training and technical school. My first chance, I asked for time off. I’m given permission, and I start home.

 
During this journey, I realize I’m at a crossroads in my life. Even at the age of 18. The main question I’m considering; do I ask her to marry me? And if I do, will she accept?
 
I arrived home, and as my plane touched the ground, I decided to ask her.
 
So, I set out to prepare to propose to a woman I recognize is angry with me. To admit, as I look back, I cared for her and I sensed, she still cared for me. Although, I was a bonehead.

The Drive

Once I made my decision, I kept to myself. I went out and purchased a ring, and set out planning a time to meet her.
 
I asked my Pops for a ride, and still remember the day, in the car, as he drove me over in the rain (pouring). I’m still confused on what to do, and I needed to talk with someone. Hence, I told my father of my plans.
 
I laid out my anguish. And as I finished, my father got quiet for what seemed hours. When he spoke, I focused. I have no idea what’s coming. So, I tried to prepare myself for anything.
 
Remember, the ring is in my pocket and I’m ready to present the token this evening.
 
 My father told me, in as nice, and stern of a voice as possible. I shouldn’t marry her, just because of the baby.
 
Next, I showed him the ring. I don’t remember how the conversation progressed after the ring. But, I do remember confusion.
 

Looking Back, In My Opinion, I Failed The Test

I’m 18, and in my mind, what’s best is to marry my girlfriend and keep our family together. Instead, my father is telling me; this is a bad decision.
 
I didn’t know what to do. In the end, I didn’t ask her. In hindsight, looking back, I should have.
 
I don’t blame my father and never have. I need to remember, he is my father, and he loved me. He gave me the advice he judged best. The end result, the decision is mine; not his.
 
I’m 18, and I placed both of us in this position. More and more over the years, I regret the relationship between the three of us. I wish  things were different.

Preventative Maintenance

The lesson here, fathers we must form our sons minds from the time they’re able to talk. In effect, discouraging my behavior of having sex in high school before marriage.
 
And, I don’t mean teaching them contraception. I’m referring to chastity; purity. The most dramatic, hammering it in their minds over 18 years.
 
Terrible parents proclaim, but we have to because they are going to have sex anyway. This is not true. How many children do you know that have been instructed in sex education? As well as how to use condoms and other types of contraception?

Side Note: Analyze This

Now, how many young girls are you familiar with that have babies or report to the abortion clinic. My point? Man, the stuff doesn't work. And many don't use it right anyway. More important, even if they do, they still get pregnant! And, the proof is out there, staring us in the face. High pregnancy rate; high abortion rate.
 
Another secret? The people in the government, and the population control folks realize this fact as well. These people in truth, want you (especially if you are poor) to advise your sons to abort their babies.
 
Teaching your son how to respect, and treat women with dignity, along with abstinence solves all problems (abortion, disease, pregnancy, psychological and emotional problems).
 
Consider yourself, and how screwed up you are from having unwed sex. I realize for a fact, sex outside of marriage screwed me up.
 
The key, you must teach them often and early. I promise they will listen. I have three children that made it past high school without birthing children. But, you must form their minds to persevere.

Back On Track

Continuing, this way we don’t put ourselves, and our sons in an impossible situation. A situation, of having to make a life changing decision at the tender age of 18.
 
 I should’ve been honorable enough to complete the union with his mother. But I didn’t, and I’ve learned, bad decisions never leave.
 
 As a matter of fact, they shouldn’t. So the person endures pain when committing the same action in the future.
 
I hope over the years my girlfriend and son have forgiven me. I guess, I should forgive myself first. Experience is a remarkable teacher. It gives us power, and strength to counsel someone else that can benefit from our past mistakes. 

If We Love Them And Care For Them, We Must Judge Them, How Else Will They Know?

[pullquote]If We Love Them And Care For Them, We Must Judge Them, How Else Will They Know?[/pullquote]

Some of you may suggest, I’m being too hard on myself. Besides, I’m 18 and young. In fact, I understand what you mean.
 
And yet, today we always have someone telling us the sinful things we do are ok. Because, we had a good reason (in our own mind) for doing them.
 
Further, another acknowledges, “Don’t worry so and so did something worse than you.”
 
Even so, this sort of statement is just an excuse. A rationalization, to help us feel better concerning our own self-indulgences.
 
I maintain, showing exemplary virtue is owning up to our wrong doings. Better yet, moving to avoid the same mistakes in the future.
 
In our society today, everyone has an excuse for why they did or didn’t do something of good and moral character.
 
As an example, consider how our children are reacting to our lack of virtue. And, the examples we as parents are setting for them (selfishness, teenage pregnancy, drugs and severe emotional problems).
 
We need our parents, friends, leaders and our so called mental health professionals to stand in front of the camera. And above all, tell us the truth. Not just once, but today and every day if necessary.
 
Rise up and proclaim, “ We have no excuse for the crap we do.”  Not to give us some psychological mumbo jumbo excuse of why our transgressions are acceptable.
 
In fact, we have to be willing to lose our most valued friendships in order to accomplish this. If not for the ones we proclaim we love, but for the moral and emotional well- being of our children. Hey, kids do what we as adults do (not what we say).
 
We need to be judged, not condemned. Only The Father can admonish the soul. At present, judging is for the human. Condemning is for the Devine.

A Brother Doing Wrong: Approach With Humility

We are our brothers’ keeper. In addition, we’re charged with letting our friends and family members know when they are doing wrong.
 
In short, as men we are tasked to judge right and wrong actions. This is a top job of ours. There is no question, as the men go; so goes the society.
 
In the Holy Bible (Matthew, chapter 18 verse 15-17) we’re given specific instructions on how to guide the people in our lives to the right path.
 
 

As men, we are charged to protect, defend, and serve, this land The Father has entrusted to us.

Are we serving our brother if we fail to guide him?

Matthew, Chapter 18, Verse 15-17)

As a result of failing tests of morality and virtue. The verse in a nutshell, tells us the steps, should go ahead in this way:
For your Christian Marriage, will you endure the sufferings of Jesus Christ, as his hands are nailed to the cross, while his Blessed Mother Mary stares on?
Are You Willing To Forgo Self; And Suffer, And Sacrifice For Your Beloved; Your Christian Marriage?
 
  • If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.
  • If he listens to you, you have won over your brother.
  • If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, so that every fact may be established on the testimony of two or three witnesses.
  • If he refuses to listen to them, tell the Church.
  • If he refuses to listen even to the Church, then treat him as you would a Gentile or tax collector.

For This To Sink In: Rinse And Repeat

Have you ever considered, how in Church The Word Of God is reiterated and repeated? As a matter of fact, the same Sacred Scriptures are read again and again throughout the years.
 
To peak, we the faithful, are told to read the The Word throughout our entire lives.
 
I used to wonder why The Church did this. It would seem that we’d get it after one or two times? But we don’t.
 
Repeating of Sacred Scripture is done, because good and moral behavior must be reinforced forever (if not then evil will). We can’t stop, because soon the people will revert to their own indulgences.
 
Look around, it’s obvious. The consequences of letting people do exactly what they want is apparent in society.
 
For instance, the lessons we teach our kids. We as parents must tell them to brush their teeth, clean their room or don’t hit your brother.
 
In fact blurting the same instructions, in repeated fashion, until learned. But, once they get the lesson the child still slips, and then what do we do? We punish them, and reinforce the correct behavior. In turn, restarting the cycle.
 
See in essence, each of us are still children. And, if that’s the case, we must be reminded what the correct behavior must entail.
 
Not because we’re ignorant or dumb, but because the human mind needs conditioning. Otherwise, reverting to its earlier conduct.
 
Remember, you get what you reinforce.
 
Sure, this continuous reinforcement is difficult and cumbersome, but who bargained, being a parent or clergy was going to be easy? [pullquote]In the end, we must remember; only through sacrifice comes greatness.[/pullquote]

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My First

There is no place for selfishness—and no place for fear! Do not be afraid, then, when love makes demands. Do not be afraid when love requires sacrifice"
 
~St. Pope John Paul II
 
 
I met my first wife at a college dance in Portales, New Mexico, on the campus of Eastern New Mexico State, while in the U.S. Air force.
 
She loved to shake her booty. We danced that night, for four hours straight. The connection happened with little conversation.
 
Over the next year, we moved in together (huge mistake!). I would later find out, cohabitation is primary to our marriage problems.
 
After a year and a half, I received orders requiring me to report to Anderson, AFB in Guam. If you’re unfamiliar with Guam. It’s a U.S. Territory, and is in the Pacific Ocean not far from Hawaii and Australia.

Man Up or Man Out!

As a young 19 or 20 or year old, I’m faced with an enormous decision (again!) Do I marry her?
 
Now, I could write another whole post or even 10 posts on this subject alone.
As we sat in the car (raining buckets) and, salty tears trickling onto the front of her blouse. I told her, we shouldn’t get married.
 
I expressed to her, it’s too soon. Although, this is what I blurted aloud. It’s not my inner most emotion. In other words,  marriage should be my course.
 
For example, I deemed since we lived together, and I’d stolen her dignity in the process, by sleeping with her for over a year. I should honor her, by asking for her hand.
 
I didn’t, and feared in my heart, it was wrong. But, society in its selfish, twisted morality, ingrained in me different tales, my entire life.
 
And I fell for it, hard and fast. Why? Because it was a lot easier. It’s easy being selfish, but difficult to sacrifice.
 
For example, philosophies such as, because you live with someone, doesn’t mean you have to marry them. Or, I didn’t twist her arm, she understood the situation.
 
Bull! Nothing but excuses, nothing but the ego talking. In essence giving me full permission to pursue long and strong, what I wanted.

Sometimes When You Are Dumb God Has Mercy

Just so happens, before shipping overseas, I needed to attend training in Shreveport, LA.
 
This ended up being the exact pause I needed. Starting with the time to ponder, and kick the demon off my left shoulder, and embrace the angel on my right.
 
I began listening to Christ’s input (although, at the time, I had no relationship with him). During my time in training, I realized I missed her; needed her; I’m an idiot.
 
So, me being me, I sent for her to visit me in Louisiana. From this point, I proposed to her, and we married a few months later (Yep, Justice Of The Peace, man, another bad move!)

We’re Young, We’re Crazy: Chaos

This is what happens when you’re young, and no one approves of your marriage. This happens when you don’t get married in the Church. This happens when you are ignorant of God, and everyone else around you, is ignorant as well.
 
A popular saying states, “Love Is All You Need!” Hogwash! You need a mentor, you need experience, you need money, and above all you better have Christ in there somewhere.
 
It’s easy to admit now, but back then (not so much). We we’re lost, and didn’t understand otherwise.
 
I loved my wife and she loved me. But during a temporary assignment, I strayed (yep like I said, young and dumb. Dang, another bad move!)
 
Although our marriage was tough, the three years spent in Guam made us closer (as we boarded the plane to leave).
 
Why? Because during  the span on Guam, although we had problems; all we had was each other (including our newborn son). This alone, breeds closeness and dependence for each other.
 
Our second son is born, while stationed in Fort Worth, Texas. A few years after, my enlistment is terminating. And, I made the most devastating move in our marriage.
 
Instead of moving back to New Mexico where my wife is from. We decided (well, I encouraged her) to move to Indianapolis, where I’m from. Huge mistake; catastrophic mistake; just plain stupid.

Never Do This…

 
This is what you do when you don’t have people in your life giving sound advice.
 
Now, reminiscing,  the smart move; best move; most intelligent move; is New Mexico. But noooooo! I move my wife, who hasn’t been home in almost eight years, over one thousand miles away to Indiana.
 
So, let’s ponder this together (you and me). Her mom and dad are in New Mexico. Her sisters and brothers are in New Mexico. Her grandparents and cousins: Yep, all in New Mexico.
 
So, what do I do? I take her to a place where she hasn’t any relationships. And to top it off, I‘m working 10-12 hours a day.
 
She abandoned my butt, two or three times during the next few years.
 
She’d run back home to her mom. I’d call and convince her to come back. She’d run home again. I’d call and get her to come back, again. The cycle repeats. Chaos, total chaos.

Dancing Around In The Dark

 
I admit, many events are working against us. But two blessing we had; our two boys. Even though there’s turmoil in our lives, we’re committed. And, the boys are happy and flourishing. Thank God!
 
This proves what I always rally from the tops of every mountain: “Kids want nothing, but their mommy and daddy in the same house, married and going to Church.” That’s it. Really,  plain; simple.
 
Selfish divorce will damage your children. They will wander through life, broken. The unspoken truth? Divorce is for the self-centered; not the innocent, now motherless, fatherless, children.

She Was Only 35

 The only thing I remember myself thundering, “My boys don’t have a mother.”
[pullquote]The only thing I remember myself thundering, “My boys don’t have a mother.” I couldn’t get the phrase out of my mind.[/pullquote] It seemed one day she’s here, and the next, the three of us are standing at a hole with desert dust blowing around us.
 
As they lowered the casket, we hugged each other. Leukemia is an unforgiving predator. 
 
I don’t speak of this much. The reason being, at the time, I wanted specific attention on the boys. In truth, my wife’s death didn’t hit me, until a year or two later. Yep, young, crazy, chaos: Love.

My Second: First Love, Old Love, New Love

When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her.
 
The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her.
 
The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.
 

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen, Life Is Worth Living

 

So Many Skeletons: Can We Recover?

Before my new wife and I were to get married. The hurdles we needed to overcome almost drowned us. (Understand the tough questions you as a man should be asking yourself. View the first article in this series here.)
 
Honestly, unlike many people today, we falsely assumed, we could continue to do what we want, when we want, to whom we want.
 
And never have to suffer any consequences to us, our family, not to mention the people in our environment.
 
And what about, the poor example we're setting for children, men and women alike.
 
Yes, total and complete selfishness and focus on self. In the end, as I realized, this could only end in chaos.
 
As evil, and sin never stop attacking! Once you indulge and wallow in evil, it only consumes you more with temptation, misery, and manipulation. 
 
So much so, that you as a broken human person don't even realize your own misery, and the deep sadness within your soul.
 
 
No matter how we rationalize it. No matter how many friends, family, and comrades try to say or suggest the opposite. We're charged as human beings to portray the best version of ourselves. 
 
More important, to set the best example of ourselves for our children, and the children of society.
 
Wow! big responsibility huh?
 
Good, because you need a challenge.
 
 
Below, I've listed many things that contributed to the toxicity, and pollution of our Christian Marriage.
 
Some are from before we even decided to meet, date, and consider marriage.
 
Please in all seriousness, focus and analyze the points listed.
 
Do any of them sound familiar?
 
If you have experienced any of these or are suffering from them now? Wouldn't you like to understand how to deal with, and remove them from you, and your Beloved's relationship?
 
Sure you would. Read on, and learn from my many mistakes and challenges.

A Toxic Past Breeds A Toxic Beginning

Divorced Parents On Both Sides

  • So no close exemplary examples of how a Christian Marriage should be.
  • No role models to help guide us.

Marrying To Soon After The Death Of My First Wife

The Challenge Of Unifying Two Familes

My wife living with her daughters father off and on for 10 years and how it ruined her psychologically

Premarital Sex (Part 1)

  • Both of us having premarital sex over the years with each other and multiple partners, before our wedding.
  • We were both ignorant to the fact, of how this creates false bonds.
  • As well as, layers and layers of skeletons built up.
  • Making it difficult for a long lasting marital bonding!

Premarital Sex (Part 2)

  • Our marriage suffered (sexually, emotionally, and spiritually).
  • Because premarital sex raises unseen defenses in a marriage.
  • These defenses affect trust and vulnerability. 
  • Which in turn makes almost impossible to have a Holy, great, and remarkable Christian Marriage

Contraception

  • My Wife's Birth Control: pills, shots, diaphragms
  • The first two explode her risk of cancer!
  • These also kill the marital act! (again, trust and vulnerability)
  • Which prevents the total gift of self to her Beloved!

Serious Money And Debt Problems

Understanding How To Parent Young Children After Losing Their Mother To Cancer.

Mixed Marriage

  • She is Catholic and I am a heathen.
  • Christian Marriage's are hard enough when both are of the same faith.
  • Different beliefs multiply problems very fast and with extreme intensity.

And Lastly, No God, No Christ, No Holy Spirit; Involved Anywhere In Our Family.

  • Which means; no grace
  • Wow! Were we in the dark or what?

Not To Mention, All The Other Crap We Don't Realize.

Our Odds Of Success?

There Isn't A Number For Odds That Low!

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Turning Our Backs On God
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No Fault Divorce
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Fatherless Homes

Doomed For Failure?

 
Despite the odds, our journey is better than a movie or fairy tale. Question: Is God involved when you marry the person you meet at a day camp at 12 years old? The answer: Sure he is!
 
So many events needed to align, for my wife and me to come together. High school, the military, a marriage, 3 children, and a chance encounter.
 
I hadn’t seen my wife for many years. Until, one day I needed something from Radio Shack. As I trotted through the mall, a familiar face popped in front of me. We hugged, kissed, and decided to get together at a small gathering, hosted by my sister later that evening.
 
After a myriad of years, my wife still claims this outing was a date. And I still fight that it was two friends hanging out at my sister’s house. See how women think (always a step or two ahead).
 
Later on, I picked her up. At the onset, we spent countless hours talking about our childhood, and the various doings we’ve experienced over the years.
 
Over the next two years we became best friends. I decided not to pussy foot around, and I asked her to marry me.
 
Wow, for the second time in my life, I’m going to be a married man!

Not Going To Screw This Up! ( I hope)

 
In some ways, my second marriage incurred more difficulties than my first.
 
Although, our marriage is solid, we still experienced the challenges of bringing two families together.
 
Then came our last two sons. They arrived 14 months apart. This concluded anymore additions to our family. We’re blessed with four boys and one girl and my Queen’s approaching 40 years old.
 
Without question our marriage is strong. But, there’s still something missing.
Likewise, there’s always matters going wrong in our family. I don’t mean small irritating things, but, huge difference makers.
 
One concern I can speak on, is we’re married a year or two, and we decided to chance foster parenting (towering mistake). A case in point, we’re a new family with sizable issues (money, losing a job, death) naming a few.
 
When you decide to become a foster family, you not only take on many new children. As well as, inheriting every problem and skeleton the child has.
 
In addition too, dealing with their parents. This took a large toll on our young family and caused unspeakable problems.

I See The Wall: It’s Cluttered With Graffiti

 
The strain is unbearable. I can see several of the same experiences from my first marriage.
 
So, what do I do? I ask the same old dumb questions, people ask when they don’t have a relationship with Christ. In effect, as chaos surrounds them on all sides.
 
“Why is this happening?”
 
 “No matter what I do, I’m unable to fix it?”
 
“Conditions are coming too fast!”
 
The next event killed it. While coaching at a football game, I jumped in the air and tore my right Achilles tendon.
 
My job is physical. And, I’m unable to work for a year (no savings, no other source of income, dumb, dumb, dumb!)
 
Ok, so how many bad moves are we up to (I lost count?)
 
In the meantime, our marriage persevered. My wife is  a real trooper, but for how long. I worried; I may lose her; lose my family.

Marriage Takes Three!

It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.
 
~ Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen
 
For years I shunned this responsibility. I judged, I don’t need help. I mistakenly maintained, I’m able to do anything on my own, if I work hard enough.
 
In particular, my marriage. I was stupid. I didn’t know any better.
 
I held, if I gave my heart, soul and energy to my marriage (family) they would prosper and flourish. The theory’s fine, but can only take you so far.
 
Even though I realize my marriage is the most important relationship on this earth. It never dawned on me Holy Matrimony takes three. Three, you ask? Yes my friend, the Grace of God.

The Faith

 
My wife is 4th generation Catholic. I’m zero generation Catholic (ha, ha).
 
One fascinating point, I am now involved in raising a fifth generation. Bam! How sweet is that?
 
Furthermore, before my marriage the lone Catholic I’d heard of: John F. Kennedy.
 
Growing up, confusion is rampant concerning religion. My father’s side is Jehovah’s Witness.
 
My mom’s side, I’ve been told they were once Catholic, but somehow in the confusion, became Presbyterian. I’m not sure why?
 
Which left my parents. In retrospect, we didn’t go to Church. However we attended for a short while in my early teenage years.
 
Somehow, my mom and dad got lost in the “We don’t need Christ crowd.”
 
In short, my sister and I are launched out into the world without any protection. She and I are sheep in a den of wolves. As a result, society ate us up.
 
So, now I’m no better than countless kids growing up in the country (then and now). I’m lost, picking my way through a dense forest in the dark. I have no formation or understanding of God or Christ.
 
To this end, my philosophy is, “Don’t talk to me about God, don’t mention religion, I don’t want to examine myself. Leave me alone!”

Like That First Hit!

 
Little did I understand, the absence of Christ in my life, along with the absence of His Grace, is the reason for the emptiness.
 
In fact, a big, deep, huge hole lives right smack dab in the middle of my gut. And, no matter what I tried to fill it with (money, sports, television, video games, food, work, friends, shopping) nothing.
 
See, the items above are temporary fixes (nothing permanent). The outcome, the emptiness remained.
 
You know, it’s like chasing that first hit (cocaine, heroin, crack, alcohol, caffeine, nicotine). The first high is always the best high. But, no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to recapture it, once gone.
 
So, you chase it. Stalking it at every turn; always in actuality; out of your reach. In the end, never attaining what once was sweet, whole and near perfect. 
 
In essence, giving you nothing but depression, hopelessness and anxiety.
Everything that these things presume to give, they also snatch away.
 
Again, as I said above, those things are temporary a quick fix. Stuff that never pans out or amounts to anything of real substance.
 
In contrast, today I can announce, with my will to commit and perseverance, the Father has filled the hole in my gut.
 
And, my friend, He isn’t snatching it away!

Back On Track

 
Again, my marriage is strong (so I believed) but I viewed the future, and the future looked bleak indeed.
 
To add to that, how many more bullets, grenades or bombshells can it handle?  In my experience, and knowledge of other peoples marriages, not many. 

Is God A Crutch?

 
There’s a theory circling around in today’s society, that Christians use God as a crutch. I affirm, “You better believe I do."
 
”What?”
 
“Would you rather I lean on you?”
 
Before buying into Christ, I’m goalless, aimless and lost. My marriage is short on Grace. My family; on a boat sailing from island to island looking for a home. I suspect this is how most marriages and many Christian Marriages are today.
 
For example, here’s the mind game evil is playing with parents today. Evil has placed a veil over their eyes. This veil prevents them from understanding they’re lost and broken. The veil blocks them from beholding the truth.
 
In short, Satan has pulled a mystical maneuver. He’s convinced men in the world that evil has no face. And if evil has no face, then Satan doesn’t exist.
 
Furthermore, evil is random; has no real purpose; no actual target. So, when the towers fell on 9/11, no one suspected the real reason.
 
The real truth behind this allowance of evil? A country that has never in its history been attacked inside its borders. In other words, a country built entirely on the principles of the teachings of Christ has over the course of 100 years, slowly began to TURN ITS BACK ON GOD!
 
What a scam Satan’s pulled off. (Abortion, so called same sex marriage, contraception, pornography, divorce, the pinpoint destruction of the family).
 
Brother, this country is Graceless, faithless and in serious peril! God doesn’t cause evil or punish with evil or even create evil. Free will does!
 
I’ve learned, God loves us so much that he will never force himself upon us. Coming to him and loving him has to be a free choice given.
 
You must open yourself up to the gift of Christianity, the gift of faith, in order to perceive the truth.
 
I am so glad no veil crosses my eyes.

What's Coming Next?

In Part Three Of How I Saved My Christian Marriage:

  • Understand what The Father truly wishes for your Christian Marriage, as well as your marital intimacy.
  • Benefit from my over five years of research: The truth about Christian Marriage and sex.
  • Learn the true meaning of Christian Marriage, and The Father's reason for creating it.
  • Learn why on each occasion we make love it's a joyous renewal of our marital vows.
  • Learn why your Beloved wife may be bored with you and the marital embrace.
  • Understand why your failing to give your Beloved multiple orgasms, can cause her to feel unloved, sexually unfulfilled and insecure in your Holy Union.
  • Learn how you can create a Holy Marriage full of uninhibited grace.
  • And Much More!

About Jerry Jacobs Jr.

CatholicAlpha.com is about saving YOUR marriage (plain and simple!) By compelling YOU to become a Holy Lover (The husband your wife needs; The man God created you to be)

This is done through the teachings of the Catholic Church (Christ's Church). Learn what your father failed to teach YOU about (Prayer Warfare, The Art Of Manliness, and Making Love Mastery!)

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Hasn't YOUR Beloved waiting long enough for her HERO to return?

Jerry attends Our Lady Of The Most Holy Rosary Parish in the Archdiocese of Indianapolis. He and his virtuous wife, Mary Kathleen are facilitators of the Adult Faith Formation ministry in their parish.

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