How To Save A Failing Marriage?

Confession hurts! I too shunned it. But we must ask the question, “How can you lead and instruct your family, with sin, pain, shame, and guilt, on your mind and heart?”

Further, how can you tell your children not to have sex, not to ingest drugs; Not to kill, rape, or maim, when you have done similar?

The answer is; You can’t!

This way of thinking has infected society. In fact, millions of parents refuse to correct their children on anything of significance.

Why? Because in their past, they’ve taken cocaine, shacked up for sex, or worst, aborted a baby in the womb (for example).  

So, what do they do when their children step out of bounds? They rationalize, “Well I did it! How can I come down hard on them when I did the same thing when I was young?”

In fact, I’ve heard this statement flow from my own mothers lips.

Then what happens next, the parents refuse to admonish them. Or they correct them and try to persuade otherwise. But the correcting parent senses, his pleas have no weight, because of past guilt.

It’s uncanny, the father is right. He’s accurate because, he’s forgotten or refused his faith.

You see, parents in this predicament refuse to seek the only forgiveness that really matters. The lone forgiveness that relieves the weight; the pain, from their shoulders.

For this reason, God has given us the sacrament of Confession.

Understand, guilt is powerful. Shame is powerful. Fear is powerful. Moreover, the Evil One feeds off these principles.

He encourages you to reject Confession. To allow the immorality and lack of virtue, to cloud your heart and intellect. We then become numb to sin, and to the effects of the diabolical.

Moreover, evil infiltrates our marriage and family. The doorway? Husbands!

In a more practical sense, when we neglect Confession, we become weak. We become unable to fight the battle for our families.

Satan realizes, the quickest entry into the home, hearts, and minds of a family, is to get rid of the man. Once the protector is subdued; everyone else is putty.

In short, morality shouldn’t only be considered in times of comfort. To the contrary, virtue and morality, tests a man; when times are tough. It’s called character.

Men are just that; human. We’re imperfect (although called to seek perfection by Christ) this takes time.

As a result, we will make mistakes, commit sin, wrong others. But the remarkable thing? God understands this. He knows we will commit immorality. And once done, we’ll need an avenue to remove the guilt and shame, from our souls.

And yet, Confession gives us a new start. It consoles, “My son, you are forgiven.”

“Now go out and try again.”

“Instruct your children, without the shame of your past deeds.”

“Gain strength through Me, to lead your marriage, wife, and family to holiness.”

“Be a man, not just for yourself, but for Me!”

Understand, nothing you do (prayer, good works, sacrifice, suffering) merits any good in the eyes of God, if your soul is in mortal sin.

Do not listen to the world! Do not listen to the Judas Iscariot’s in the Church (Who try to deny and comfort you, to the untruth of this teaching.) They are being influenced by the diabolical.

To be clear, they are cowards, who place their comfort and feelings above you (their brother, and God).

Again, Confession will hurt! It’s why it’s called sacrifice and suffering. You must embrace this, for the benefit of your marriage.

During times such as these, you cannot consider your feelings. As your feelings, will encourage you to forgo this great grace.

Above all else, you must fight this inner battle! And you must win!

Sure, in this realm, Satan has the advantage. But you have Christ; lean on Him!

You must defend and protect your family. And the only way you can accomplish this feat, is to sacrifice your pride and ego.

Next, find the nearest priest; remove the shame, guilt, and offense of the Father, from your heart.

Then and only then, can you do an adequate job of defense, protection, and service!