How to save your marriage when your wife has given up...10 Tips to become a man of sacrifice and ignite her love!

Today is gift 19...

Which states: A Holy Lover Rejects Selfishness In All Areas Of His Live More Important His Marriage!

So, now we are going to go into the action steps to help you defeat selfishness and become a man of sacrifice...

Which will ignite the fire, desire, devotion, and passion from your beloved wife!

We will cover the first 5 today...and the second 5 tomorrow!

Sacrifice One: A Husband’s Natural Order Of Service

First off in order to defeat selfishness in marriage and remove Satan from in between you are your beloved you must at all cost understand the order of service that will apply to all areas of your life...

This train of thought will serve you well...

And that thought is...

You never ever consider your wants, desires, and needs, above that of...

God first, your wife and marriage second, your kids third, and yourself last

This is the priority of problem solving in your life.

When it comes to the order of importance of things and problems in your life...

If it harms your relationship with God, you don’t do it.

If it has the possibility of harming your relationship with your wife, you don’t do it.

If it has the potential of hurting your relationship with your children, you don’t do it!

Again, this priority of service will serve you well!

Sacrifice Two: Prayer

Prayer is sacrifice

Prayer is hard, difficult, and a real challenge to make a habit.

This is why the real meaning of love according to the Catholic Church is willing the good of another.

This not how you feel about someone, but how strong your will is for their betterment their holiness.

Feelings will abandon you.

Sacrifice Three: Confession

Confession Hurts!

This is why we can’t rely on our feelings, because we’d never go to confession.

You must frequent confession or you’ll feel guilty about instructing your children on how to deal with evil.

At least once a month.

God instruct priests to perform this task.

[Quote] Love to be real, it must cost-it must hurt-it must empty us of self! [End Quote] St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta

This quote pretty much says it all.

Again, I refer to Ephesians 5 (25-27)

“(25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and handed himself over for her.

(26) To sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word,

(27) That he might present to himself the Church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish..”

God has given you the power and grace to affect the purity of you Beloved’s soul!

Your suffering has meaning!

You must embrace your masculinity, your headship of the home. Without that no of this works! Remember the natural order!

Sacrifice Ten: Christ teach me to serve her!

This one is huge because it demands courage from you. Courage to seek the truth; to look in the mirror at yourself; to seek criticism.

I know the truth hurts; but you must embrace it if your marriage is to become legendary; become great; journey closer to God!

Again, you must be willing to suffer for her; If you don’t who will?

But, this is unlike Christ. He volunteered to suffer.

Why?

Because it was His duty; His mission; His complete love (remember, not a feeling, but an act of His will) for us.

But more important; This is just what men do (courage)!

We must understand what our wife needs (not wants) then do our best to give it to her!

Part of our job as men is to serve! So we don’t become complacent, lazy and forget our mission!

We must move to squash problems immediately (don’t procrastinate)

Ask these questions of yourself or your wife often if not daily to keep yourself on your toes:

How do I sacrifice for her?

Am I lofting anything above our relationship?

Am I seeing to her needs?

Am I putting her needs above everyone else’s including my own?

Am I making her feel she is the most important person in my life.

Why am I her servant, how and why do I serve her?

Bringing It All Together...

To answer the question, how to save a failing marriage?

Men must start doing things because of duty; not because of how it feels to us.

Suffering for the benefit of another, is courageous; heroic. Moreover, what men are called to do by God.

Of course, society (The Evil One) will steer you towards selfishness, and pleasure, above all other things.

Why does Satan do this? Because, if he can get you to remain effeminate, emasculated, weak and soft, it’s a lot easier to claim your soul. But more drastic, the souls of your wife and children!

Again, men must begin to train their intellects, and wills to endure as Christ did. Otherwise, we are just plain men; nothing special; nothing worthwhile; just another chicken in the coop.

Further, awaiting our next form of manipulation from our electronic device, or television program, or government directive.

Is this really how you want to live your life?

Going along to get along? Void of courage, because you are unwilling to make others uncomfortable, or sacrifice for the truth of God?

Again, in this article I ask; if you aren’t willing to suffer; sacrifice; or give your life away for your Beloved; who on this earth will?

Who will take responsibility, and care for her soul, in this abyss of chaos?

To repeat, as with Adam, God has charged you as the keeper of this realm.

The question is, how will you respond?

With courage or cowardice?

BAM!
TRANSITION