How to save your marriage when your wife has given up...

Holy Lover Gift #17...which states...

A Holy Lover wins the heart of his beloved daily

We say we love our wives more than anything in the world when we marry them.

We make the unsaid promise of...

I will love you forever...

I will make you feel special every day...

You will always be the #1 priority in my life...

I will give you the world!

I will make you the happiest woman in the world!

But then over the years, we slowly but surely begin a habit of breaking that promise don’t we?

Then when she becomes unhappy and unfulfilled, and ask for space...

We then desperately try our best to regain the passion, fire, and the emotional closeness that has but all faded.

Or we participate in the madness and begin the blame game of...

Well if you showed more desire for me then I would show more for you.

If you respected me more, I would give you more attention.

You know the game by now and how it works.

And that criticize and blame game never works.

And only causes more conflict and resentment.

So, how do we stop this from happening.

Well what we do is we don’t let it happen in the first place.

Why should you win the heart of your Beloved daily?

Because if you don’t, you will eventually lose her love and the all important emotional connection she needs to stay with you!

Why do men lose the fire and passion for their beloved?

Many men have this unconscious...we have conquered them thing going on.

And once we have her, we naturally look for the next problem to solve. We stop serving her and praying for her and giving our life away for her.

And we begin treating her like she is a partner and not our Beloved who we deep down love completely but have forgotten over the pull of the daily grind

Why does a wife lose the fire and desire for her husband?

Simple, because her husband has lost the excitement, and passion for her.

Husbands are the leader and women wait around for the leader to be present.

Excitement and passion are contagious.

You want passion, excitement, fire, and desire...Try giving some consistently and you will see the change!

Why is emotional closeness so important for wives?

Because women are nurturers.

They are emotional in order to bond with their children. They nurture them and they nurture you.

The emotional connection is important because it gives her purpose a feeling of fulfillment...

That she is totally and completely loved by someone and that someone is you her beloved husband.

Without it, she sees no purpose in being near her husband, making love to him, or even doing things together or talking to him.

As husbands, we must never allow the emotional closeness to vacate our marriage through laziness, neglect, anger, or frustration or selfishness

How do you win the heart of your beloved daily?

Our man radar is always up we watch how she moves, how she talks, her body language, if she is sick, if she is happy, her moods.

Then we ask questions of why is she like this, is she ok, what can I do to help.

We show appreciation daily

We never ever take her or our marriage for granted

We protect her

We serve her

We do the little things that show we care even though we don’t have to.

We make her feel secure in our love, and never take that love for granted

You continuously learn everything possible about her

You always tell what you are thinking no matter how trivial or terrible

You involve her in your life by telling her specific details about your day

You make love to her outside the bedroom

We make her feel secure

We are forever curious about her

We always place her needs, wants, and desires before our own.

We listen to her daily without interruption and if we do interrupt it is only for clarification on a point she has made

We place her needs, desires, and wants first and foremost inside the bedroom by understanding what she needs as a woman to feel completely and totally fulfilled sexually

Inside the bedroom we leave or ego at the door! We solve marriage problems immediately!

We help her with her personal problems and give advice only if she asks, but otherwise we ask her when she is finished is there anything we can do to help

We don’t act like every other man in society and only do special things or buy her special gifts on her birthday, anniversary, Christmas, or Valentines Day! We do these things throughout the year and spontaneously!

We ask her opinion, then we actually value that opinion, and take her advice when it is warranted and if we don’t take her advice tell her why lovingly

We never make huge decisions without first consulting her

We whisk her away on three day weekends

We are always excited to see her

We tell her we miss her, we love her, we can’t live without her, we can’t wait to see her

You do everything you can to become her best friend and she your's

BAM!

TRANSITION