IN THIS 91st EPISODE (The Holy Lover Series: How to save my marriage when my wife has given up – 33 Gifts that will satisfy her forever!)

Today we uncover Gift #9

“Love is friendship set on fire." [END QUOTE]

~Jeremy Taylor, Cleric in the Church of England, Author and Poet”

Now to Catholic Alpha’s Radical Rant Of The Day.

Is it vital for you and your wife to be best friends to have a great marriage?

Notice I didn’t say good marriage or ok marriage...

I said great and legendary marriage.

If your wife isn’t your best friend then ask yourself...

Who does she tell her deepest hopes, dreams, and concerns too?

Because if she isn’t your best friend then she will not tell you!

Can being best friends enhance the intimacy or the duty as a wife and husband to deeply try to fulfill each other in this area?

In our last series (Clues my wife wants a divorce)

I gave you 33 clues to help you understand your marriage may be or definitely is in trouble and how to avoid it.

But I know men...

We just refuse to listen when it comes to marriage and relationships.

And when we do listen, we’ve avoided the problems so long that we find ourselves in what the Church calls Marriage Crisis!

Meaning divorce, separation, no sex, arguing constantly etc.

But in the Holy Lover series...

I give husbands solutions in case they didn’t heed my warnings in the “clues my wife wants a divorce series”...

Return to your man cave...or enter the battle for Christ, your wife, and children?

There are 33 Gifts of a Holy Lover

33 gifts to the satisfaction and fulfillment of your Beloved.

Today we cover Holy Lover gift #9...

Which states...

A Holy Lover is his wife’s best friend and she is his.

The battle for your marriage is a spiritual battle.

And as the man of the home the defender from evil...

Your duty and responsibility is to give your life away each and every day in defense of your home from the diabolical.

If you lack the will for battle...

I and this podcast, the Holy Spirit, and the Catholic Alpha Marriage Program have been tasked by God to assist you and motivate you in your mission as protector, defender, and server.

The only question is...

Will you cooperate?

After the break we will get deeper into this mysterious concept.

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So as promised...

How to save your marriage when your wife has given up...

Holy Lover Gift #9...which states...

A Holy Lover is his wife’s best friend and she is his!

If you and your Beloved, aren’t best friends, your marriage will eventually fail.

And I don’t mean just divorce. I mean a dull, lackluster, passionless marriage.

I mean, why did you get married? To spend time with other men; allowing them to steal precious moments away from your soulmate?

Your job is to become one flesh with your Beloved. How can you do this, if you and your wife share your dreams, wants, and desires with another human being?

The answer is; you can’t!

I married my best friend.

Yes, I did. I got it right.

I’ve known my wife since we were 12 years old. We met at summer camp. In fact, I and my sister are emphatic about not attending the camp.

If my mom hadn’t been so adamant about us going. I would’ve never met my future best friend and wife. Coincidence?

As I’ve said before, I don’t subscribe to coincidence. I was meant to meet my beloved. Thus, this theory is how you should view your Holy Union with your wife.

As a matter of fact, this view is how each husband and wife should reflect on their relationship.

Understand, you were destined to meet each other, find love and marry.

And if you’re meant to be married, then The Father had a purpose for you to fulfill in your marriage (Events are never random.)

Before my wife and I were married, we developed an unbelievable closeness.

As a matter of fact, we did everything together (What every husband and wife should do, might I say.)

I even did events with her which I didn’t care for. Although, there are places and events she isn’t on fire for as well.

Understand, suffering and sacrifice is what married couples (best friends) do for each other.

They sacrifice their needs and wants for the betterment of the whole (their marriage).

This mindset has to be eternal; not temporary. Remember, the goal is joy; not happiness. Happiness is too fleeting.

The rewards and benefits of sacrifice are so much more fulfilling and revealing (if you are patient and keep the end goal in mind).

What is the endgame? The sanctification (purification) of you and your beloved, spanning the decades.

What’s the payoff?

Your marriage; your family; your families future generations; LEGENDARY!

You will have changed your environment and your family tree forever!

There is a Domino Effect

Look, everything you do has a domino effect on your family, and every generation after you. Every action; every decision.

As a result, these doings affect you. Which in turn, affects your wife.

Next, your children and their children (and their children; something a husband and wife never seem to consider).

Realize, evil, never ends; until you man up and kill it!

It’s difficult to slow the dominos, and get them back in line. Once they start moving.

Start now. Cultivate a marriage like no other!

Make your Beloved your best friend.

And, encourage her to follow your lead.

Look, you Can Stop The Dominos From Falling

My wife does things with me she isn’t crazy about.

Why? Because I like them, and she is spending time with me. In fact, many wives mirror this.

Problem is, husbands don’t get it.

“I gotta go do this.”

“I gotta do that.”

“I’m going over John’s house to watch the football game.”

“I’m going out to the sports bar tonight with the fellas.”

“I’m working late, won’t be home for dinner.”

I’ll just leave you home and neglect you. While I do whatever I want in search of a good time.

Oh, of course we get mad when our wives tells us, she’s fallen for another man. Hmm, how did that happen?

Can You Afford To Take This Lightly?

To repeat, the relationship with your wife must rein far and above any other.

Above all, a husband and wife must strive to claim each other as best friends.

I understand; not going to be easy.

But listen, I promise, she can give you what you’re searching for (if you allow her to).

By the way, the benefits far outweigh the negatives (saving of your marriage, family, soul).

The closeness you are so much searching for. The oneness; the sacred intimacy. The exalted feeling of completeness!

YOUR SO CALLED FRIENDS CAN’T GIVE YOU THIS.

In addition, would a real friend try to deny you this treasure?

Leave your boy’s in the sports bars. I don’t care if you’ve known them since childhood.

Don’t make the drastic mistake or adopt the illusion, they actually matter in the big scheme of your life.

Because, they don’t!

Remember Ephesians 5 (21-33?) Husbands are commanded to leave their mother and father, and cleave to their wives.

127. Question:

❖ Who’s tolerated you through the ups and downs?

❖  Who married your crazy butt in spite of yourself?

❖  Who gave her true, free and complete self to you (when your slimy rear end didn’t deserve a quarter?)

❖  Oh, and then gave you the greatest gift imaginable (your son, your daughter?) Priorities brother; priorities.

❖  If all your so-called “boyz” abandon you; right now; who would you run to? She, who is given to you by the Father as your helpmate, your partner, your confidante.

Today; right now! Start the steps of ensuring, you and your Beloved become inseparable for a lifetime.

How? By igniting the purifying power, awe inspiring practice of the best friends concept.

Talk about HOLY SEX! You will slap me for not telling you about this sooner.

Test Questions To See If You are Best Friends; One Flesh test you might say...

❖  If your wife isn’t the one who you love being with just because. She isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she isn’t the one who you can’t wait to go and encounter life with. She isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she isn’t the one who you turn to, to spill in complete confidence your deepest secrets worries and mysteries. She isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she’s not the one who you love to have fun with, she probably isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she isn’t the one who you long to behold every day, then she isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she isn’t the one that as she walks through the door, you shiver with excitement, because she’s at last arrived home and you missed her, then she isn’t your best friend.

❖  If she isn’t the one who your day isn’t complete until,

➢ you have heard her voice,
➢ you may have a serious problem
➢ and you’re just existing in a relationship
➢ and aren’t in essence one with each other because,

➢ “She isn’t your best friend!”

❖ If you do everything you can to avoid going home at night. Then your wife isn’t your best friend.

❖  If you put your momma, your daddy, your brother, your sister, aunt, uncle, Joe, Bob, Nina, the kids, before your beloved. Yep, you guessed correct. She isn’t your best friend.

❖  If you don’t tell her the hard problems because you are trying to protect her; Sorry; not your best friend!

Relationships take time and hard work.

So, if you aren’t present and are an absentee husband (in essence, checked out in the emotional and literal sense)

how do you expect your marriage to grow, prosper, be your all in all? It can’t

Look at the Best Friend Concept Like This...

It’s hard to leave and abandon your best friend.

It’s tough to hurt and disrespect your best friend.

In an extreme sense, it’s difficult to betray your best friend.

But millions of men commit all the above acts against someone who they’re in lust for or proclaim to be so-called, in love with every day!

The best friend concept ignites intimacy like no other!

Again, love is friendship set on fire!

The knowledge and intimate details of your beloved can only begin once you ignite true friendship and curiosity for her!

So what can you do to begin the best friend concept...

I’m going to list some things that have helped me build the most special friendship possible.

Feel free to analyze and adopt them for yourself; how to bond with your wife

❖ #1 Deep prayer – prayer produces and intimate love for the beloved!

❖ #2 Deep Conversation:

TRANSITION MUSIC!