How to save your marriage when your wife has given up...

Holy Lover Gift #16...which states...

A Holy Lover embraces fidelity

If you are serious about understanding your masculinity; your manliness.

The first virtue you must endure is chastity.

A man of God, realizes that he must learn to control his urges.

Battle his inner demons, and protect his Beloved from himself.

How can we proclaim, were are “A Man Of Courage” “True Man”, a “Holy Lover” if we indulge in our own selfishness?

Man, you are not made for this. You are made for more than this.

If you can’t make the woman you have now happy.

What makes you presume, you can make another happy without fixing yourself.

Furthermore, conquering the battle within yourself?

I want you to be that man!

The one who others look to for guidance, and as an example of Authentic Masculinity, leading them towards the Father!

You can do this, you are made for this, you must do this!

Embrace fidelity!

Why are men called to control their passions?

We must embrace suffering and sacrifice for our bride as Christ did for his bride the Church. This is True Man!

Controlling our passions, urgers, are what real men do.

Doing this we become virtuous, holy, and move closer to God Himself.

This draws our wife closer to us, making her want to love us!

If our wife has an affair on us are we obliged to return the favor?

Sure...if you want to lose all credibility with your wife, children, parents, friends, etc.

No one will tell you the truth because these days no one really loves you enough to tell you the truth.

If you are in marriage crisis and you tell your wife you love her and want her back, then go out and become unfaithful, what kind of message is this really sending.

Basically that you won’t change, have not changed, and can’t change!

If we are in marriage crisis and our wife has left the home or wants a divorce why do we lose all credibility if we get another woman?

First off we draw the other woman into our sin, and kill her soul

Next, if we are unable to keep our wife happy what makes us think that we can keep the next woman, and the next, and the next happy.

Truth...we can’t!

The only way to gain credibility, and get our wife to again trust us, we must be as Christ and control our passions!

If our wife refuses to make love to us does that give us the right to masturbate?

I hear this all of the time...man I have needs to be met.

I ask is masturbating really fulfilling a need or is it opening the door to the demonic in your home?

Spilling our seed as a man on the ground is a mortal sin and Onan was struck down by God for doing this.

Love is meant to be shared and our masculine seed is valuable, has purpose, and is proof of our love for God, and our beloved.

We participate in the giving of life, a Godlike gift given to us as men.

Why do we degrade ourselves by wasting it and hurting our soul?

If our wife refuses to be intimate with us is this a license to watch pornography or get a prostitute?

Pornography even if it is a picture of our wife is gravely sinful.

It kills the soul and causes premature ejaculation and eventually erectile dysfunction.

Pornography invites the demonic into your home and open the door to chaos.

Which is the number one job of Satan.

And is the very reason our marriages and homes become unsettled, our wife becomes unhappy, depressed, and unfulfilled.

Pornography and masturbation are infidelity and our wives know it...

Because they are not getting our complete selves which belongs to them!

Why is it a mortal sin for our wife to refuse to make love to us?

Simple, it interferes in the number one reason we are placed on this earth...

For the creation of souls that are sent back to God to be happy with Him for eternity.

When men interfere in creation (same-sex attraction, abortion, no fault divorce, birth control) God is displeased and slams the hammer.

Why because this is His ultimate plan to have souls in heaven with Him!

So when our wife refuses intimacy with us because of selfishness, or fake sickness, or because she is so-called tired, or because she is mad, or for whatever reason she can think of to not serve her husband and God

it a mortal sin because it interferes in creation and the real meaning and reason God created marriage in the first place!

Procreation, education of the children in the faith, and unity of the spouses

If our wife has given up on the marriage, when is it appropriate for us to give up on the marriage as well?

Christ said Himself that divorce was only allowed by Moses because of the hardness of our hearts.

In the new testament, he declares that divorce is grave and that God forbids it.

So, that being said, there are only two reason for separation for our spouses and divorce is never even in the picture.

One: physical abuse Two: infidelity

And once those two things are rectified the spouse is to forgive the other and return to the home and begin the marriage anew.

The only way to separate permanently from our spouse in the eyes of God is to apply and receive an annulment!

And that is only if the marriage was unlawful in the eyes of God.

Meaning before the marriage someone lied, or was not in the right mindset for marriage.

Then and only then should the marriage technically be given up on, because it is now over in the eyes of the state (divorce) and in the eyes of God (annulment)

Why? Because you, were made, for greatness! Show her that you are more than enough man for her! Once again, become her Hero! BAM!

TRANSITION