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We have defined love as an ambition to ensure the true good of another person, and consequently as the antithesis of egoism...it is necessary to insist that intercourse must not serve merely as a means of allowing sexual excitement to reach its climax in one of the partners, i.e. the man alone, but that climax must be reached in harmony, not at the expense of one partner, but with both partners fully involved...In the present case love demands that the reactions of the other person, the sexual ‘partner’ be fully taken into account.Sexologists state that the curve of arousal in woman is different from that in man–it rises more slowly and falls more slowly…. The man must take this difference between male and female reactions into account, not for hedonistic, but for altruistic reasons.There exists a rhythm dictated by nature itself which both spouses must discover so that climax may be reached both by the man and by the woman...If a woman does not obtain natural gratification from the sexual act there is a danger that her experience of it will be qualitatively inferior, will not involve her fully as a person….it is usually the result of egoism in the man, who failing to recognize the subjective desires of the woman in intercourse, and the objective laws of the sexual process taking place in her, seeks merely his own satisfaction...~Saint Pope John Paul II~ Love And Responsibility
Never Disappoint Her; Again
Most husbands are crappy at making love. They fail to realize besides prayer, sex is the most important ritual in a marriage. Why? Because the marital embrace is what bonds, and keeps the married couple close and devoted.
Many men take this for granted. Thereby, creating a marriage full of selfishness and distance. In essence, a marriage where the couple over the years become roommates. Instead of best friends, melting in a thriving and bountiful union.
Furthermore, an awe-inspiring sex life is vital to a great marriage. Sure, many (mostly people with horrible sex lives) will demand intimacy isn’t important. That point of view is complete hogwash!
The marital embrace is a total gift from the Father. And, this society has for the most part, forgotten this fact. As well as, lost its way.
We in America, have a warped sense of sex. For this reason, many men are filled with tons of sexual problems and inhibitions (premature ejaculation, impotence, pornography).
Christian men forget, God should be in each part of our life. More important, the intimacy in our marriage. Marriage takes three, and prayer must be a prime focus at all times.
It's also unfair, many times husbands get no sign of how good or terrible we perform in the marital act. It’s our own fault. Because, married couples will speak of everything, but what's most important; their closeness.
So, the wife never reveals she’s unsatisfied with their intimacy. I also recognize, this discussion can be difficult. But, it must take place. I pledge, is a conversation on who’s going to win the super bowl more vital?
If a couple doesn’t make this a regular priority, the marriage will sink further and further into nothingness, as the years fly by. We then find ourselves in a lackluster marriage. More often, thinking improper thoughts of what might’ve been. Or worst yet, what the possibilities can be with someone else.
Enter The Forever Orgasm
It's time that Christian husbands stop entering the divorce culture. We should be prototypes, of magnificent marriages. Instead of emulating a confused society.
And, this begins with creating a Holy and devoted union with your Beloved. Most important, understand and become focused on fulfilling her, and satisfying her, unlike you've ever done in the past.
Above all, decide to sacrifice your needs for hers. Put her first in all things. Ask the Father to make you the man she needs. And, never again taking her for granted. These things are prime in your number one mission. To present your Beloved’s soul before the Father.
This in essence is the forever orgasm. You must will your needs last, during your making love sessions. Furthermore, give her the total gift of yourself, by allowing her as many orgasms as she desires. Meanwhile, withholding your ejaculation until she is completely satisfied. Which may be, one orgasm or 50.
For many husbands, this concept is foreign. And most if not all, will refuse to listen, and commit to this sacrifice (due to pride). Which is the exact reason, their marriage will always be average, lackluster, and near divorce court.
Question: How much longer will you disappoint your Beloved?
Many wives, never discuss their unhappiness when it comes to intimacy. And, if they did, would their husband listen?
Let’s get real with each other. I find time to time, husbands need a kick in the butt. They need challenging; a pride buster. Why? Because too often, we embrace pride, and push aside humility.
This rational, interferes with our marriage relationship. We falsely reason, we have everything under control. The sad truth? 99% of the time; we can’t control anything.
Furthermore, our family suffers. Due to our inability, to behold our crashing marriage, right before our eyes.
So, I have three small questions that should help you assess the state of the intimacy in your marriage: A challenge; a test you might say.
When is the last time, you prayed to the Father, to help you become the lover that your wife hungers for?
In fact, asking for his grace, to aid you in understanding her? Above all, overpowering her with the love she needs. In order, to transform her into the woman and wife your family craves?
See, in our many distractions throughout the day, we forget our main priorities. We fail to remember that as husbands, our needs and desires pale in comparison to that of the needs and requirements of our marriage.
Right about now, you may wonder, why I continue to overemphasize the happiness and fulfillment of your wife? Well, because someone has to!
Look, do you have children? What is the reason you married your Beloved? Do you love Christ; want to make Him proud of you; want to be obedient to Him?
In order to become “True Man” (A Man Of Courage) you can’t embrace greatness without your Beloved. She is made from you; for you; your helpmate. You cannot survive this chaotic world without her. You chose her. Now it’s your duty to protect her; to defend her; to serve her! No matter the cost (even at the high price; of your life).
After you and your wife make love (or something you think is a lovemaking session) who falls asleep first?
I’ll take a gamble, and guess you. This used to be me. We’d make love for say 30 minutes max. Then I’d turn over, and go right to sleep. While my wife remained awake, reading or watching television. Or doing whatever she could, to fall asleep.
Now, a husband reading this might proclaim, so what. What’s that supposed to mean? Well, I’ll tell you what it means. It means, your wife, your Beloved, the mother of your children. The woman you chose to spend a lifetime with; is unsatisfied; unfulfilled (in fact; bored; ouch!)
Understand, this act by you (turning over and falling asleep) is a prime indicator of the state of your intimacy (sex life).
You’re satisfied. You did your do. You’re happy (so you think). But, what about your wife? If she is satisfied; if she is happy; engulfed in total love. Wouldn’t she sense fatigue, and fall asleep as well?
I mean, it’s been a long day for her as well. Work, children, serving you. She should be exhausted right?
I place in your hands for consideration; How much longer; how many more years; must your Beloved endure your aloofness? How much longer will you deny her your true self; the gift of one flesh?
When is the last occasion; you melted your wife’s heart; with 10 orgasms?
Numerous husbands will view this question, and at once move to denial. In fact, move to defending their ineptness at making love. You see, this question is in direct relation to the earlier question. How you may ask?
You climaxed right? So, you became tired. Typical male behavior. Why are you fatigued? Because, ejaculating sucks every morsel of energy from your body; similar to a nuclear explosion. It takes everything you have. Hence, you need recovery time. So, you fall asleep.
Now, to your Beloved. Lying awake in bed. Watching you swell in satisfaction. While she’s wide awake viewing David Letterman.
I fall back to the question. If your wife is given the gift of ten orgasms by you; her Beloved husband. Do you think she’d be exhausted, and need sleep?
Furthermore, Her falling asleep (first), what might this show you?
I hope you’re rotating in your brain; happy, satisfied, the inkling of complete love and appreciation.
Look, all I’m saying is never assume the happiness of your wife. She wants to love you; needs to love you; is compelled to love you. Even when you’re not at your best, or are engulfed in total selfishness.
The Art Of Making Love
Well, how did you do? Did you answer all three questions in the affirmative?
Hey, I know marriage is a tough business. But, the benefits are immeasurable. My job remains, to get men such as yourself, to realize the treasure they’ve been entrusted with by the Father.
It’s imperative you understand making love is an art that takes a lifetime to master. Why? Because your Beloved has many mysteries to her, you've never considered. Furthermore, it's your duty to find each and every one of them. (more on understanding the role of sex in marriage according to the Church here maritalhealing.com)
You don’t have time for sports, video games, fishing; your buddies and the like, every day. You’ve got a wife (a soul) to mesh with. She’s filled with an eternity of information, if only you will tap into it.
I suspect, it's been many years since you've believed there's anything new or interesting, to learn regarding your wife. This my friend is what many husbands do over the years (a profound mistake).
A lifetime is required, to learn every mystery of your wife. And, for you to cease your pursuit of her, when there’s still so much to learn? Without a doubt, you’ll regret this laziness in later years. If your marriage survives that long.
So, below I present to you; Catholic Alpha's: Making Love Mastery Page.
The page designed to help you reach the apex of intimacy in your marriage. Each article is focused on getting you to recognize, making love is an art. As well as, how to sacrifice your desires for your Beloved's during the marital embrace.
Appreciate, she needs this. You must once again, earn hear heart every day. Please, no longer take your wife for granted. Become the lover she's always dreamed of. Now, and for a lifetime.
So, sit in your big chair. Light a cigar. Grab a beer, or pour yourself a smooth glass of Crown Royal.
You're about to explore the possibilities of what your marriage could be; is supposed to be; demanded of you by Christ. In essence, a journey into the soul of your Beloved.
I wish I were in your shoes. The thrill; the fast heartbeat; the joy of once again; discovering what God has always intended for me and my Beloved. Peace and happiness in Him; and the knowledge of this for the first time. What a gift, a blessing you have.
Now get to reading. This won’t get done by itself!
Making Love Mastery
Articles Focused Entirely On The Sexual Fulfillment Of Your Beloved
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