The marriage problems men experience can be adverted by heeding the following scripture:
God gave us His spirit, and the spirit doesn’t make us weak and fearful, instead, the spirit gives us power and love. He helps us control ourselves.”
~2 Timothy 1:7
Your Quest To Become A Holy Lover!
The marriage problems men find themselves in today stem by and large, from two causes. One, absence of prayer. Two, a misunderstanding of masculinity.
I myself, in the past 10 months, haven’t in my life, dealt with such masculine weakness and emasculation. It’s sickening, and drives me to nausea.
Nearly every so-called man, I’ve come in contact with, has emasculation or effeminacy pouring from his pores.
Let’s face it, today’s men have lost their way. We hide behind our momma’s, our wives, as they do the things we as men should be doing.
We rise and battle nothing of importance. Our conversations are empty, meaningless, and lead us in one direction; Toward the many depths of hell.
Most of us don’t have a clue of what it takes to be a man, husband, or father. We’re only concerned with our own well-being, and selfish desires. We con ourselves into believing we’re self-giving and protectors of the weak.
But in the dark; as we fall asleep, and wake in the morning, we find depression, misery, and an emptiness we can’t shake.
We use distractions, such as an overindulgence of pleasure seeking urges (sex, food, sports, television, cell phones, careers, etc…) To distract us from our life’s inevitable end, and the all-important questions; why am I here? Why was I created? Where will my soul venture when I die?
We wallow in our weakness, as our feelings are hurt, and hide in our emotional corners.
We raise boys, who possess no fight. As they are so weak (mentally) they commit suicide in droves; experiment with homosexuality; stumble through transgenderism.
More detrimental, we allow our children to run our households. We encourage our boys, to emulate girls, wear skinny jeans, and the sweet, feminine, emasculated, color pink.
Our manliness is absent. We are negligent in our manhood. As we allow the mothers of our children, to raise our sons as basically; girls in waiting.
As men in this country, we lack true honor, true respect; true devotion. Our women view us, and pity us in private. Why? Because they understand; we are selfish. We whine, and complain, about everything. We blame everyone and everything for our problems, except the true cause; ourselves.
We abandon our families, screw around on our wives, make babies with homewreckers; and our useless friends; say nothing!
We’re unable to last longer than five minutes during the marital embrace; but walk around town as though we are (The Man). But can’t satisfy our Beloved wife with any sort of sexual fulfillment. As she dies a little each day, waiting for her hero to return.
Above all, we’ve failed God, our wives, our families, our country, and ourselves.
Wallowing In Weakness!
We’ve allowed feminism, Marxism, Socialism, Communism, and whatever other “ism” you can think of. To in fact, infiltrate and hijack our society, and ruin the Father’s plan for the family.
In essence, we don’t have a clue what our mission is on this earth. We’ve no clue, of our true power and potential, as men. We’ve no clue, as to the real meaning of masculinity, and its importance. WE ARE LOST!
Moreover, we have the gall, to suppose the marriage problems men encounter are an accident or bad luck. Although, what it boils down to is our laziness, our loss of masculinity; our lack of sacrifice.
In my article Are You A Holy Lover: Your Manhood On Trial! I state how important it is for you to become a Holy Lover. To in fact, bestow the 33 gifts of a Holy Lover upon your Beloved.
A Holy Lover, strives for perfection in his service to his Beloved. Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; Making Love Mastery are vital to unleashing the Holy Lover within yourself.
Masculinity (gift 20) is the subject of this article. And should be worked on constantly; with Christ as your model.
Understand, your masculinity is a gift. The aim of that gift, is to serve the Father and your wife. This gift is on loan; has purpose. Understanding the intent of marriage, is important to your understanding of this gift. You must use your masculinity as an example for other men to follow. Emasculation and effeminacy, are not an option.
[pullquote]You will fall at times; even fail. But remember; you are man! Rise to the occasion; dust yourself off; get back in and change the game![/pullquote]
Moreover, realize you must use Christ as your ultimate example of a man. As well as, focus on becoming the man God created you to be. How to in fact; influence your environment; and plant seeds for God!
The Art Of Manliness
Ok who wants to be the man?
Come on, put those hands up. Each of us wants to be “The Man.” Right? Sure we do.
Deep down, each man wants people to see Christ raining from him. It’s in our nature.
Well, without God; study of the faith; your marriage and family life in order; and prayer; you can’t be the man.
These things are your foundation; Essential.
Let’s be real for a second. There are millions of men today, who suppose they are the man right?
Riding around in their Caddy’s, Lincolns, BMW’s, Mercedes. Making millions of dollars.
A lot of nice homes, throwing touchdown passes. Sinking three-point shots. Catching 20-pound bass. Sinking holes in one. Got tons of nice clothes, shooting a deer from 100 yards away; benching 500lbs; in essence, a lot of people admiring them?
But is this how we in truth become “The Man?”
Look, everybody can’t be Bill Gates, Michael Jordon, Peyton Manning, Donald Trump, or President Obama. Whether you like them or not, is not the point.
God has given these men certain gifts. Just as He has given us certain gifts, to carry out His mission. But we must seek it, embrace it, submit; listen!
Gentlemen, here is a secret. A well-kept secret. No one, no government, no institution, not Satan himself, can prevent each of us from becoming a great, awesome, and awe inspiring Catholic.
Each man can plant seeds, and get a soul before God.
Sure, the things above are important. But they’re not the ultimate are they? ARE THEY?
Of course not!
Sometimes we forget that death is how the Father makes us equal.
We all are born; we all live a life; and; we all die.
For this reason, I ask you to embrace your mission as a Christian Soldier; A Man Of Courage! Become great; change the world!
So let’s get started understanding our roles as men. Why? Because without a clear understanding of masculinity, and our roles in marriage, and our family, the way the Father intends, our mission will forever remain unclear.
The Wussification Of Your Education!
Understanding Your Masculinity
According to Fr. Chad Ripperger, FSSP, who is a trained exorcist and psychologist in the Church.
True Man, A Man Of Courage, A Man Of Christ, is a man of virtue and self-sacrifice.
Why? Because God made it that way. He designed men to engage in things that are hard, difficult, and require responsibility.
Why? (paraphrasing St. Thomas Aquinas here) So you deny how you feel, in order to achieve love, submit to, and become like Christ. In essence, God’s will for you (obedience)
With virtue comes interior self-discipline and self-control.
This is the hallmark of masculinity.
The man who can stand in the face of evil and pleasure while maintaining his interior control, is the True Man.
Why? Because he can engage in tasks that are hard, arduous, then remain steadfast.
The guy who sees the tough task ahead, and wilts is effeminate and invites emasculation.
A Man Of Courage; A Man Of Christ; controls his inner sexual urges; his inner pleasure seeking urges. (pornography, sex outside of marriage, an over-abundance of television, cell phones, video games, sports etc…)
Why? Becomes when he does, he encourages fortitude, perseverance, holiness, perfection, sainthood (becomes like Christ)
With the tons of marriage problems men in America have amassed. They have officially earned the name (Wusses Of The West!)
How Not To Be A Wuss In America
A True Man submits to the truth, no matter how hard it is. He doesn’t try to alter it, or adjust it, to his way of thinking. Moreover, to his feelings.
He mans up, and accepts it. As Christ did in the “Agony Of The Garden In Gethsemane”
He knew His time had come. He understood His task would be hard, difficult. But what did He do?
He died to Himself, He gave Himself, He was obedient, and did the Fathers will.
This pain is what men, husbands, fathers, are called to experience. SACRIFICE OURSELVES EVERY DAY, FOR THE GOOD OF ANOTHER; FOR HIS BELOVED; FOR CHRIST!
And until men embrace this plea, we will never feel complete; we will never feel whole!
In this article, I’ve tried to help you understand a major part of marriage problems men experience, because of their lack of understanding of masculinity.
Not societies definition. But God the Fathers definition. Which is using Christ as our example, to maintain and flourish in a Godless culture.
Manning up and embracing your manliness is what God demands. You will get disrespected; you will be challenged. But what better way to go down than with Christ at your side?
Martyr yourself daily, for Christ; for your Beloved. Tough at first? Of Course! Well worth the pain? You Bet!
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- In this article, we’ve learned how important masculinity is.
- As well as, what true masculinity consists of.
- Next, how this defines our mission as men.
- Also, we quoted from 2 Timothy 1:7, which can be a good verse to refer to when the marriage problems men encounter become overwhelming.
- Finally, how the marriage problems men experience can be avoided.
- What are ways you can better become like Christ using Him as your example of manliness?
- What things did you learn that can help you accomplish this?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- One of the most important ways to build closeness in your marriage, which fuels the marital embrace.
- Also, understand how to build the vital foundation, of placing your marriage and Beloved first behind the Father.
- Last, a highly neglected question that must be answered, but is hardly ever asked, until it’s too late.
So, see you next time.
