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Quote Of The Day

[QUOTE]”If it be asked why the drunkard loves alcohol,

why the libertine loves perversion,

or why the criminal loves stealing,

it is because each of them sees some good in what he does.

What each seeks is not the highest moral good,

for endowed with free will,

each can always choose a partial rather than a total good,

thus making a god of his appetites.

Evil in order to be attractive must at least wear the guise of goodness.

Hell has to be gilded with gold of paradise,

or men would never want its evil.

If evil were always called by its right name,

it would lose much of its appeal.” [END QUOTE]

 

~Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen ~Book: Three To Get Married

 

 

She Has Been Planning For Years To Leave Your Marriage…

• You just refused to see the clues
• And now it’s biting in your butt, because she has asked for a divorce, or left the home.
• What do you do?
• What is your next move?
• What you do is get in the game, open your eyes, and learn how your woman thinks.
• And the first phase of that is, you must learn what she is going to do, then make a logical plan to stop it or delay it, to get your marriage back!
• You must learn what I call the Wife’s Exit Strategy.
• The Wives Exit Strategy is what your wife does when she still loves, and cares about you, but is no sure what she is going to do with you…
• Divorce you or keep you.
• During the time, you must improve yourself, remain consistent with those changes, and be patient over a long period of time, so she again trust’s you.
• And you must stop the needy behaviors that repel her from you such as…
• being desperate, pleading, begging, becoming angry etc.
• These only push her away.
• The Wives Exit Strategy tells you what she is going to do and in what order (in fact it shows you your future).
• Lastly, it’s very important that you keep your wife in the phase she is currently in…
• Because if she moves further into the Wives Exit Strategy the more cold hearted, and entrenched in her current course of action she will be…
• Which spells, hell on earth for you!

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 1 – The Need To Control You

• After the fall women have a overwhelming need to control their husband
• When a wife starts trying to control you, this is the first clue that you have marriage problems
• She feels no attention from you
• She doesn’t feel appreciated by you
• She is starting to feel you don’t love her

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 2 – She Leaves You Temporarily

• To get your attention and to encourage you to get it together, she does the only thing she feels will make you listen…she leaves
• She usually will take the kids in this phase.
• She may go to her moms house, a hotel, a friends house, or family member
• My first wife left like 3 times to her moms house, before she left permanently.

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 3 – Another Man

• If you don’t get yourself together in extreme cases, she will put herself on the market.
• When she gets really desperate, she begins to allow other men to gain her fancy (at work, at the store, her friends, old boy friends etc.)
• This is extremely dangerous in many ways…
• If she brings him to your home
• If you try and get her back…he may see this as a threat
• He may confront you
• He may threaten you
• It is very difficult to persuade her to return to you, unless her relationship with him begins to turn sour.
• This is what happens almost all of the time, if the husband is patient, and begins improving himself, she will many times change her mind, and realize her current relationship is going no where, and that she needs her family and will return.
• If she leaves the other man, usually he will be ok with it, and allow things to break up amicably.
• This is why your prayer of defense against the diabolical is extremely important, as the Holy Spirit helps you protect your marriage when you are unable to be present.

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 4 – She Asks For A Divorce

• This can happen when she leaves the home permanently, but usually it happens while she is in the house.
• Sometimes this threat is just a ploy to get you to man up and take her seriously, and to see what you will do or how you will react.
• But many times she is really serious, and is willing to threaten with divorce, to see if you will get yourself together, and begin being the husband she needs again.
• In my experience, many husbands still don’t take her serious, and decide this is just a bluff, or that she is overreacting, or being emotional.
• So, they allow pride to get in the way and do nothing. Which is a terrible ROOKIE MISTAKE!

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 5 – She Separates Permanently

• If things don’t change, she will then leave permanently, move to another room in the house permanently, or ask you to leave temporarily.
• She is now desperate! In her mind, she’s done all that she can do to save her marriage.
• She has most likely had a plan for separation from you for months or in many cases years.
• If she leaves, more than likely, she will try and take the children with her
• She has plans where to go, what to do with the kids, her money situation, and has talked to many people for advice and their experience in divorce matters.
• And has probably went to see a lawyer. All under the guise of making you think everything is still normal and ok.
• Long term separation, along with her having another man, is very grave, and a serious burden on your soul, her soul, and the souls of your children.
• In order to get your wife back in this situation, you must be in for the long game, and willing to die to yourself, and remove all pride and ego, and begin a journey of self discovery, and include a walk towards God!

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 6 – She Files For Divorce

• If she doesn’t see a substantial change in you as a husband, father, or man, she will play her final two cards.
• Card one is she will file for divorce, and in all states, she will get it, it’s only a matter of time.
• She will hire a lawyer, use her and yours, and other friends or family resources to get the best attorney she can afford.
• You must remember, she’s been planning this for a long time, while you were in the Twilight Zone thinking this all will blow over!
• In order for her to file, she must willingly turn her heart cold towards you.
• Why? Because she still cares for you, and if she allows you to speak to her, she knows that most likely she will change her mind and not file.
• But she is scared of the continued pain, so this is why she remains as mean, cold, and heartless as she can.
• You can turn this around, but you must be nonemotional and task driven, at all times!

 

 

Her Exit Strategy: Phase 7 – The Annulment

• This is her final card to play, and your last chance to man up and get things together!
• If you don’t, she will file for an annulment and within a year or so, she will get it.
• Then your marriage is not only over in the eyes of the state (because of her divorce from you)
• But now your marriage is over in the eyes of God
• Which means in all practical purposes, you and your wife are finished as a couple!

 

Your Options As A Husband…Best Case & Worst Case Scenario

• Best case scenario: If you change in time. If you show your wife that you can change and make her feel like a real woman again, who is loved, cherished, and adored above all and everything in your life, SHE WILL RETURN!
• Or if you fail in this task, you invite the worst case scenario…which is…
• After she gets the annulment…you can still dedicate your life to getting her back.
• Or you can decide to move on with your life and seek another partner to spend the rest of your life with.
• Which means your family is toast for the most part.
• The good thing about all of this, is that you have this program, and it prepares you for both scenarios!
• And you must know when to up the strategies as she ups hers.
• Also, for months you’ve been operating from behind, at all cost, you must get even with her strategies, and better yet surpass her and begin out thinking her!

 

 

Your Keys To Success

• You must at all cost stop the avalanche as soon as possible at the current phase you are in.
• You can’t allow yourself to enter into the next phase, as each phase worsens her cold heart and you must fight harder to regain it.
• This is where your willingness to sacrifice and suffer as Christ did is of utmost importance.
• You must do whatever it takes, more prayer, more spiritual battle, more humility etc.
• You must not listen to what she says, because all she says is on emotion, and in many cases this is just to throw you off, because deep down she doesn’t know what she is going to do.
• If you continuously listen to her, you will be drawn in to her abyss.
• This will confuse you, make you lose heart, and entice you to get angry and in the end give up!
• Above all else, finish the course, learn how to keep her if she comes back.
• If you quit the course, then she comes back, how are you going to get her to want to stay and never leave gain?
• This is a grave question you must ask yourself!
• You all must realize, the only losers are the ones who quit!
• If you stay in the battle, using all of the tools at your disposal, you will get results and have a high chance of success.
• But if you rollover, and die, you will have no chance of success!

…BAM!