Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 30 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

 

Today we’re going to talk about building closeness in marriage

Why?

Because without a feeling closeness your wife begins to feel unloved, unwanted, taken for granted, and uncherished!

But more important if she doesn’t feel close to you she will stop wanting to make love to you!

You will have to bribe her to make love

She will get bored with the marital embrace

And she will begin rejecting your advances for intimacy

So in order to prevent this from happening today for a few minutes we’re going to talk about how to rekindle closeness.

No need to worry about writing or taking notes I’ve created a great checklist for you to follow.

You can get it at www.SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com

So TIP 1: You must understand that the closer your wife feels to you the more she will desire you.

 NO CLOSENESS-NO INTIMACY-NO DESIRE FOR YOU-NO SEX-PERIOD!

This is why you must do the things to make her always feel she is connected and bonded to you emotionally.

And this begins with emotional intimacy, which is what I like to call making love outside the bedroom

TIP 2: Taking your Beloved for granted kills closeness

Marriages begin to fade when selfishness creeps in and when the couple begins to take each other for granted.

But for women it’s even more devasting because showing her appreciation is what fuels her love for you her Beloved husband.

So when you begin to take her for granted, marriages begin to fade, the intimacy fades and becomes lackluster.

She begins thinking of separation, taking the kids and leaving the home or worse seeking divorce.

As a husband you must vow to win your Beloved’s heart daily.

And this is what the Rekindling Closeness Checklist does for you.

A step by step cheat sheet to give a complete list in three areas to cultivate closeness with your Beloved daily.

The first category is Rekindling Closeness (The Heart)

This is such things as cuddling, kissing her deeply, showing her enormous amounts of appreciation…

watching and admiring how she moves and tons more on the list.

Category two is Rekindling Closeness (The Physical)

This includes such things as whisking her away on a Three Day Weekend…

Occasionally attend a religious marriage retreat…

be spontaneous and spend a night in a five star hotel one night during the week and order room service…

get a warm bowl or container of water and wash your Beloved’s feet after a long hard day…

and many many more things are on this list.

Category three: Rekindling Closeness (Conversation Perfect)

This is probably the most important category

You must develop a habit of conversation…

You must talk, you must ask her how she feels, what she thinks…

her current dreams, wants and desires for her marriage, for herself and for you and the children, as well as her faith.

I know for men this is truly hard especially doing it on a regular basis, but you must.

This is one of the greatest ways to build closeness, and a sense of true friendship with her.

Just sit there and listen…

I mean really listen to her and ask inquiring questions to show you are really into her!

THIS IS HUGE

Here are some example question that you can ask her to stimulate a meaningful and deep conversation… about her and the most important relationship in your life, your marriage!

Ask her if you make her feel appreciated?

Ask her if you make her feel loved

Ask her if you make her feel protected and secure?

Asking how she really rates your marriage, (bad, good, great, or thriving?)

Ask her about her current relationship with Christ

Ask her if your lovemaking is what she needs?

No matter how she answers in all of these questions, you must not judge her or get upset…

but ask her to please tell you why she feels this way

and what can you do to make it better. Even if the answer is positive or negative!

I promise you will not regret this bold and courageous move you are making.

Remember you are a Christian Soldier!