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Dcn Harold Sivers: How To Save Your Marriage Without Counseling Part 2 CARP026

December 27, 2020 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Catholic Alpha Radical interviews Deacon Harold Burke Sivers How to save your marriage without counseling Part 1

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How To Repair Your Marriage Without Counseling...

An Interview With Deacon Harold Sivers (Part 2)

In this 26th episode? I speak with Author, Speaker, Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers of EWTN, Catholic Answers and many other outlets.  This is part two, and we discuss...

"We have too many men standing around doing nothing, while Satan tries to destroy his marriage, his family, his Church, and his culture!"

Dcn Harold Sivers

 

  • What is wrong with the state of masculinity, and why is it being attacked?
  • What can women do to encourage men to step up and take responsibility for their households, family, and the Church?
  • For husbands: What are the three most important things you can do in your marriage to keep you out of divorce court?

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How To Save Your Marriage Without Counseling Episode

  • Listen or watch part one of this interview here: How To Save Your Marriage Without Counseling Part 2
  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • Troubled Marriage? Not sure where to begin? Start here: 
  • Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers - Books, speaking dates, radio show: Visit Here
  • Article on how to man up Christ's way: Christ - The Original Catholic Alpha
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Book - Three To Get Married - Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen (consider before Catholic Marriage counseling)

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

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How To Fix A Broken Marriage Without Counseling

Episode 26 - Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 26 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

Enter The Marriage Masterclass Now!

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Catholic Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving Catholic marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen Now!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

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One Of The Top Signs Your Marriage Is Over CARP022

August 13, 2020 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Catholic Alpha Marriage Minute: One of the top signs your marriage is over: The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcastzipper on mouth

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Holy Lover Marriage Tactic #1

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One Of The Top Signs Your Marriage Is Falling Apart...

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In this 22nd episode, we speak on "One of the top signs your marriage is over".

Our wife is ready to walk out the door and take the children, and we’re still clueless!

Catholic Alpha

 

  • Learn how this one marriage tactic improves your marriage immediately?
  • Learn how neglecting this one issue, can be your first step towards divorce court?
  • What's the one problem you may have, that prevents your wife from fully committing to you?

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Loveless Marriage Signs...Is It Mediocre, Lukewarm, or Failing?

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Consider the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!

5 (less than) 20-minute (do it yourself) videos, to help you discover ...

  • Chaos in your marriage and home? Watch video 2
  • Could your lack of leadership or Authentic Masculinity be the culprit? Watch Video 3
  • Is your intimacy average or non-existent? This is most likely the reason – Watch video 4
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On Of The Top Signs Of An Unhappy Marriage Episode

  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • 20-Minute Marriage Makeover -  Do-it-yourself marriage help at CatholicAlpha
  • Article on the "Top 8 Reasons For Divorce"
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Resource: Modern Catholic Dictionary - John A. Hardon, S.J.
  • A good resource for more on signs your marriage is over for men by Fr. Ripperger sermon on pride.

"Is My Marriage Over?"

Episode 22 Show Notes

Holy Lover Marriage Tactic #1 You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know – BAM!

Common Long Term Relationship Problems: This One Gets You In Divorce Court: Quick!

  1. Quote: “You must ask God to give you power to fight against the sin of pride which is your greatest enemy - the root of all that is evil, and the failure of all that is good. For God resists the proud" End Quote: Saint Vincent De Paul
  2. Today I want you to consider the description of a man…
  3. In order to fully understand what I mean by, one of the top signs your marriage is over, we have involve old Prideful Paul!
  4. His name is “Prideful Paul”
  5. Prideful Paul is a man who won't listen; knows everything. As well as, denies the truth, even when it's presented factually and faithfully.
  6. He's full of selfishness, and refuses to sacrifice. His ideas, and what he believes, loom above everything, and everyone else. Including God!
  7. He believes he's actually greater than he truly is.
  8. Again, does this describe you in your marriage?
  9. You sure? Not even a little bit?
  10. A problem with men that’s continued to grow over the centuries, is when we think we know something, there’s nothing that anyone can do to change our minds!
  11. Our usual attitude is - Hey I got this. I know my wife. I know how she thinks, and what she is going to do next!
  12. Our wife will give us clues about her unhappiness, or concerns with our marriage. But we ignore them.
  13. This is the first step to divorce court
  14. The problem here is you don’t know what you don’t know
  15. Many times, our pride holds us back in marriage, mainly because we just don’t want to deal with its problems.
  16. Our wife is ready to walk out the door and take the children, and we’re still clueless.
  17. What I want you to understand now is, that your marriage is probably in the lackluster/ boring stage right now.
  18. Why? Because you’re neglecting it, as you do with projects needing done around the house!
  19. So, what’s the solution?
  20. Here are some things that will help…
  • One: Confession because it’s a sacrament, and all graces from God stem from you being in grace with God.
  • Two: Pray the litany of humility
  • Three: Accept the trials of pride when the Holy Spirit sends them your way.
  • The only way to beat the evil of pride is through humility. And the only way to help you with pride is for God to send you tests of humiliation to help you get used to defeating pride in your marriage and common life.
  1. Next, Benefits to working on Holy Lover Marriage Tactic #1
  • Humility will allow you to consider that maybe your wife isn’t responsible for all problems plaguing your marriage.
  • Eliminating pride will allow you to grow in virtue (which leads to holiness and authentic masculinity)
  • Your virtue and holiness will drive your wife crazy with respect, submissiveness, and devotion. Compelling her to begin fixing her flaws in your marriage.
  1. How to know when your marriage is over...Well maybe...If you don't follow Alpha Marriage Tactic #1?
  • Your marriage will never become great, holy, or legendary (yep mediocrity).
  • Your wife will never fully commit to you, or follow your lead, because your pride will always come between you, her, and God.
  • An uncomfortable tension will always exist between you as you are always blaming her for your problems, and she reciprocates blaming you!

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Visit CatholicAlpha.com to take the 20-minute marriage makeover challenge.

Five less than 20-minute videos designed to help you conquer Catholic marriage problems!

Don’t wait! Do it today!

I’m Jerry Jacobs Jr. and Remember - Real Catholic Men – Fast – Pray – And Prepare For Battle!

Radical Tips For Men...

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen To The Full Episode Here!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Get Hooked! Listen To Our First 4 Radical Episodes

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Marital Problems? How To Compel Her To Submit And Love It! CARP019

November 6, 2019 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Marital problems? How to get her to submit and love it! A happy couple doing the will of God. Find out more on the Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

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Marital Problems?

What No One's Telling You!

In this 19th episode? Are you a Catholic man with marital problems? Then consider today's marriage tactic #1?

No woman, I mean no woman, unless she's extremely disordered... sleeps with a man that she doesn’t think she wants to marry.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

 

  • Is it true, when you have sex with a woman she's bonded to you for life?
  • If you sleep with a woman and don't marry her, have you broken an unsaid promise?
  • Learn how this one marriage tactic improves your marriage immediately?
  • Learn how neglecting this one issue, can be your first step towards divorce court?
  • What's the one problem you may have, that prevents your wife from fully committing to you?

Can you afford to miss this?

Get your Radical Relationship Advice Today...

Listen Now!

Links And Resources Mentioned In This...

Marital Problems Episode

  • Original Archbishop Vigano' Testimony Document (find it here)
  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • 20-Minute Marriage Makeover -  Do-it-yourself marriage help at CatholicAlpha
  • The infiltration by Communism and Radical Feminism in the Catholic Church: Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast Ep. 2 (How To Be A Man)
  • Article on the "Top 8 Reasons For Divorce"
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Book - Three To Get Married - Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen
  • Resource: Modern Catholic Dictionary - John A. Hardon, S.J.

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

Enter The Marriage Masterclass Now!

How To Solve Relationship Problems Without Breaking Up?

Episode 19- Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 19 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

Signs Of An Unhappy Marriage (Quote Of The Day)

Love in monogamous marriage includes sex;
but sex, in the contemporary use of the term, does not imply either marriage or monogamy.
Every woman instinctively realizes the difference between the two,
but man comes to understand it more slowly through reason and prayer.
Man is driven by pleasure; woman by the meaning of pleasure.
She sees pleasure more as a means to an end,
Namely the prolongation of love both in herself and in her child.”


~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen – Three To Get Married

Catholic Alpha's Radical Rant Of The Day

The Cowardice Of Men – The Top 21 Reasons Men Have Caused The 2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church – And Why We’re Not Going To Take It Anymore!

  • Before I start – This will be a 21-episode series (one per show)
  • Also understand that the infiltration by the Catholic Church with homosexuality and radical feminism, plus the watering down of the faith and the stripping away of the Latin Mass was planned in order to, destroy the morality of those within the Church (priests and laity) and is not the teaching of the Catholic Church.
  • Why was this done?
  • To destroy the American family, to destroy our morality, and to destroy our patriotism! In order that we become susceptible to Communism and its ideas!
  • If you want more on this please refer back to episode #2.
  • Many people want to bash or worst leave the Catholic faith because of the current scandal…That’s pure ignorance!
  • That’s exactly what the Evil One wants them to do!
  • Also we must understand that there are many Judases among us. Are you going to abandon Christ too?
  • We must fight within the Church – This is how Christ demands it because this is the Church He created!
  • You can’t change the Church outside the Church!

2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church...

The #19 Reason Men Are Responsible

So let’s get started with number 19 of the top 21 reasons that men are responsible for the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church.

But first let’s review the first 18…

#1 was Refusal to accept our roll as men.

#2 was Allowed the men in the Catholic Church (Popes, cardinals, bishops, priests, deacons, to water down (dilute the teachings of the Catholic Faith)

#3 was “They didn’t fight for Christ during Vatican II”

#4 an unwillingness to sacrifice for Christ

#5 they have nothing they are willing to die for.

#6 Have begun raising soft and selfish boys (aka – wusses)

#7 Don’t understand our mission and purpose as men – to protect-defend-and serve (God, marriage, wife, children, society at large)

#8 We didn’t crush feminism

#9 We didn’t crush the protestant revolt

#10 We didn’t crush contraception (aka – birth control)

#11 We didn’t crush abortion

#12 We didn’t crush so-called same-sex marriage

#13 We didn’t crush no-fault divorce

#14 We didn’t crush ecumenism

#15 Men have stopped praying

#17 Men have stopped being obedient to God; which means they want to be their own God!

#18 Men have abandoned God for the theory of evolution.

Realize, these top 21 reasons are in no certain order as they all feed upon one another.


 

So, what is the (#19) reason men have caused the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church?

Unchastity: Men can’t control their sexual power!


  • Let me say before I begin on this rant that I once was exactly what I’m going to describe in this segment.
  • I never even tried to control my sexual advancements to women.
  • Even though I knew instinctively it was wrong.
  • In society it just seemed what all men do.
  • And since I didn’t understand Christ and his Church I didn’t want to get left behind.
  • So, I joined the party!
  • Not understanding that this is one of the common long term relationship problems in marriage (sex before marriage).
  • But I must say, this is probably the worst form of cowardice and effeminacy in men.
  • Why, because God has given us this great power over women and how do we use it?
  • Yes, we completely abuse it.
  • I’m going to tell you something that no one is every going to tell you or really knows…
  • Once a woman gives herself to you (even one time) and she reaches coition…
  • She is bonded to you for life, and you to her.
  • For the most part she is now yours (like it or hate it) this is fact.
  • Instinctively, she now will do almost anything for you,
  • She will do almost anything to keep you, to satisfy you, and yes manipulate you if need be.
  • This is partly do to the curse of Eve. Which because of the Fall of man (original sin)…
  • She instinctively desires to control you at all cost, by any means necessary.
  • For this reason, we must understand our power as men.
  • When we have sex with a woman, we think “Hey she knew what she was getting herself into.”
  • Yes, we put all the blame on her.
  • Why?
  • Because it’s easy to deflect our own duty in this area in lieu of pleasure.
  • This is complete cowardice.
  • Then we get upset when she wants more, craves more, from us.
  • Yes, we sleep with her for years and years…
  • Taking from her the most valuable assets she possess as a women…
  • Time!
  • Women aren’t like us.
  • Their time is 10 times more valuable than ours.
  • Why?
  • Because with time women lose their youth, their beauty, their vitality, their ability to have children.
  • And when men abuse them by sleeping with them, and not marrying them…
  • They steal from her what makes her great in God’s eyes.
  • Why he created her, her main attributes for attracting the man she is supposed to live her entire life with, build a family with, become one flesh with.
  • And what do we as men do, we come in with no control, no empathy, to the situation.
  • Look women will tell you anything to have you, once bonded to you.
  • They will tell you, they don’t want marriage…
  • They will tell you they don’t want children…
  • They will tell you they don’t really care if you sleep with other women…
  • They will let you use their bodies, hearts, and minds for decades, all on the promise (whether said or not said) of marriage.
  • Why because marriage is infused into their souls (it’s part of the Natural Law of Man).
  • Look man…
  • No woman, I mean no woman, unless she is extremely disordered (which in that case, you better get as far away from her as possible) sleeps with a man that she doesn’t think she wants to marry.
  • Gentlemen this you must understand…
  • When you have sex with a woman, and then leave her…
  • She will get mad, angry, and in most cases distraught.
  • Why?
  • Because in her mind you have broken a promise.
  • The promise of; I gave myself to you…
  • Which basically means, I gave myself to you, because I thought you loved me, wanted to build a family, get married and spend eternity together.
  • Look, no matter what she says through her lips…
  • Inside the above statement is what she is feeling.
  • And with women, feelings are everything!
  • Again, like it or hate it, it doesn’t matter, this is fact!
  • And deep inside, all men know this (again, that Natural Law thing)
  • And finally, one of the greatest tests of authentic masculinity, is the ability of a man to control his sexual power in lieu of protection of the woman.
  • Not exploit her very being (even if she desires it)
  • As men God gave us the responsibility to protect, defend, and serve those around us. And that main duty extends more so to our helpmates of the opposite sex!
  • So, I pose the question to you as we end this segment…
  • What kind of man are you trying to be?

What do you think?

Send your questions or comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com

Marital Problems?

Alpha Marriage Tactic #1...Do It!

You must ask God to give you power to fight against the sin of pride which is your greatest enemy - the root of all that is evil, and the failure of all that is good. For God resists the proud"


~Saint Vincent De Paul

It’s time for the Catholic Alpha Marriage Tactic – A series of marriage tactics that will transform you from zero to hero!

But only if you drop the laziness, aloofness, and pride; and actually do them!

Consider; Is your marriage passionless, lackluster, mediocre, or currently in the toilet? Want to get it back on track (Make It Great?)

Then consider today’s Alpha Marriage Tactic #1! Either listen to me now, or I guarantee; you’ll be looking for me, or someone like me, later!


Alpha Marriage Tactic #1: You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know


  • Today I want you to consider the description of the man below…
  • His name is “Prideful Paul”
  • Prideful Paul is a man who won't listen; knows everything. As well as, denies the truth, even when it's presented factually and faithfully.
  • He's full of selfishness, and refuses to sacrifice. His ideas, and what he believes, looms above everything, and everyone else. Including the Father!
  • He believes he's actually greater than he truly is.
  • Again, does this describe you in your marriage?
  • You sure? Not even a little bit?
  • Understand, this can be one of the top signs a marriage is ending.
  • The definition of pride according the Modern Catholic Dictionary (by Fr. John Hardon)
  • An inordinate esteem of oneself. It is inordinate because it is contrary to the truth. It is essentially an act or disposition of the will desiring to be considered better than a person really is.
  • Pride may be expressed in different ways: by taking personal credit for gifts or possessions, as if they had not been received from God;
  • By glorying in achievements, as if they were not primarily the result of divine goodness and grace;
  • By minimizing one's defects or claiming qualities that are not actually possessed;
  • By holding oneself superior to others or disdaining them because they lack what the proud person has;
  • By magnifying the defects of others or dwelling on them.
  • When pride is carried to the extent that a person is unwilling to acknowledge dependence on God and refuses to submit his or her will to God or lawful authority, it is a grave sin.
  • The gravity arises from the fact that a person shows contempt for God or of those who take his place. Otherwise, pride is said to be imperfect and venially wrong.
  • While not all sins are pride, it can lead to all sorts of sins, notably presumption, ambition, vainglory, boasting, hypocrisy, strife, and disobedience.
  • Pride strives for perverse excellence. It despises others and, depending on its perversity, even looks down upon God.
  • The remedies for pride are a sincere knowledge of oneself, the acceptance of daily humiliations, avoidance of even the least self-complacency, humble acknowledgment of one's faults, and prayerful communion with God.
  • Wow!
  • A problem with men that has continued to grow over the centuries, is when we think we know something, there is nothing that anyone can do to change our minds!
  • Especially, when it comes to something like our marriage, or religion.
  • Our usual attitude is - Hey I got this. I know my wife. I know how she thinks, and what she is going to do next!
  • Our parents, or our friends, or even our wives themselves try and point things out.
  • But what do we do, because we are lazy and aloof, and think we have all the time in the world, we disregard any input from anyone else.
  • Even if it’s sound advice.
  • Our wife will give us clues about her unhappiness, or concerns with the marriage. But we ignore this.
  • Our pride just won’t let us deal with it. Mainly because we just don’t want to face it.
  • Hell, we’ve got so many other problems (work, bills, the kids etc) how can we possibly worry about some whiny woman right?
  • Well I’m her to tell you. This is the first step to divorce court.
  • The problem here is you don’t know what you don’t know!
  • I hear people say this a lot when it comes to the Catholic faith…
  • Oh, I’ve never heard that teaching before, I’ve never read that before, or I don’t remember learning that in Catholic school.
  • See, that is just us not wanting to accept the truth and deal with it.
  • Our pride just won’t let us see how things really are.
  • Look, just because we have not heard or read or been taught something, doesn’t mean it’s not valid, or true, or doesn’t deserve some consideration.
  • This is what marriage tactic #1 is all about…
  • We must begin opening our eyes, paying attention, and considering things especially about God and his sacrament of marriage.
  • Many times, our marriage has been on the rocks for years until we decide to step, man up, and take action.
  • Then we want Jesus to come in and perform a miracle and save the day.
  • Our wife is ready to walk out the door and take the children with her.
  • She is tired of being placed on the back burner (we’ll discuss this more in another alpha marriage tactic), behind your friends, hobbies, job etc..
  • What I want you to understand now is, that your marriage is probably in the lackluster/ boring stage right now.
  • Why? Because you are neglecting it, as you do with projects needing done around the house!
  • I don’t care who you are. As men we all want to think our marriage is good. But in reality, it’s just barely surviving.
  • Like living paycheck to paycheck. One missed check and we’re bankrupt.
  • This is how most of our marriages are right now (barely hanging on and surviving!)
  • In my experience, usually, if a man thinks his marriage is good, it’s probably not.
  • Why? Because in today’s society, we are all delusional.
  • We continually rationalize that things are great, when in reality they aren’t (our marriage, our relationship with God, our relationship with our children)
  • Just like many of us continually disregard the end of our lives.
  • Why? Because it’s a buzz killer to consider what is going to happen when we die, and if we are, or ever will be prepared to stand in front of God!
  • Sure, there are great marriages out there (maybe even some legendary marriages) but most today are bad, lackluster, or plain passionless.
  • And this stems mostly from one, the pride of us men..
  • Two – God is basically absent from our marriage…
  • And three – we don’t give our marriage much attention, and expect it to be on autopilot.
  • These are all grave mistakes. And it’s only a matter of time before your wife tires and begins displaying symptoms of the curse of Eve! (we’ll discuss this more in a future tactic)
  • But for now, she will begin trying to control you, nag you, become unhappy, feel unsecure in your love, clingy.
  • Or worse, begin seeking another man’s company to replace you!
  • Or even worse yet – she may already be displaying some of these symptoms.
  • And if she is – Brother, you are in serious trouble, and don’t even know it!
  • So, what’s the solution? The solution is,
  • You must be willing to listen to solid advice when the Holy Spirit sends it, through your wife, your mom or dad, or maybe even a friend.
  • And by all means, stop - thinking you know everything or have everything under control.
  • Because I guarantee you, if you come home one day and your beloved is gone, you will lose control, instead of thinking you are in control!
  • So, here are some things that will help…
  • Three steps to help abolish pride in your marriage:

  • Confession because it’s a sacrament, and all graces from God stem from you being in grace with God.
  • Also, if men are not in grace with God, there prayers and sacrifices are of no benefit in the eyes of God
  • Pray the litany of humility
  • Accept the trials of pride when the Holy Spirit sends them your way.
  • The only way to beat the evil of pride is through humility. And the only way to help you with pride is for God to send you tests of humiliation to help you get used to defeating pride in your marriage and common life.

Next, here are Three Benefits to working on Tactic #1

  • You will be more able to battle the demonic when it attacks your marriage. Why? Because the only way to defeat the devil is through humility. Because Satan refused to serve!
  • Humility will allow you to acknowledge and consider that maybe your wife is not responsible for all problems plaguing your marriage.
  • And that you the husband must work on fixing your defects first, if you expect your wife and children to fix themselves as you the husband and father are the leader of the home (authority given by God Himself)
  • Sorry - Your wife and children follow your lead and do what you do!
  • Eliminating pride will allow you to grow in virtue (which leads to holiness and authentic masculinity, driving you to model the ultimate man Jesus Christ.
  • Your virtue and holiness will drive your wife crazy with respect, submissiveness, and devotion. Compelling her to begin fixing her flaws in the marriage and allowing you to lead her and the family towards Christ and His Church!

What are the consequences of failing to follow the Alpha Marriage Tactic #1?

  • Your marriage will never become great, holy, or legendary. And will forever loom in mediocrity.
  • Your wife will never fully commit to you, or follow your lead because your pride will always come between you her and God.
  • An uncomfortable tension will always exist between you as you are always blaming her for your problems, and she reciprocates blaming you!
  • You see how this viscous cycle will never stop if you don’t take the lead and work on your flaws first?

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

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Christian Marriage Advice For Men | God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity! Part 3

August 17, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.



Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity! Part 3

 

The human heart is not wrong in wanting love; it is wrong only in thinking that a human can completely supply it.
What the soul yearns for in the crisis is the Light of love, which is God, and not the shadow...

Instead of thinking that the other partner is to blame for this emptiness, which is so common today, one ought to peer into his own soul

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married

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Christian Marriage Advice For Men

Part One And Part Two Recap

In part one and two of "Christian Marriage Advice For Men" we listed the ten consequences of you placing God on the back burner. To review they were:

  1. Your Wife Will Not Submit To You: Never on the same page. Bickering, tension, rebellion etc...
  2. Your Children’s View Of You; Low: disrespectful, rebellious, disobedience. 
  3. Your Marriage Will Fail: The chance of divorce; high!
  4. Your Marriage Will Be Lackluster: Your marriage is merely hanging on. No fire or passion. You find yourself putting out fires most days.
  5. Your Marriage; Your Home Attacked: The diabolical will infiltrate your marriage and home, while causing chaos.
  6. Your Children Will Grow Up Screwed Up!
  7. You Will Be Lost; No Mission; No Direction
  8. You; Your Wife; Will Never Become One Flesh
  9. Your Wife Will Place Most Relationships Above Her Marriage
  10. You Are Turning Your Back On God; So He Reciprocates

Read part one in its entirety here.

Read part two in its entirety here.

 

Remember, God first, wife second, children third, yourself last. As a husband, your job is to serve. To in essence, consider your wife and her needs before your own. Difficult? Yes, at times. Worth it? Yep! Now and forever!

So, now let's move forward to the action steps you can do starting today.

It's rare that Christian marriage advice for men, includes steps to actually do something. Individuals today have a talent for stating the problems.

But many have no idea or proven suggestions, on how the problem can be solved. Well, you have come to the right place. As below, I give you 18 ways to enhance your relationship with the Father. 

If you start, one at a time, committing these items to practice, your relationship with God will become primary in your life.   Which on the other hand, will spill over into your marriage.

I hope you find value in the action steps below.

 

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

How To Place God First: Action Steps You Must Begin Today!


The proper Christian marriage advice for men is to encourage them on a road and showing them how to place God first (a road covered with blue clouds directing him towards the crucifix)

Christian Marriage Advice For Men: Are You Really Placing God First In Your Life?

The Proper Order Of Things

The best Christian marriage advice for men on the planet? Understanding the natural law, and proper order of things. In essence, the way God set things up to work.

To repeat, the proper order of things is; God first, marriage second, children third, and yourself last. Any deviation, will devastate your Holy Union.

So, how do we place God first? To start, we make time for him, just as with any other relationship. Below, I have a list of 18 items to help get you started. Have fun, and embrace greatness and holiness.

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

A Holy Lover Places: God First; Marriage Second; Children Third; Self Last!

How Can I Place God First?

  1. Christian Marriage Advice For Men: your mission? To become holy (sky blue stairs formed in clouds leading to heaven)
    Christian Marriage Advice For Men: Prove To God That He Is In Fact First In Your Life; With Actions!

    Place God at the top of your mind always; striving for holiness, sainthood, and perfection.

  2. Prayer throughout the day; offering up your sufferings and uniting them with Christ; asking for the grace to endure.
  3. Attending daily mass often. 7 days a week.
  4. Read scripture daily; at least 15 minutes per day.
  5. Read the Catechism of the Catholic Church daily.
  6. Study and embrace the lives of the saints.
  7. Start an apostolate/ministry to evangelize your environment.
  8. Embrace leadership in your Parish/Church. Sit on committees. Mold your Church, using your gift of masculinity. Attend events, get involved.
  9. On Sundays, participate in the Mass/service. Perform the readings, Cantor, Lead the altar boys, Take up the collection, Usher, Choir. Just be seen! Show the women we are there, be an example to other men).

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A Holy Lover Places: God First; Marriage Second; Children Third; Self Last!

How Can I Place God First? More Action By You!

 

  1. Attend Confession frequently (mortal sin immediately, venial sins monthly)
  2. Frequent Adoration. Get yourself in front of the Blessed Sacrament daily!
  3. Study the faith. Read books, listen to Catholic Radio. Find holy men that are teaching and preaching the truth of the faith accurately, and not watering it down to a single drop of rain. Listen to the podcasts of holy men, listen to Youtube channels of holy men.
  4. Personal prayer
    Christian marriage advice for men: do you see your mission (a huge eyeball with 3 crosses placed on Golgatha )
    Christian Marriage Advice For Men: Your Eye On The Prize

    time with you and God alone; at least 15 minutes per day.

  5. At least 15 minutes of meditative prayer per day (the Rosary, Divine Mercy Chaplet, Novenas)
  6. Pray the Angelus daily
  7. Morning offering daily. Offering yourself and service to God.
  8. Daily Examination of Conscience; this will help purify your spirit. As you look in the mirror at yourself each day, and consider what you have done to offend God.
  9. Fasting; begin the art of denying yourself every little pleasure. Fasting trains you in suffering, sacrifice, and denial of your urges. It matures you, teaches you perseverance, fortitude, discipline, and patience. It forges you into True Man!

Summary

Many men will look at this list and begin whining like a little baby. "It's too hard!" "It's too much work!" 

And to that I will say, that's completely effeminate. As well as, borderline emasculation. For decades, men have neglected their duty to proclaim their masculinity as God asks. And now, we are reaping the hell of that labor (same-sex marriage, abortion, divorce etc.)

The job is now yours to take the reins; to embrace the suffering that your father, and your father's father refused to do, since WWII. They raised wusses. Sorry, they did. Failed marriages, mentally twisted children, rape, murder, crime, abound.

We must now change this. If not, evil will keep advancing. Evil will keep destroying marriages, families, and children. When will you take charge? When will you engage? When will you enter the battle; do your part; change society?

The best Christian marriage advice for men? Do the hard work. Start doing these items over time; slowly. Until you are doing them on a regular basis. Don't try and do them all at once. You aren't ready for that.

But, you must do them. No more shucking your responsibility as a man of God. Only you can influence your environment. 

However, you must enlist the help of the Father. He is your foundation. He will assist you with what you need for success.

Lastly, your life will be holier than it was before. You will command respect as a husband, a father; a man. Nuff Said!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • We listed 18 actions that you can do today to start building holiness in your life. To in fact, prove that you are placing God first.
  • This is important, because your actions help build the foundation of your love for God. As well as, proving your willingness to be obedient. 
  • The points above contain some of the best Christian marriage advice for men out there. Remember, sainthood has to be your goal. Nothing less will suffice. 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
 

Are you doing some of or all of these things currently?

 

If not, what are your plans to start?

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • What many married couples do that prevents them from obtaining a one flesh union. It's not what you think!

So, see you next time.

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Christian Marriage Advice For Men | God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity! Part 2

August 3, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity! Part 2

 

The human heart is not wrong in wanting love; it is wrong only in thinking that a human can completely supply it.
What the soul yearns for in the crisis is the Light of love, which is God, and not the shadow...

Instead of thinking that the other partner is to blame for this emptiness, which is so common today, one ought to peer into his own soul

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

Part One Recap

In part one of "Christian Marriage Advice For Men" we listed the first five consequences of you placing God on the back burner. To review they were:

  1. Your Wife Will Not Submit To You: Never on the same page. Bickering, tension, rebellion etc...
  2. Your Children’s View Of You; Low: disrespectful, rebellious, disobedience. 
  3. Your Marriage Will Fail: The chance of divorce; high!
  4. Your Marriage Will Be Lackluster: Your marriage is merely hanging on. No fire or passion. You find yourself putting out fires most days.
  5. Your Marriage; Your Home Attacked: The diabolical will infiltrate your marriage and home, while causing chaos.

Read part one in its entirety here.

Remember, God first, wife second, children third, yourself last. As a husband, your job is to serve. To in essence, consider your wife and her needs before your own. Difficult? Yes, at times. Worth it? No doubt!

So, now let's move forward to the final five concerning, Christian marriage advice for men. Take heed and embrace; be cautious, as in the first five, these will sneak upon you. Many times you won't see them coming until it's too late.

 

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

Top 10 Consequences Of Placing God On The Back Burner (6-10)

Christian marriage advice for men can be complicated. Many men don't understand how their relationship with God affects the relationship with their wife, as well as their children (angry little boy, with paint spatter coming from his mouth)
Christian Marriage Advice For Men: Maximum Meltdown

Six: Your Children Will Grow Up Screwed Up!

Oh, so funny how parents suppose their children will grow up so perfect; so wonderful. Even when they themselves are broken, depressed, and have no idea, how to be a man or a woman, of great moral character. Furthermore, they deny they are bad people.

It’s hilarious, how parents and humans, really believe they are good people.

This is an utter joke! Without the Father, if they haven’t already started before 18. Percentages are high, your children will abandon you. They will abandon the faith. The will do, each and everything you hoped they wouldn’t do.

Why? Because you screwed them up. You presumed, you could do it all on your own. You turned your back on God. You robbed your children of goodness and holiness. You did this, it’s your fault. And yes, you should be ashamed!

Without God, your children will grow up; screwed up. Why? Because you believed the hype. You let society manipulate you into agreeing, evil; Satan; don’t exist.

But my friend, he does. How do I know? Brother, we are killing millions of unborn babies per year! And I bet most of, if not all of, your friends and family, assess this is perfect; it’s fine.

To repeat; Christian marriage advice for men; we are lost; insert God now; and forever!

Seven: You Will Be Lost; No Mission; No Direction

I bet you feel lost right now? You may not want to admit the fact. But, it’s there. You may proceed day to day, using tricks of self-deception to hide reality. But most occasions, during what little self-reflection time you have. It surfaces.

Without Christ as your example. Without His grace. Without the mission of everlasting life. You will remain lost. You will remain bonded in chains. Why? Because if you in truth believe God is present, then you can’t be controlled.

Furthermore, you understand that these short 100 years on this earth are meaningless. As when compared, to eternity and immortality of the soul.

As husbands; Christian soldiers, we must understand; this life is a test. The test? CAN YOU BE OBEDIENT; CAN YOU SERVE; CAN YOU DIE TO SELF; IN ORDER TO BECOME HOLY AND WORTHY, TO STAND BEFORE THE FATHER IN JUDGEMENT!

See man, God; Christ; The Holy Spirit; The Trinity; instill true purpose and meaning in a man’s life. Without them, you are a vagabond. In essence, lost in space. Sad; but true.

You can’t be free, because you’re too busy being controlled by the government, by your brokenness, by your job; your sin! But through the Father; you can be released into everlasting freedom. Free from control of any entity.

Eight: You; Your Wife; Will Never Become One Flesh

I know Jerry; it always boils down to sex. Look, sorry, I didn’t make the rules; God did. I’m only the messenger.

One flesh is two separate souls; dying to self and joining with the Father; to create and join, in His divine love.

Don’t refuse this gift. As proclaimed before. This takes hard work, Determination, reckless abandonment. You mustn’t take this for granted. You are cheating your Beloved, your family, and yourself.

Either you want greatness or mediocrity. Sure, your sex life may be ok, or even good. But I guarantee, without the Father; it isn’t one flesh!

More tips to a good marriage here.

Nine: Your Wife Will Place Most Relationships Above Her Marriage

She won’t do this on purpose. But without the Father, she’ll be as aimless as you. She’ll be lost, because you are lost.

The reality is pitiful; but true. The Fathers grace, your refusal to embrace obedience and place God first, will damage your Beloved. She won’t look at you through the eyes of holiness and virtue. But through blinders.

Moreover, your holiness is masked. Why? Well, you have none., because God is absent. True, deep, and divine attraction, comes from the Holy Spirit, flowing from you into the world. And if you don’t embrace the faith fully, as said before; blinders cover your Beloved.

She will place the children above you. Her mother above you. Her father above you. Her sister; her brother; her friends. Her job as well. You’ll be lucky to even be in the game.

These are worst-case scenarios. However, they will in the end, invade your marriage. The invasion may take two years as in my marriage; or maybe 50 years. But without the Father, the result is inevitable.

Ten: You Are Turning Your Back On God; So He Reciprocates

Last, the Father is so ironic. Just as we suppose that God sends us to hell. We also conjure up; He will keep giving us grace and mercy, as long as we wish.

Wow! How arrogant, selfish, and really stupid! Remember, we have free will. A true gift given. God can only exist in the presence of purity, holiness, saints. How can you think your dirty, impure, butt can enter heaven with all the sin and evil attached to you?

See, this foolishness has been preached by ignorant so-called clerics for decades now. And its placed, millions upon millions of souls in jeopardy.

If we would stop and consider the logic of it all. None of this stuff makes sense. The logic doesn’t hold up.

So, you expect me to understand that God lowered Himself to the equivalency of a nat. In order for us to think “Once Saved, Always Saved”. Are we in complete denial or what?

This ignorance is just an excuse to partake in our own selfishness. To justify it.

As a human person, you can’t remove the rough edges from your soul, if you aren’t in complete obedience. How else can you die to self, and become holy and able to stand in front of God. See, it just doesn’t make sense, when you really consider it.

Well, let them go ahead and keep thinking this way. And God will let them determine their own destiny. The levels of hell; or a place in utter peacefulness.

Summary

In this post, I've covered the last five consequences for husbands who neglect time with the Father. 

The proper Christian marriage advice for men in this situation, is to start putting actions in place, to insert God firmly in your daily life now!

Many times, men are under the notion that they are placing God first. But in actuality, are neglecting time with Him.

We must remember, this is a spiritual battle. The benefit to our marriage, and our children is irreplaceable.

All of the items above, can be easily defeated by enhancing our relationship with the Father; first and foremost in our lives.

In part three of this series, I'll give you plenty of actions you can start today, to help with your ever growing relationship with God. This will also give you an indication; if in fact you are placing Him first, and serving your family before yourself.

In placing God first and yourself last, you open up the attainable goal of holiness. Which is the duty of every Christian soldier.

My question to you, have you started analyzing yourself, as it pertains to the points in this article?

 

Above all, this is a must for your Beloved, your children, and your environment.

Don't disappoint the Father any longer. Work hard to build a solid relationship with Him. Realize, your marriage can help change society at large. If it is great, holy and journeying toward the Father, you can't lose!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • We covered, the last five of the top 10 disasters that can befall your marriage and family. As a result of you denying the Father His rightful place in your life.
  • We also discussed, the benefits of you moving to change your current habits more toward God.
 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
 

Are there more disasters you can think of that can add to the destruction of your family, if God is removed?

 

Be sure to share this article with your friends, to help them become aware of these dangers.

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Part Three: Actions you can do today to begin placing God first in your life, and getting the grace that you need in your marriage.

So, see you next time.

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Christian Marriage Advice For Men | God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity! Part 1

July 20, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.



Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

God Not First? Next Stop? Calamity!

 

The human heart is not wrong in wanting love; it is wrong only in thinking that a human can completely supply it.
What the soul yearns for in the crisis is the Light of love, which is God, and not the shadow...

Instead of thinking that the other partner is to blame for this emptiness, which is so common today, one ought to peer into his own soul

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married

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Christian Marriage Advice For Men

Disaster Afoot!

Christian marriage advice for men? Never leave town, with your Beloved angry at you. As well as, you angry at her. The trip will be a disaster.

My first wife and I, married young. I’m 19; she’s 22. I’m in the Air Force, and we’re stationed in Guam.

Guam is a small territory of the United States, positioned in the Pacific Ocean.

We’ve been married for two years. Then I’m asked to venture on a temporary duty assignment to Australia. It’s to last a week.

Now, for the life of me, I can’t remember what our argument was about. Looking back, I’m sure it’s stupid.

As she dropped me off at the plane, I remember, we didn’t even kiss goodbye (wow, not good).

The flight is near eight hours, from Guam to Australia. During the flight, the fellas spoke of the many women we would meet, as we disembark from the plane.

Over the next week, I meet several ladies (Yep dumb). We spend tons of time together. And, I sleep with one of them. At once, I experience shame.

I pondered the ramifications, of having to return home and tell my wife?

Will I even tell my wife? Should I tell my wife? Should I lay this on her? Should I keep the incident to myself, and cope with the guilt and shame alone?

In the end, I decide to tell her. Why? Because the marriage is in shambles, anyway. I don’t favor secrets. And even at 21 years old, I understand, although I was a knucklehead. First, mistrust; infidelity, can be recovered from. Second, secrets; not so much.

Cafeteria Catholics: What Will You Choose?

Understand, this treachery happens when our life, our marriage, any environment, we’re part of, is void of God’s grace.

Being obedient in complete fullness, is the only possible path. Many Catholics and Protestants, engage in what Catholics call cafeteria Catholics. This means, we only indulge in the part of God’s word, that we feel we agree with.

Of course, this foolishness is a recipe for chaos. As a result, we lose tons of grace. As well as, invite the diabolical into our lives.

What’s This All About?

We will discuss what happens in your marriage, when you the husband, refuse to place God first. Moreover, your Beloved second, your children third, and yourself last.

Why? Because as seen in the story above, without even realizing the ramifications. One, we’re inviting evil into our marriage. Two, into our home. As husbands, we must battle the temptation, not to place everything in front of the Father.

Next, I will show you actions you can partake in, to help place God first in your marriage. Further, in your life at all times.

Last, if you follow my advice, your marriage will be on its way to greatness and holiness. Just as the Father expects.

First, we will start by listing the top 10 disasters that will occur in your marriage. As a consequence, of your refusal to follow the proper order of things. In essence, the way God has designed the family for success (the natural law).

Second, we’ll engage in 18 actions you can take at once. Henceforth, encouraging more time with God, in your marriage and life.

So, let’s get started shall we?

Refusal To Place God First: Enter The Abyss

Again, Christian marriage advice for men, must be truthful and direct (as Christ was in the Gospels). Don’t have time to place the Father first; always something in the way? The diabolical, scratching and tempting you daily?

Wonder if God decided, He didn’t feel like sustaining your life today, by ceasing operation of your lungs? Why? Well, He just didn’t have time today. Get my drift?

These next 10 items are consequences of your refusal to lean on the Father early and often. Stop the foolishness; start the process of recovery now! Or if you deem, everything is cool in your marriage. Heed the warning signs.

More Christian tips to a good marriage here.

Christian Marriage Advice For Men

Top 10 Consequences Of Placing God On The Back Burner


Christian marriage advice for men can be complicated. Many men don't understand how their relationship with God affects the relationship with their wife, as well as their children (angry little boy, with paint spatter coming from his mouth)

Christian Marriage Advice For Men: Maximum Meltdown

One: Your Wife Will Not Submit To You

Period! Your Beloved will be uncooperative. She will always feel the temptation to go her own way. Your relationship won’t be first in her eyes. There will most times, be interference from other entities and projects.

As far as being on the same page at all times; forget it. Moreover, bickering, tension, rebellion, to you and the Father; always present.

See, when you place God first, His grace handles these trials. Sure, many times placing Him foremost in all you do, is tough and grueling. For this reason, you mustn’t rely on feelings. You must view this as a duty daily.

Two: Your Children’s View Of You; Low

Sure, sure, you say, my children respect me, and hold me in the highest esteem. Sure they do, in your face maybe? But the true test? When you are not around.

What do they say? Do they respect your wishes; do as you ask? Do they fight you, and struggle with you at every turn? Do they disrespect your wife (when you aren’t around)? Are they always acting out at school; in Church? Do you have to place them on Ritalin, or some other ADHD medicine to control them?

Do you have to punish them frequently? Do you have the courage to punish them?

Again, the proper Christian marriage advice for men; a peaceful home is hard to achieve. A brilliant marriage is hard to foster. You can’t do it without the Father. It’s just too much, for any one man to handle.

Many occasions in our lives, we don’t realize the chaos abound. We don’t realize how miserable we are. Get on the mission; place the Father first!

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Three: Your Marriage Will Fail!

The chances of your marriage failing without the Word first, and in the forefront; is an extreme possibility.

Not sure? In denial? Do me a small favor; check your surrounding environment. View the many husbands that flow day to day, without even mentioning the Father. Not one prayer. Not one thought!

I guarantee you; inside their marriage; utter meltdown. They are struggling by the hour, to keep it under control. Is this you? Abandon this road to dudsville right now. It’s a losing battle.

You must ask yourself, do I want this fight my entire life? Is this my destiny? To forever battle my wife, my children?

Okay, like I said. Remove the anchor from around your neck. Seek the comfort; of the Savior.

Four: Your Marriage Will Be Lackluster

No passion. No fire. In fact, you always find yourself; putting out fires!

Your marriage is surviving. You can’t seem to thrive. A problem or obstacle looms. Man, I know. I was there! You can’t fool me. I understand the tricks; the small things we do to take our mind off reality. Yep, each of us takes part.

I proclaim, it’s impossible to have a thriving, fantastic, great, toe-curling, awe-inspiring, magnificent marriage. Without the grace of God.

Not going to happen. No way; no how. Sure, you can fake it, until you make it. But in reality, magnificence will never happen. Been there; done that!

But hey that’s why you’re here.

Later, I’ll give you great tips to get the Almighty in the game.

Five: Your Marriage, Your Home; Attacked

Ok, this one is simple. If your marriage, or your home, is absent of God, then what’s the only other essence that’s circling?

If your marriage is absent of God, then contrary, evil, the diabolical is the only thing left.

Realize, you must choose; God or Satan; no in between. If your marriage is void of the Father, then the diabolical is infested, and causing havoc; in your marriage. Furthermore, in your life; in your home; Period!

Understand, many suppose evil is robbery, murder, rape. And yes, this assumption is correct. But, evil also comprises of refusing to pray. Allowing our wife to ingest birth control. Supporting our daughter dressing as a whore, by showing most of, or a high percentage of her body.

These practices are evil, as they breakdown your goodness; steal our innocence. They make you weak to what goodness even is; while inviting in the diabolical. Again, proof? View your surrounding environment; the answers will show themselves.

Get more strong marriage tips here.

Summary

In this post, I've covered the first five consequences for husbands who neglect time with the Father.  Coming in my next article, we'll cover the final five.

The proper Christian marriage advice for men in this situation, is to start putting actions in place, to insert God firmly in your daily life now!

In part three of this series, I'll give you plenty of actions you can start today, to help with your ever growing relationship with God.

In placing God first and yourself last, you open up the attainable goal of holiness. Which is the duty of every Christian soldier.

My question to you, do you want to remain where you are forever?

You must find something that you are willing to sacrifice your life for daily, to in essence, become True Man. But the first step, is having courage to place God first in your life. Every day and all day; no excuses.

At first this will seem weird, uncomfortable, and daunting. However if you persevere, and breach your comfort level, you will start a wonderful journey towards holiness.

Above all, this is a must for your Beloved, your children, and the rest of mankind.

Refuse to disappoint God any further. Embrace your destiny, find your purpose, seek greatness; Place the Father front and center now!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • We covered the natural law, and the proper order of our families. So that we can seek the proper graces from God.
  • We also covered, the first five of the top 10 disasters that can befall your marriage and family. As a result of you denying the Father His rightful place in your life.
 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
 

Are there more disasters you can think of that can add to the destruction of your family, if God is far removed?

Do you see anything wrong with placing your children above the needs of your Beloved?

Be sure to share this article with your friends, to help them become aware of these dangers.

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Part two: The last five of the  top 10 consequences for not placing God first in our life, our marriage life, and our children's life.

So, see you next time.

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Reasons For Divorce | Time To Shut Up; Man Up; And Listen!

May 27, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Reasons For Divorce

Time To Shut Up; Man Up; And Listen!

You must ask God to give you power to fight against the sin of pride which is your greatest enemy - the root of all that is evil, and the failure of all that is good. For God resists the proud"

~Saint Vincent De Paul

 

Reasons For Divorce

Will Pride Cost You Your Beloved?

This problem is enormous with men. We let our pride impede sincere help. Meanwhile, our predicament sinks further and further into oblivion.

Many cases, we wait so long, our situation becomes unrepairable. And, we hit bottom! Thereby, allowing our Beloved's reasons for divorce to become validated.

My question is, how long will you put your marriage on hold?

How far must you fall?

How much longer does your beloved have to suffer?

How much longer must she wait for you to take hold, stand up, put her first?

More important, are you beyond a doubt, ready to sacrifice your marriage?

For these reasons; procrastination and taking your marriage for granted. Are you ready for those consequences?

Do you in fact, want these unanswered questions to be included as reasons for divorce in your marriage?

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

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Don't Think You Need Help?

Enter Prideful Paul

Ah, the big trap (pride). Pride the root cause of almost every sin.

“What can he tell me about my wife?”

“What can he tell me about my marriage?”

“What does he know about my family life?”

“I don’t need anything from anybody!”

“I can figure this out all on my own.”

Oh really? Then why are you here?

You’re here because you need more, want more, crave more than what you now have. In fact, I don’t blame you. You sense something isn’t quite right.

But, having a closed mind in this matter won’t help. This reasoning will keep you entrapped inside yourself. For one thing, every question posed above, mirrored my life at one time or another.

Despite this fact, seeking the truth saved me.

Denial:

The Story Of Adam Revisited

Has someone ever come to you for help? Thereafter, refuse to let you help them? They are so caught up in themselves and their ego, the truth can’t peek through?

Well, I encountered such an experience. Adam is a young confident man, a newlywed. Although, he’s never been married. Adam has numerous children by at least two different women other than his new wife.

Don’t ask me how he found her. In truth, Adam’s wife being a virgin is a blessing to their marriage. The reason being, she won’t have any accompanying baggage to work through (failed sexual relationships, other men’s children for example). Thereby squashing many future reasons for divorce.

Now, I understand from personal experience, how hard meshing one child into a family can be. Problem; Adam has several. Not to mention, with two different mothers.

Furthermore, this marriage starting, has the potential to become volatile (too many people in one marriage). Similar to merging onto an on ramp during rush hour (just won’t fit).

Can you blast, “Complications are coming.”

“Complications are coming.”

The Dilemma

Wives need extraordinary love, care and attention. A conclusion not hard to grasp. To exemplify, new wives, oh my gosh; multiply this by five.

New brides are fragile. As a matter of fact, they require continuous validity of the decision they just made. The decision to spend the rest of their lives with the groom.

In this new union, we have multiple moms, multiple children. Not to mention, the real possibility of the bride experiencing slight envy over not having any children with her husband.

Can you appreciate the predicament? The other women are one up on her. They have something she doesn’t. This intuition is natural (She’s human.)

At present, Adam approaches me with a problem. Sex is non-existent. Marital intimacy is a leaf carried away by a breeze.

Meanwhile, his new bride is all over the place. It hurts. Or, she doesn’t want to do it. Adding, I’m tired, because of work. In fact, any excuse to put him off.

He Just Can’t See It!

Again, to Adam, the blame lies with his wife. Every bit. In particular, the sacred intimacy part. He believes he’s an expert, and he understands the precise actions to take.

The problem is, he doesn’t know. In fact, if he did, his wife may not refuse to give every excuse in the book to avoid loving him. No new bride does that. What’s her payoff?

How many newlyweds do you know of who are unable to keep their hands off each other? Right, none!

To repeat Adam doesn’t realize this point. If he expressed even a small tidbit of humility. He might solve his problem.

Not a surprise, a couple of years later; Adam still suffers from a lack of intimacy in his marriage. And, the reasons for divorce loom over him. However, these can be fixed. But not before, he hits bottom. 

His Bottom Hasn’t Come Yet

The point here? This man perceives he understands everything. In essence, he understands nothing.
 
Again, I point to this story? Why? Because Adam’s behavior is typical.
 
It’s always the other persons fault. It’s never me. Again, you are the man. You must take the lead and responsibility to fix this. In order to accomplish your mission, you must work on yourself.
 
Even more important, consider what you need to do; to fix you. You can’t fix your wife. She must volunteer to follow your lead. But, in order for her to jump onboard, you must work through your deficiencies.
 
Ultimately, you do this by seeking help and the truth.
Click here to access my page dedicated entirely to marriage guidance.
 

Don’t You Mirror Adam

Of course pride is your number one objection and the number one reason men fail.

[pullquote]Pride becomes an objection, because it causes men to rationalize, they don’t need help. Furthermore, encouraging them to reason that there marriage is in better shape than it actually is.[/pullquote]

But, the objections and major reasons for failure don’t stop with pride. In fact, there are several different types of men, who help foster the reasons for divorce in our society.

Below, I list a few of them. In fact, scores of men possess one of these; even all of them.

Well, have fun. Consider if you see yourself, in any of the categories below.

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

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Reasons For Divorce

8 Men who Got It Wrong!

True manhood, submits to the truth, no matter how hard it is"

 

~FR. Chad Ripperger, FSSP, Phd~Speech; How To Raise A Man

 

Prideful Paul

A man who won't listen; knows everything. As well as, denies the truth, even when it's presented

Reasons for divorce? Enter prideful Paul. Pride will explode your marriage and you will find it hard not to seek divorce. (a yelling man with exploded, blown out head in the back, black and gray colors)
Reasons For Divorce: Prideful Paul

to him factually and faithfully. He's full of selfishness, and refuses to sacrifice. His ideas, and what he believes, loom above everything, and everyone else. Including the Father! He believes he's actually greater than he truly is.

No Plan Dan

The man with no plan: Everyone has their own reasons for divorce. But a battle plan is vital to the

The reasons for divorce are plenty. But the mistake of having no plan will destroy your marriage now and in the future. (a man and wife, she is screaming at him)
Reasons For Divorce: No Plan Dan

success of never needing a divorce. Creating a marriage maintenance plan, before you have problems is the answer. The key is not to wait until the marriage is falling apart, and falling off a cliff. Again, in order to take productive action, you must devise a blueprint.

Procrastinate Nate

The man who refuses to assess his situation: These men may

The reasons for divorce? You must acknowledge you have a marriage problem and do something about it. (a man behind a screen screaming with his hands up and on it)
Reasons For Divorce: Procrastinate Nate

accept there’s a problem, but they ignore the crisis and procrastinate. Most of the time, these men don’t realize their predicament is worse than it appears.

Denial Dennis

The man who denies a problem even exists: These men are the worst. They hide behind their wife or

The reasons for divorce include denial that there is an actual problem when there is. ( a husband wrapped completely in ropes covering his whole body)
Reasons For Divorce: Denial Dennis

children. Their wife is basically sleeping with another man, and he still denies a problem exists. She has given him so many clues and hints of her depression or unhappiness. Resulting, in her taking drastic measure to get him to pull his head out of his butt! Still, he wallows in his weakness.

Blaming Bob

The man who continues to focus on his wife’s faults and imperfections: These men are condemned to failure. They refuse to become laser

The reasons for divorce include blaming all but yourself. This philosophy will kill your marriage. (a man sitting at a desk with a cup of coffee, and a huge coffee fist coming from the coffee about to hit the man in the face)
Reasons For Divorce: Blaming Bob

focused on fixing themselves. Again, continuing to blame his beloved, his children, work, his mom, dad, his friend, the government or God for all his problems. In essence, anyone but himself.

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

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Soliciting Sam

The man who solicits advice from ignorant or unsuccessful people: Short and simple; you don’t take marriage advice in any form from

The reasons for divorce? Seeking advice from divorced or unmarried people. Bad move and will cost you in the end. (man with fire and smoke coming out of his ears and mouth with bugged out eyes, in a suit and tie)
Reasons For Divorce: Soliciting Sam

anybody who isn’t married or is at present divorced! In most cases, they are failures, and they will place their biases about marriage upon you. Remember; MISERY LOVES COMPANY!

Distracted Mack

The man who fails to remove most of or all distractions in order to become laser focused on his beloved: Sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice. These men

Reasons For Divorce? being distracted and not focusing completely on your wife over time will destroy your marriage (a man with his head down in misery with women hands encircling over the top of him)
Reasons For Divorce: Distracted Mack

refuse to give up or deny themselves current pleasures or desires (for example, friends, television, other women). Their beloved is screaming for their soul mate. Who in fact, refuses to hear them. Can there exist any more of a coward on this earth?

Godless Gary

The man who refuses to enact obedience to the Father, and insert Him smack dab in the middle of his Holy Union. Again, these men are

The reasons for divorce: You must include God in your marriage. Otherwise fire will engulf your marriage (man in a suit, surrounded by flames)
Reasons For Divorce: Godless Gary

doomed to failure. The Holy sacrament of marriage takes three. These men don’t even realize they’re miserable. Evil has engulfed their marriage by proof of constant problems, trials and tribulations that inflict punishment on their Holy Union and family daily.

I implore you, wake up Christian Soldier!
 
Once again, DON’T BE THAT MAN!
 
Squash all reasons for divorce, in your Beloved's heart and mind now!

The Reasons For Divorce

No Examples Of Great Marriages

You must, search for great examples of marriage. I know, not many present and accounted for.

To begin, first you must recognize what a magnificent marriage is.

In fact, that’s where the Marriage Unchained Masterclass enters the picture. In essence, you need a mentor. Someone who’s been where you are. As well as, where you’re trying to go.

Simple right? Ha-ha, no it isn’t.

But we can get there (perseverance).

In my experience, most men today have no idea how to form a magnificent marriage. Plenty of fathers are missing in action (whether voluntary or forced).
 
The point? The reason doesn’t matter how or why your father was absent in your life. Furthermore, why your father wasn’t the man he needed to be for you to flourish.
 
The fact remains, he wasn’t. Besides, odds are, you don’t have many examples of powerful, worthy men with magnificent marriages.
 
Even if you did wish to seek them out, and use their marriage as a model.
 
To repeat, learn what an awe inspiring marriage is, and what to watch for. Then your model will be easier to spot.
 
So, one, you need instruction on what to look for in a marriage.
 
Two, you need someone who is where you want to be (a mentor).
 

The Reasons For Divorce

How Do You Place A Value On Forever?

You Must Put In The Work To Have:

A marriage where your beloved feels totally and completely loved

A marriage where your wife feels secure.

A marriage where your wife feels happy.

A marriage where your beloved feels complete fulfillment during the marital embrace.

The reasons for divorce are vast. You must put in the work to have a great marriage. Or else your wife will be standing in front of the hates of hell in a red flowing long dress, floating on water)
Reasons For Divorce: How Do You Put A Value On Forever?

A marriage where you and your wife are best friends.

A marriage full of trust, vulnerability and unselfishness.

A home filled with peace.

A marriage enhanced by sacred intimacy.

A marriage of complete self-giving, sacrifice and fidelity.

A marriage full of Grace, prayer and The Father.

A marriage where your beloved spreads her love, fulfillment and happiness
throughout your family.

This isn’t hype, but truth if you put in the work!

Unchain It; Now!

You’re bottled up; you feel restrained; restricted. You’ve got to release all that pent up resistance.
 
You must become focused, immovable, unalterable from your ultimate goal. Allow nothing (man or beast; emotion or notion) to block your path.
 

What Would You Give?

  • For peace?
  •  For your beloved to once again approach you to make sacred love to her?
  • For one hour, two hours, three hours, four hours, five hours, six hours plus?
  • For the lifelong satisfaction of a marriage not just surviving but thriving?
  • Even if you’re 35, 45, 55 or 65 years young!

I Demand That You …

Release your doubt, get a plan; jettison it into practice.

Moreover, begin to unchain your trust, unchain your passion, unchain your sacrifice, unchain your vulnerability, unchain your intimacy, unchain your unselfishness, unchain your will!

While at last, unchaining your marriage, and, terminating all reasons for divorce.

I must testify. It's a magnificent place to be!

Summary

To summarize and state once again, Catholic Alpha is about leading you down the path to Sainthood and Holiness. And, that starts with your marriage. As I've stated many times before, you are commanded to get your beloved to Heaven. Even at the sacrifice of your one and only life.

You can’t be the man God is calling you to be without your wife; without your marriage. Furthermore, you need her. She is part of you; she is made for you; she is made from you.

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • How pride is the #1 reason men fail in their mission to save their marriage.
     
  • The top seven secondary reasons men fail and the description of each and how they affect your success.
     
  • How to spot a great marriage.
     
  • Where to find help to obtain a marvelous marriage.
     
  • How a bad marriage looks and how to avoid them.
 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Do you have experience, or know of a marriage that has any of the problems listed above?
 
Which one of the men above do you most emulate?
 
What is your plan to fix this craziness?
 
Let me know something. List your thoughts below.

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • One of the most neglected questions that is never discussed in a marriage.
  • Why it's never asked.
  • And how asking this vital question, can change your whole approach to the Holy Caress.
  • While helping subdue your reasons for divorce.

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Bad Wife? | Did You Create This Monster?

May 15, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Bad Wife?

Did You Create This Monster?

When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her.

The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.”

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~ Life Is Worth Living

 

Bad Wife?

Could The Problem Be You?

A span of 30 years. An adventure to over five countries. An encounter of thousands of people, and hundreds of marriages.
 
 
Furthermore, in all those years, in all those places, and the meeting of all those people. Never did I stumble upon, one man that approached with this statement. As their marriage faded into oblivion:
 
“Jerry, my marriage is in a terrible way. And I realize my wife has some problems. But if I were to be honest. I would have to admit. I haven’t, for the most part, been the man I needed to be in our marriage. In fact, the man my Beloved needed me to be.”

This Is The Man Our Society Needs!

Now this is what I’m talking about! A look in the mirror. A smack in the face. A series kick butt, man up, strong, masculine, take responsibility, leader of men; response I’m looking for.
 
Not some soft, weak, wuss response blaming our woman! It’s all her fault. She did this. She did that. She’s like this. She’s like that. She doesn’t do this for me. She doesn’t do that for me.
 
Look man, our wives are just being who they are (women). They’re emotional, they’re sensitive, they’re loving, they’re compassionate.
 
View it this way:
 
The Father already told you:
 
“Woman He made them.”
 
Should you expect anything else? I mean, come on man. Be real!
 
Sure, women may be all the things I’ve stated. But I’ll tell you this; straight out.
 
In all those years.
 
In all those places.
 
In all those people.
 
I’ve never met a good wife or a bad wife, who disrespected; bad mouthed; deceived; wanted to abort a child; slept around or abandoned:
 
A strong, masculine, Christian man on the journey, and accepted becoming the man that God was calling him to be!
 
And that’s the truth. Sure, extreme exceptions exist. And I’m sure you can state one. In fact, these occasions are rare.
 
Revelation:
 
Women, wives, mothers, do not leave, abandon, divorce Men (husbands, fathers) when they feel; loved, cherished, fulfilled and first in all things.
 
Sorry, it just doesn’t happen. It’s natural law, in her instincts; just not in her DNA!
 
Brother, can you feel me?

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

Enter The Marriage Masterclass Now!

The First, Middle, Last And Only Question

I WANT YOU TO BE THAT MAN!
 
It's why I created  Catholic Alpha and Marriage Unchained. 
 
I understand from the deepest depths of my soul; we must change the men of our society, in order to change the world at large.
 
I want you to become part of this movement. One of you at a time. One great marriage, one great family, one great man. Turning a bad wife into a great wife.
 
As I’ve stated before. Our women will be who and what they are. The facts are plain, simple, exact.
 
This assessment isn’t good or bad. It’s just the way it is.
 
However, there’s one thing I must tell you. And you may not believe me. Indeed, the truth is the only direction I can approach from.
 
Contrary to popular belief; and even if you have a bad wife:
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS TO FOLLOW YOU.
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS TO BE IN YOUR CORNER.
 
YOUR YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO DEFEND, PROTECT AND SERVE HER.
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO LEAD YOUR FAMILY IN GOOD, HOLINESS AND TOWARDS SAINTHOOD.
 
Brother, she has to. She is your Beloved. But you must earn this. You must pursue this objective with complete fierceness, passion, fire and reckless abandonment.
 
You must, in fact; be worthy.
 
Hey, even a bad wife can get behind a man such as this!
 
Women aren’t stupid. They possess instincts, insights and powers we can’t and never will in truth understand.
 
Moreover, are you worthy of your beloved?
 
Right now, at this point in your life? Have you been that man?
 
Can you honestly step up and proclaim to the world:
 
“Yes Father, I have been that man!”

If You Can’t Guess What? It’s OK

Why? Because my friend, life is a journey. In truth, An ever growing trek towards the Father. Where you will learn, grow and advance.
 
Meanwhile, becoming worthy of your Beloved.
 
This path is all she asks.
 
Click here for my page dedicated to what God expects from us and our manliness.
 

The Question: The Answer

So, the question, what is it? What could it possibly be? What in fact, is this awe inspiring, mind blowing revelation?
The answer?
What can I do, to change me, fix me, kill my old self above all else; become worthy?
See, no other way exists. By changing you; you change her.
Again, she is part of you, made for you; made from you.
You can only fix her, mold her, purify her, by igniting your will in suffering and sacrifice of her. In essence, fixing yourself.
Then, and only then, will you become worthy of her, and the things the Father has given you.
Tired of hearing sacrifice, suffering and unselfishness? I know, so was I.
Nevertheless, it’s part of the job; part of our mission as Christian men (the price of greatness).
This holds true no matter your current predicament of a good wife, or a bad wife.
Denying this part of us, is denying what Christ asks of us (to accept our role as protector, defender and server).
For this to work, you must rinse and repeat for a lifetime. Why?
Hey brother, haven’t you heard?
This crazy and messed up world isn’t it (isn’t the end).
The Father awaits!
Yeah, you got it; exactly.

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  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
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Summary

 

Again, are you worthy of your Beloved? Do you fight to gain virtue, and become the best moral example of yourself daily? In essence, fighting the spiritual battle within yourself. Never relenting?

Look, this is why you are Christian! Lean on the Father. Ask him to send the Holy Spirit to guide you, and help you fight. Pray, fast and prepare for battle!

See this is how you change a bad wife. She and your family, follow your lead. If you fall, they fall. If you rise, they rise. You must protect them from yourself. By being the best moral example of a man, you're able to muster.

No excuses, no whining; just freakin' do it!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You learned the beginnings of how to start to turn your marriage around.
  • You've started to consider the worthiness of you as a husband.
  • Also, if you have a bad wife; maybe you could be the problem.
  • Lastly, get in the fight, and begin fighting the spiritual battle today! 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Have you started taking your Beloved for granted?
 
When is the last time you really tried to win her heart?
 
Do you really expect your wife to be into you, if you refuse to be into her (totally and completely?)
 
 

 

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Pride and egoism in marriage, and how it can cost you your Beloved.
  • Seven examples of men who have let pride murder their marriage. And how not to let his happen to you!
  • Also, an old secret you can use to help you keep your marriage on track.

 

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Do You Have A Cheating Wife? | First Mission: Fix Yourself!

May 12, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.



Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Do You Have A Cheating Wife?

First Mission: Fix Yourself!

In divorce cases, this is called mental torture or domination.

Really, it is egocentricity, in which one ego loves itself in the other ego. The I is projected into the Thou and is loved in the Thou. The Thou is not really loved as a person; it is only used as a means to the pleasure of the I.

As soon as the other ceases to exhilarate, the so-called love ceases.”

~ Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen, Three to Get Married

 

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Cheating Wife: The Gift Of Ten

When is the last time you gave your wife “The Gift Of Ten?” You may be wondering; what is “The Gift Of Ten?” Well, “The Gift Of Ten” means 10 orgasms (a partner of “The Forever Orgasm”).

 

You’re right, this question is raw. Especially, for Christian husbands.  Because many of us are taught that sex is naughty, dirty; should be kept in the dark; stored away in the storage room. To only be dusted off and mentioned, when the so-called; urge hits us.

 

Well, this train of thought is foolishness. Holy Sex; the marital embrace; the Holy Caress; [pullquote]Sacred Intimacy is not what we do. In fact; when ordered toward God; sex is who we are.[/pullquote]

 

The Father is good. Therefore; He can only create good. God created sex. Therefore; sex is good. That’s why the marital embrace is referred to as; the marital embrace. Because, it’s meant to only be done between the married couple.

 

But, when done outside of marriage; which means, done outside and ordered away from God (in essence, evil.) The act of the Holy Caress, is engulfed in eroticism, filth and causes great evils.

 

I’m speaking crazy you say? Well, the proof is around you. How many sexual relationships outside of marriage, end up in the toilet (unwanted children, abortions, fatherless homes, broken, hurt, used, and abandoned women, rapes, pedophilia, incest, infidelity?)

 

Each of these evils, have a root cause, stemming from sexual relations outside the marital embrace. Please; please try and rationalize that I’m wrong. But of course, I’m not.

To Stop A Cheating Wife?

Understand The Purpose Of Your Manhood

You must remember; God gives us what we ask for. Whether it’s Heaven or Hell.

 

You indulge in filth; He allows you to feel and be treated as dirt. You embrace purity, sanctity, and Holiness, the way He has designed it? Your marriage is rewarded with peace, passion, fruitfulness, unbelievable intimacy, fidelity, and an amorousness unlike any other.

 

Again, the question. When is the last time you sacrificed your ultimate pleasure in service of your wife, by giving her “The Gift Of Ten?” My bet, is not of late, or in many marriages; not ever!

 

God has given you the gift of masculinity. You in turn, must view your ability to satisfy and fulfill your Beloved as a gift from the Father. On loan, given to you by Him. Your masculinity is a gift in service and dignity of your wife; and the Father’s will. Not merely, to satisfy your urges and ego.

 

As St. Pope John Paul II proclaims in his writings, Love And Responsibility; the husband is required to make sure that his wife is given the gift of climax. As not to be used as a mere object, but to uphold her dignity as a human person. (More on female orgasm and a man's duty here)

 

I will add to that by saying, this is the minimum standard. Many wives need much more than one, for a deep and fulfilling sexual experience. And, I believe it’s safe to say, your wife is in this category (enter “The Gift Of Ten”).

Cheating Wife? Give Her The Gift Of Ten!

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Do You Have A Cheating Wife?

Fix Yourself First!

You boast, you love her. You say, she’s the most important person in your life. You claim, you would do anything for her happiness. In the end, aren’t these mere words? Until you put into action these phrases, they have no meaning whatsoever.

 

Until you insert the Father at once, into the center of your marriage, you and your wife will continue to be attacked by the Evil One.

 

If you have a cheating wife?  Do me a favor, and consider; just consider, your roll in this travesty. Until you learn to sacrifice, suffer, and place yourself last. Moreover, to understand what this truly means in your marriage and family. You; your Beloved; your children; nothing but unhappiness, misery, and attacks from the Father Of Lies.

 

Listen or don’t listen. The ultimate choice is yours. But see, I have a joyous wife. Do you? Have you ever even considered this question?

 

Probably, over the span of your marriage. You’ve refused to absorb the clues, your wife has given you, concerning her unhappiness and emptiness. In wait for you, her Beloved husband to return to her. To once again love her, engulf her in pure passion and intimacy. To insure her; she’s first in all things in your life. Only you can answer these claims as true or untrue, in your marriage.

 

This cluelessness is a gargantuan problem in husbands, and men in general. You know the type. They know everything. You can’t tell them anything. And if you do, you must use kid gloves. Because they will get offended, upset, or muster a complete breakdown. Total emasculation and effeminacy.

 

So, when their wife approaches, and makes known, she’s leaving. Or instead of leaving him, she has an affair on his lazy, aloof butt!

 

He’s in total shock and bewilderment, as to her cause or reasons. He’s too stupid, to realize what his Beloved needs to feel close to him. Mainly, because he’s too concerned with his own selfishness.

 

He refuses to zero in on his wife, to make her sense appreciation and fulfillment. In essence, he’s slowly over the years, started to take his Beloved for granted. And, she can no longer stand being treated as an object. Do you blame her?

 

Now, I understand the wife deserves blame as well. But, we aren’t talking about your wife. We’re talking about you. The leader. The man of the household. The individual, charged to protect, defend, and serve. The Christian soldier Christ left in charge.

 

If you keep company with the millions of men who suffer from a cheating wife. I must proclaim, look at yourself first. Place yourself in front of the mirror and examine your roll. Fix you! Get yourself right with God. Before you rush out and scream, blame, and attack, your wife for her problems and indiscretions.

 

In fact, I’m asking you to become the husband she needs. In order that your Beloved is compelled, to follow and embrace your leadership.

Refuse Effeminacy

Deny Yourself Pleasure In Lieu Of Greatness!

Remember; Christ left you in charge of this realm. Not your wife; you! She is your helpmate, your battle partner. But you must fight, to become the man God created you to be, so you can lead, and become worthy of your wife’s loyalty, love, and trust.

 

In essence, become the best moral example of yourself. Then and only then, will she submit to you, and allow you to be her hero, her champion. To once again, become worthy of her; the man of her dreams.

 

Your first instinct will be to resist what I’m telling you. Don’t! That’s evil, and your brainwashing from society kicking in.

 

Refuse to hear that foolishness, and to further be manipulated. Use what the Father has given you. Invoke the Holy Spirit. They will help you realize what needs to be done?

 

My proof? Consider your life up to this point. You’ve done everything and all things on your terms. My question to you?

 

HOW-HAS-THAT-WORKED-OUT-FOR-YOU!

 

Understand more on how to deal with infidelity, by exploring my page dedicated specifically to infidelity and its prevention here)

Summary

Many husbands reading this article, will complain and whine, concerning how I've painted a picture of them having to do all of the work.

The problem, most of our lives we've been conditioned to focus on the other person's faults and misdeeds. While in complete denial of our own foolishness and selfishness.

Well, I don't roll like that. You can't keep your Beloved, not to mention a cheating wife happy, by continuing to only focus on her craziness.  

You must zoom in on what you can control. And, the only person you can completely control is you. Change you; dig deep into what you can do to improve yourself. And I promise, you will look tantalizing to your Beloved.

Insert God. Realize the meaning of sacrifice and suffering, for the benefit of another. Kill your ego. Dismiss selfishness. In essence, become marketable, a great catch, a stud, a blue chipper again.

Stop being lazy! Stand up for the truth, and what's right and virtuous in this chaotic society.

Be "A Man Of Courage".

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You learned what "The Gift Of Ten" is. And where to learn more on this wonderful concept. (Subscribe to my two week email course to learn more; much more.) 
  • You also learned, how important it is to adopt the proper mindset concerning the marital embrace. Moreover, how God views the art of making love.
  • You now understand that in order to understand a cheating wife. You must first understand, what the Father expects from you concerning the gift of masculinity He's entrusted to you.
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Do you agree with the principles I've set forth in this article?
 
Do you know of other husbands that are taking their wives for granted? And getting a wife who is fed up; depressed; with feelings of emptiness?
 
Shoot me some comments!
 
 

 

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Your ever growing roll as the protector and defender of your home.
  • Also, we'll cover what wives really need in a husband; not necessarily what they want. And how it's important that you realize the difference.

Catch you next article. It will be powerful!

 

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How To Save Your Marriage | A Case Study

May 5, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

How To Save Your Marriage

A Case Study

Newlyweds: In The Dark

Virtues are formed by prayer. Prayer preserves temperance. Prayer suppresses anger. Prayer prevents emotions of pride and envy. Prayer draws into the soul the Holy Spirit, and raises man to Heaven.

~ St. Ephraem"

 
Has someone ever come to you for help, then refuse to let you help them? They are so caught up in themselves and their ego, the truth can’t peek through?
 
Well, I encountered such an experience. Adam is a young confident man, a newlywed. Although, he’s never been married. Adam has numerous children by at least two different women other than his new wife.
 
Don’t ask me how he found her. In truth, Adam’s wife being a virgin is a blessing to their marriage.
 
The reason being, she won’t have any accompanying baggage to work through (failed sexual relationships, other men’s children for example).
 
Now, I understand from personal experience, how hard meshing one child into a family can be. Problem; Adam has several. Not to mention, with two different mothers.
 
Furthermore, this marriage starting, has the potential to become volatile (too many people in one marriage). Similar to merging onto an on ramp during rush hour (just won’t fit).
 
Can you blast, “Complications are coming.”
 
“Complications are coming.” 

The Dilemma

Wives need extraordinary love, care and attention. A conclusion not hard to grasp. To exemplify, new wives, oh my gosh; multiply this by five.
 
New brides are fragile. As a matter of fact, they require continuous validity of the decision they just made. The decision to spend the rest of their lives with the groom.
In this new union, we have multiple moms, multiple children. Not to mention, the real possibility of the bride experiencing slight envy over not having any children with her husband.
Can you appreciate the predicament? The other women are one up on her. They have something she doesn’t. This intuition is natural (She’s human.)
At present, Adam approaches me with a problem. Sex is non-existent. Marital intimacy is a leaf carried away by a breeze.
Meanwhile, his new bride is all over the place. It hurts. Or, she doesn’t want to do it. Adding, I’m tired, because of work. In fact, any excuse to put him off.

It Doesn't Take A Genius

This problem isn’t unusual. I tried to explain, and bring to light the reality of his current state of affairs: In essence, suggesting to Adam; these are the problems I see. Consider them, so that you can understand how to save your marriage: 
 
1) To many people, not enough marriages.
 
2) The odds are pain is present, but not something that can’t be taken care of by his assurance of his love for her.
 
3) A high chance exists, she feels neglected in some way.
 
4) He is carrying a ton of baggage with him into his new marriage. Either he’s unaware or refuses to admit the problem.
 
5) More important, he isn’t being patient enough with his new bride. She’s new to this and to him. Her body may take hours before she’s ready for marital intimacy.
 
6) He blames his bride and neglects himself.
 
7) Not enough prayer (for his wife, his marriage) A predicament such as this requires frequent prayer and sacrifice. So much baggage, coping is hard without help.
 

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  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

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He Just Can't See It!

Again, to Adam, the blame lies with his wife. Every bit. In particular, the sacred intimacy part. He believes he’s an expert, and he understands the precise actions to take.
The problem is, he doesn’t know. In fact, if he did, his wife may not to give every excuse in the book to avoid loving him. No new bride does that. What’s her payoff?
How many newlyweds do you know of who are unable to keep their hands off each other? Right, none!
To repeat Adam doesn’t realize this point. If he expressed even a small tidbit of humility. He might solve his problem.
Not a surprise, a couple of years later; Adam still suffers from intimacy deficiency in his marriage.

How To Save Your Marriage:

Abraham's Story

Abraham’s the man! He’s been married 10 plus years. He’s rockin’ and rollin’ along in his marriage. Plus, he has cool hip hop kids.
 
 
He spends tons of time with his so called “boyz”. Playing pickup basketball games. As well as, hanging at different meetings here and there. In fact, Abraham is having an all-around toe tapping time.
 
He’s even going to Mass (Church) and checking out the big boss man (Christ) every week. To admit, Abraham assumes his life and marriage are moving along quite fantastic.
 
All at once; Bam! All stop mode. Wife starts having issues (not wanting to have a meaningful sexual relationship with him). As a result, the kids start acting out of whack. His home becomes a house of chaos.
 

What The Heck Happened?

Abraham contacts me. I ask some questions and get the story.
He tells me his wife rushes him during sacred intimacy (encouraging him to get it over with). Further, he senses her mind isn’t into their togetherness.
More important, the couple makes love at most every three or four weeks. Sometimes less. Ouch! Bordering on a complete sexless marriage.
Commencing, I ask, “What is your view of your marriage?” I find out, not so good. Thereafter, he tells me he’s complaining about her weight (No, no, no not the weight!) He did not go there, did he? Yes, he did (bad move).
Abraham, also told me, he’s spending a lot of time away from home during the evenings. As a result, he’s getting home late. Sometimes after 11pm. Meanwhile, his beloved is already sleep (having to arrive at work early). 

Dang! Another Adam

Here we go again. Another so-called enlightened husband. The expert in all things marriage. Won’t think; won’t analyze; won’t listen.
 
Conversation:
“Abraham, man maybe you should drop some activities during the evening?”
“But Jerry, I have a lot going on.” “I can’t right now.”
“Abraham, I just don’t think your wife is into you right now. Maybe you ought to spend more time with her, and see what’s going on?”
“Look, the basketball season will be over in a few weeks. Then I will be home more during the evenings.”
“Abraham, that’s cool, but this is your wife, your marriage, we’re talking about. It needs to be first. It needs attention now, not in a few weeks. Your wife is giving you hints now, there’s a problem.”
“Look Jerry, I’ll talk to her, and tell her I’m done with the games in a few weeks. She should be fine until then.”

Again, He Just Doesn't Get it

To emphasize, this man has ten plus years of experience in marriage. And he still estimates, he can take his beloved for granted.
He still assumes she can wait.
 
Let’s analyze this for a second. In essence, what is he saying? He’s releasing a powerful message; the fellas (his friends and activities) are more important than his wife, his marriage, his children.
 
And we wonder how talk of divorce begins. The question of how to save your marriage always echoing through the air in today's society. How marital intimacy declines. In fact, it’s never immediate (drips in slow and over time).
In reality, Abraham is taking the most important relationships in his life; for granted. Falsely assuming, they will be available when he needs them.
Furthermore, he blames his wife for their current intimacy problems (in serious denial mode).

Second Request For Help

Now, sometimes it takes even the smart ones a little time to realize their predicament. Meanwhile, circumstances worsen. 
Of course, after the season, Abraham neglected to change his habits. He continued the current path; taking his beloved for granted (using her only as an object for his desire). As a result, no sacred love (at all).
 
 
 

How To Save Your Marriage

Suggested Solutions

  1. Ask God to help you with your marriage.
  2. Repair your wife’s lack of security, neglect and unconditional love.
    How to save your marriage? Sacrifice, suffer and insert God into your mind, you heart and your marriage!
    How To Save Your Marriage: INSERT GOD!
  3. Show her by your actions, she is number one in your life. Not your buddies.
  4. Spend an excessive amount of time with her.
  5. After your actions have convinced her you have again, regained your sanity. Wait for her to approach you for marital intimacy.
  6. To strengthen your bond of complete and total self-giving, sacrifice your satisfaction for hers. Be sure that she has as many climaxes as she desires (before you Lose Your Cool).

Glowing Results

Abraham is back on track.

  • He contacted me yelling, their love making has increased
  • He has started putting his wife and marriage above all else.
  • Once again, on the path to becoming the man God is calling him to be.
  • Smart man!
  • More Marriage help; the purpose of marriage here.

Summary

As men, sometimes we forget our mission; our duty, our responsibility, our end game (lots of distractions).
 
I didn’t do anything special. I just reminded him once again, what his actual purpose on this earth is.
 
 
To repeat, Iron Sharpens Iron, Only another man can sharpen another. 
 
This is our mission as Christian Soldiers. To approach our fellow brother; be his friend; redirect him to the course; the mission; Christ!
 
To summarize and state once again, this course is about leading you down the path to Sainthood and Holiness. And, that starts with your marriage.
 
As stated above, you are commanded to get your beloved to Heaven. Even at the sacrifice of your one and only life. This in reality, is how to save your marriage; you embrace sacrifice.
 
You can’t be the man God is calling you to be without your wife; without your marriage. Furthermore, you need her. She is part of you; she is made for you; she is made from you.
 
Stay the course; persevere; Christian Soldier.

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You've seen two examples of husbands in unacceptable conditions in their marriage.
  • One choosing to abandon his responsibilities the other choosing the route needed to improve his marriage.
  • Both stories should have given you ideas of how to save your marriage. Basically, what to do, and what not to do.
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Are there times in your marriage when you refuse to listen?
 
How has this leadership worked out for you?
 
 

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • We will look at why husbands continually  fail in their marriages (and, thus how to make sure you don’t)

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