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IS THE CHAOS OF DIVORCE BETTER?

• 1) Her leaving?
• 2) All the paperwork?
• 3) The time spent at the lawyers office?
• 4) The endless hours preparing for court?
• 5) The custody battle over the kids?
• 6) Only getting to see the kids once every other weekend?
• 7) All the wasted money and resources?
• 8) Losing the house?
• 9) Losing the property?
• 10) Losing the cars?
• 11) Her treating you like a complete stranger?
• 12) Having to get a part-time job to make ends meet?
• 13) Having to now go to separate Churches
• 14) Not being around your friends, because those are her friends too?
• 15) The kids growing up with split up parents?
• 16) Hoping the kids will be ok, knowing deep down they won't?
• 17) The kids as adults having no examples of a good marriage?
• 18) So, they quit too just as their parents did!

WOULDN'T IT BE SO MUCH BETTER TO COME HOME TO...

• peace, a happy and loving wife, who loves, respects, and is completely devoted to you?
• Just an all-around beautiful marriage and family?
• This is why you must listen to these clues even if you are already in marriage crisis!

In today’s episode, we cover clue #19…that your wife wants a divorce

We’ll go into this more after the break.

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Before I tell you the #20 clue let’s review the previous 19…

1) Does she seem distant?

2) Is she spending more time with single friends?

3) Does she seem uninterested in the marital embrace?

4) Is she still as supportive as she used to be?

5) Is she still as loving as she used to be?

6) Does she go out to clubs and events without you?

7) Does she take longer to answer your texts or phone messages?

8) Has her conversation with you become very short and to the point?

9) Has the bickering increased?

10) Has the arguing increased?

11) Has she started putting the kids, above you?

12) Has she started putting her friends, siblings above you?

13) Have you going to mass and entering the spiritual battle daily

14) Does she seem unusually depressed or unhappy?

15) You make love less than once per week

16) You make love less than once a month

17) Has she lost weight for no apparent reason

18) Has she started getting her hair done more often for no apparent reason?

19) Lately, does she dress nicer, or more provocative?

So, what is clue #20 that your wife may want a divorce?

Drum roll please – Lately are you beating her home when before she was already home?

Ok this is a no brainer, right?

Most all men pick up on this one.

But there a few mistakes they make.

One is they hire someone or they follow her.

Two they confront her and cause a huge argument.

Three they go and find the man and confront him and cause violence and someone is hurt or put in jail.

Four once they know she is having an affair they go to the persons house or their wife’s new house.

Let’s take these one at a time.

First off I learned in my first marriage to not follow anyone.

She is grown and I can’t control anything she does anyway.

Number two, confronting her and causing an argument…

The mistake men in this situation make is they get verbal and physical…

which means things happen that can’t be taken back.

And continually over the years she uses it as a barrier over and over again…

of how you hit her or called her a certain name!

Not to mention, she calls the Po Po on him and he is put in jail for the night.

And many times he is arrested in front of the kids.

This is never good.

And goes back to my first point of trying to control someone who is grown.

Also, if your instincts are telling you your wife is messing around, they are probably correct.

But the way to confront her is not with an argument…

but to just let her know that you know what she is doing…

and that it has to stop, if she has any desire that your marriage will or can get better.

Then let her take it from there!

Don’t argue or debate or fight.

If she wants to explain herself that is fine.

All you do is listen and reserve all of your comments and thoughts for after you have had time to digest what she’s told you.

This keeps you out of jail and from saying or doing anything stupid…

which your children may hear or watch you taken away in handcuffs.

The third point of confronting the man is completely illogical.

This many times causes the police to get involved and all the police see is this crazy man trying to harm an innocent man.

You know it’s like in football…

the referee never sees the first punch only the retaliation.

Next in the homewrecker’s eyes your wife is his now.

You messed up and lost her…

and he feels since she came to him, she now belongs to him!

And that you are the one intruding on his fun!

The fourth point of going to the man’s house to see if your wife is there is also illogical.

And most times you get more than what you bargained for…

I knew a man who was obsessive.

And so one night he went down to the man’s house and saw his wife’s car there.

But oh no, he didn’t stop there.

He decides to go up to the bedroom window and look in.

And of course you know what he saw…

The whole deal and his wife was making pleasurable noises and it really destroyed him.

Gentlemen, you can’t get that kind of seen out of your head…Ever!

Moreover, if and when you and your wife work it out, you’ll always see that horror in your mind.

So, I’ve just told you how to handle all of these marriage horrors if they occur.

But the best way to handle all of these, and all of the clues in this series…

is to stop them from happening before they happen in the first place…

How, by you not becoming distracted with your relationship with God and your Beloved…

Do ya feel me?…BAM!