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So, what are the behaviors of a troubled wife?

Moreover, what are the clues your wife displays when she is unhappy and considering or planning to leave your marriage?

A more important question is why?

Do you know…do you even care?

Those of you listening who think your wife will never leave you are in a dream world.

And if right now the answer to the question of, “Are you and your wife as emotionally close as you could be?” is no or I’m not sure…

You have entered the Wife’s Exit Strategy Zone where your wife is considering or has considered what to do about the lack of emotional connection in your marriage.

Why? Because for her this is the most important thing (above God, the children, her duty as a wife or mother etc.)

Once the closeness is gone, she will start telling herself, “This is not what I signed up for!”

Then comes the question, Can I be happier with him or without him?

If the answer, is I can be happier. Sadly, she will start planning her exit strategy. And you her husband will not even suspect it.

For this reason, the clues in this series are so valuable as they give you an idea of what is about to happen, if you are willing to see and act upon them!

If you make the rookie mistake and think, she is being emotional or I’ll take care of this later…

You’ll find that later never comes and your wife and family have exited stage left!

Because I know from experience that no one teaches us how to build a great, loving, passionate, and exciting marriage over decades!

So, in my effort to help you, I present to you the clues that if noticed or better yet removed from your marriage, will help you rekindle it and save you and your family much pain and agony!

In today’s episode, we cover clue #11…that your wife wants a divorce

We’ll go into this more after the break.

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Clue #15

Before I tell you the #15 clue let’s review the previous 14…

• 1) Does she seem distant?
• 2) Is she spending more time with single friends?
• 3) Does she seem uninterested in the marital embrace?
• 4) Is she still as supportive as she used to be?
• 5) Is she still as loving as she used to be?
• 6) Does she go out to clubs and events without you?
• 7) Does she take longer to answer your texts or phone messages?
• 8) Has her conversation with you become very short and to the point?
• 9) Has the bickering increased?
• 10) Has the arguing increased?
• 11) Has she started putting the kids, above you?
• 12) Has she started putting her friends, siblings above you?
• 13) Have you going to mass and entering the spiritual battle daily
• 14) Does she seem unusually depressed or unhappy?

 

CLUE #15

So, what is clue #15 that your wife wants a divorce?

Drum roll please – You engage in the marital embrace less than once per week?

Ok this is huge! Why?

Because sex is the second most important thing in your marriage behind prayer.

Why?

Because the marital embrace bonds the couple, it creates emotional closeness on a regular basis.

And combined with date night and the nightly bonding conversation. It’s priceless

On this mornings show we discussed this and one of the listeners told me that there are 168 hours in a week.

So, you are telling me that out of 168 hours you and your wife can’t find the time or the will to make love for…

one hour, 60 minutes, 3600 seconds?

If this is the case your marriage is very close to being a sexless marriage…

which by definition means that you make love less than once a month.

Or less than 10 times per year.

Look, if a couple can’t find time to be intimate one hour a week there are serious underlined marriage issues.

First off if the husband wants to make love but his wife is denying him, he must ask himself why?

And if your wife has no desire for you, this means that the emotional connection in your marriage is gone, almost gone, or on its way to being gone.

And once she feels the emotional closeness is gone then she will go right out the door with it…

Whether physically gone, or she emotionally checks out…

It really doesn’t matter…

As a husband you must fix this.

If your marriage is to this point it already means that you as a husband have kept your head in the sand too long and allowed this to fester.

As a man you must realize that emotional closeness for women is #1.

And when it’s gone or close to being gone, she will not want you to touch her, kiss her, or make love to her.

No walks, no spending time together cuddling. None of that.

No intimacy inside or outside the bedroom!

As her husband it is your job to figure this out and fix it.

Have you been neglecting her?

Meaning putting your job, friends, parents, kids, hobbies before your time and attention to her?

Marriage is tough enough when we do things right, and 10x tough when we don’t.

I need you right now tonight to get back in the game and get on your job as a husband.

How do you do this?

You must at all cost prepare her for your love and start making love to her outside the bedroom…

Fun conversations, deep conversations, going for walks together, serving her and doing the small things that prove you are doing it just because you love her.

Making her laugh, just plain getting into her.

Again, wives must be prepared for your love.

They are not robots, they need you to make love to them outside the bedroom, which for her will transform to love inside the bedroom.

Put her back as the top priority in your life!

Make her feel special again by actually dating and courting her daily!

Stop treating her like a stranger on the street or partner in a business.

She is your Beloved moreover she didn’t sign up for that.

Become her best friend again. And if you were not before get on that job right now.

Learn your Beloved’s mysteries. Get into her just as you were before you were married.

Stop allowing Satan to interject himself into the middle of your marriage…

because you are distracted as a man and refuse to do your job because of laziness or indifference!

Understand if a marriage is boring or passionless, it’s because the husband is boring or passionless!

Women want to be won everyday.

They know the gift they possess.

Look the deal is, you are the pursuer, and she is the pursued

Get over it and get in the game!

Serve her well and serve her often and she will return your service 10 fold!

This is the reason why I beg you to change and fix yourself first, because then and only then will your Beloved follow!

And what is the payoff?

The payoff is all of the intimacy you can stand,

and a marriage that spans the test of time, and generations to boot!…BAM!