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Marital Problems? How To Compel Her To Submit And Love It! CARP019

November 6, 2019 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Marital problems? How to get her to submit and love it! A happy couple doing the will of God. Find out more on the Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

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Marital Problems?

What No One's Telling You!

In this 19th episode? Are you a Catholic man with marital problems? Then consider today's marriage tactic #1?

No woman, I mean no woman, unless she's extremely disordered... sleeps with a man that she doesn’t think she wants to marry.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

 

  • Is it true, when you have sex with a woman she's bonded to you for life?
  • If you sleep with a woman and don't marry her, have you broken an unsaid promise?
  • Learn how this one marriage tactic improves your marriage immediately?
  • Learn how neglecting this one issue, can be your first step towards divorce court?
  • What's the one problem you may have, that prevents your wife from fully committing to you?

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Marital Problems Episode

  • Original Archbishop Vigano' Testimony Document (find it here)
  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • 20-Minute Marriage Makeover -  Do-it-yourself marriage help at CatholicAlpha
  • The infiltration by Communism and Radical Feminism in the Catholic Church: Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast Ep. 2 (How To Be A Man)
  • Article on the "Top 8 Reasons For Divorce"
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Book - Three To Get Married - Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen
  • Resource: Modern Catholic Dictionary - John A. Hardon, S.J.

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

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Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
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Episode 19- Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 19 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

Signs Of An Unhappy Marriage (Quote Of The Day)

Love in monogamous marriage includes sex;
but sex, in the contemporary use of the term, does not imply either marriage or monogamy.
Every woman instinctively realizes the difference between the two,
but man comes to understand it more slowly through reason and prayer.
Man is driven by pleasure; woman by the meaning of pleasure.
She sees pleasure more as a means to an end,
Namely the prolongation of love both in herself and in her child.”


~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen – Three To Get Married

Catholic Alpha's Radical Rant Of The Day

The Cowardice Of Men – The Top 21 Reasons Men Have Caused The 2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church – And Why We’re Not Going To Take It Anymore!

  • Before I start – This will be a 21-episode series (one per show)
  • Also understand that the infiltration by the Catholic Church with homosexuality and radical feminism, plus the watering down of the faith and the stripping away of the Latin Mass was planned in order to, destroy the morality of those within the Church (priests and laity) and is not the teaching of the Catholic Church.
  • Why was this done?
  • To destroy the American family, to destroy our morality, and to destroy our patriotism! In order that we become susceptible to Communism and its ideas!
  • If you want more on this please refer back to episode #2.
  • Many people want to bash or worst leave the Catholic faith because of the current scandal…That’s pure ignorance!
  • That’s exactly what the Evil One wants them to do!
  • Also we must understand that there are many Judases among us. Are you going to abandon Christ too?
  • We must fight within the Church – This is how Christ demands it because this is the Church He created!
  • You can’t change the Church outside the Church!

2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church...

The #19 Reason Men Are Responsible

So let’s get started with number 19 of the top 21 reasons that men are responsible for the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church.

But first let’s review the first 18…

#1 was Refusal to accept our roll as men.

#2 was Allowed the men in the Catholic Church (Popes, cardinals, bishops, priests, deacons, to water down (dilute the teachings of the Catholic Faith)

#3 was “They didn’t fight for Christ during Vatican II”

#4 an unwillingness to sacrifice for Christ

#5 they have nothing they are willing to die for.

#6 Have begun raising soft and selfish boys (aka – wusses)

#7 Don’t understand our mission and purpose as men – to protect-defend-and serve (God, marriage, wife, children, society at large)

#8 We didn’t crush feminism

#9 We didn’t crush the protestant revolt

#10 We didn’t crush contraception (aka – birth control)

#11 We didn’t crush abortion

#12 We didn’t crush so-called same-sex marriage

#13 We didn’t crush no-fault divorce

#14 We didn’t crush ecumenism

#15 Men have stopped praying

#17 Men have stopped being obedient to God; which means they want to be their own God!

#18 Men have abandoned God for the theory of evolution.

Realize, these top 21 reasons are in no certain order as they all feed upon one another.


 

So, what is the (#19) reason men have caused the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church?

Unchastity: Men can’t control their sexual power!


  • Let me say before I begin on this rant that I once was exactly what I’m going to describe in this segment.
  • I never even tried to control my sexual advancements to women.
  • Even though I knew instinctively it was wrong.
  • In society it just seemed what all men do.
  • And since I didn’t understand Christ and his Church I didn’t want to get left behind.
  • So, I joined the party!
  • Not understanding that this is one of the common long term relationship problems in marriage (sex before marriage).
  • But I must say, this is probably the worst form of cowardice and effeminacy in men.
  • Why, because God has given us this great power over women and how do we use it?
  • Yes, we completely abuse it.
  • I’m going to tell you something that no one is every going to tell you or really knows…
  • Once a woman gives herself to you (even one time) and she reaches coition…
  • She is bonded to you for life, and you to her.
  • For the most part she is now yours (like it or hate it) this is fact.
  • Instinctively, she now will do almost anything for you,
  • She will do almost anything to keep you, to satisfy you, and yes manipulate you if need be.
  • This is partly do to the curse of Eve. Which because of the Fall of man (original sin)…
  • She instinctively desires to control you at all cost, by any means necessary.
  • For this reason, we must understand our power as men.
  • When we have sex with a woman, we think “Hey she knew what she was getting herself into.”
  • Yes, we put all the blame on her.
  • Why?
  • Because it’s easy to deflect our own duty in this area in lieu of pleasure.
  • This is complete cowardice.
  • Then we get upset when she wants more, craves more, from us.
  • Yes, we sleep with her for years and years…
  • Taking from her the most valuable assets she possess as a women…
  • Time!
  • Women aren’t like us.
  • Their time is 10 times more valuable than ours.
  • Why?
  • Because with time women lose their youth, their beauty, their vitality, their ability to have children.
  • And when men abuse them by sleeping with them, and not marrying them…
  • They steal from her what makes her great in God’s eyes.
  • Why he created her, her main attributes for attracting the man she is supposed to live her entire life with, build a family with, become one flesh with.
  • And what do we as men do, we come in with no control, no empathy, to the situation.
  • Look women will tell you anything to have you, once bonded to you.
  • They will tell you, they don’t want marriage…
  • They will tell you they don’t want children…
  • They will tell you they don’t really care if you sleep with other women…
  • They will let you use their bodies, hearts, and minds for decades, all on the promise (whether said or not said) of marriage.
  • Why because marriage is infused into their souls (it’s part of the Natural Law of Man).
  • Look man…
  • No woman, I mean no woman, unless she is extremely disordered (which in that case, you better get as far away from her as possible) sleeps with a man that she doesn’t think she wants to marry.
  • Gentlemen this you must understand…
  • When you have sex with a woman, and then leave her…
  • She will get mad, angry, and in most cases distraught.
  • Why?
  • Because in her mind you have broken a promise.
  • The promise of; I gave myself to you…
  • Which basically means, I gave myself to you, because I thought you loved me, wanted to build a family, get married and spend eternity together.
  • Look, no matter what she says through her lips…
  • Inside the above statement is what she is feeling.
  • And with women, feelings are everything!
  • Again, like it or hate it, it doesn’t matter, this is fact!
  • And deep inside, all men know this (again, that Natural Law thing)
  • And finally, one of the greatest tests of authentic masculinity, is the ability of a man to control his sexual power in lieu of protection of the woman.
  • Not exploit her very being (even if she desires it)
  • As men God gave us the responsibility to protect, defend, and serve those around us. And that main duty extends more so to our helpmates of the opposite sex!
  • So, I pose the question to you as we end this segment…
  • What kind of man are you trying to be?

What do you think?

Send your questions or comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com

Marital Problems?

Alpha Marriage Tactic #1...Do It!

You must ask God to give you power to fight against the sin of pride which is your greatest enemy - the root of all that is evil, and the failure of all that is good. For God resists the proud"


~Saint Vincent De Paul

It’s time for the Catholic Alpha Marriage Tactic – A series of marriage tactics that will transform you from zero to hero!

But only if you drop the laziness, aloofness, and pride; and actually do them!

Consider; Is your marriage passionless, lackluster, mediocre, or currently in the toilet? Want to get it back on track (Make It Great?)

Then consider today’s Alpha Marriage Tactic #1! Either listen to me now, or I guarantee; you’ll be looking for me, or someone like me, later!


Alpha Marriage Tactic #1: You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know


  • Today I want you to consider the description of the man below…
  • His name is “Prideful Paul”
  • Prideful Paul is a man who won't listen; knows everything. As well as, denies the truth, even when it's presented factually and faithfully.
  • He's full of selfishness, and refuses to sacrifice. His ideas, and what he believes, looms above everything, and everyone else. Including the Father!
  • He believes he's actually greater than he truly is.
  • Again, does this describe you in your marriage?
  • You sure? Not even a little bit?
  • Understand, this can be one of the top signs a marriage is ending.
  • The definition of pride according the Modern Catholic Dictionary (by Fr. John Hardon)
  • An inordinate esteem of oneself. It is inordinate because it is contrary to the truth. It is essentially an act or disposition of the will desiring to be considered better than a person really is.
  • Pride may be expressed in different ways: by taking personal credit for gifts or possessions, as if they had not been received from God;
  • By glorying in achievements, as if they were not primarily the result of divine goodness and grace;
  • By minimizing one's defects or claiming qualities that are not actually possessed;
  • By holding oneself superior to others or disdaining them because they lack what the proud person has;
  • By magnifying the defects of others or dwelling on them.
  • When pride is carried to the extent that a person is unwilling to acknowledge dependence on God and refuses to submit his or her will to God or lawful authority, it is a grave sin.
  • The gravity arises from the fact that a person shows contempt for God or of those who take his place. Otherwise, pride is said to be imperfect and venially wrong.
  • While not all sins are pride, it can lead to all sorts of sins, notably presumption, ambition, vainglory, boasting, hypocrisy, strife, and disobedience.
  • Pride strives for perverse excellence. It despises others and, depending on its perversity, even looks down upon God.
  • The remedies for pride are a sincere knowledge of oneself, the acceptance of daily humiliations, avoidance of even the least self-complacency, humble acknowledgment of one's faults, and prayerful communion with God.
  • Wow!
  • A problem with men that has continued to grow over the centuries, is when we think we know something, there is nothing that anyone can do to change our minds!
  • Especially, when it comes to something like our marriage, or religion.
  • Our usual attitude is - Hey I got this. I know my wife. I know how she thinks, and what she is going to do next!
  • Our parents, or our friends, or even our wives themselves try and point things out.
  • But what do we do, because we are lazy and aloof, and think we have all the time in the world, we disregard any input from anyone else.
  • Even if it’s sound advice.
  • Our wife will give us clues about her unhappiness, or concerns with the marriage. But we ignore this.
  • Our pride just won’t let us deal with it. Mainly because we just don’t want to face it.
  • Hell, we’ve got so many other problems (work, bills, the kids etc) how can we possibly worry about some whiny woman right?
  • Well I’m her to tell you. This is the first step to divorce court.
  • The problem here is you don’t know what you don’t know!
  • I hear people say this a lot when it comes to the Catholic faith…
  • Oh, I’ve never heard that teaching before, I’ve never read that before, or I don’t remember learning that in Catholic school.
  • See, that is just us not wanting to accept the truth and deal with it.
  • Our pride just won’t let us see how things really are.
  • Look, just because we have not heard or read or been taught something, doesn’t mean it’s not valid, or true, or doesn’t deserve some consideration.
  • This is what marriage tactic #1 is all about…
  • We must begin opening our eyes, paying attention, and considering things especially about God and his sacrament of marriage.
  • Many times, our marriage has been on the rocks for years until we decide to step, man up, and take action.
  • Then we want Jesus to come in and perform a miracle and save the day.
  • Our wife is ready to walk out the door and take the children with her.
  • She is tired of being placed on the back burner (we’ll discuss this more in another alpha marriage tactic), behind your friends, hobbies, job etc..
  • What I want you to understand now is, that your marriage is probably in the lackluster/ boring stage right now.
  • Why? Because you are neglecting it, as you do with projects needing done around the house!
  • I don’t care who you are. As men we all want to think our marriage is good. But in reality, it’s just barely surviving.
  • Like living paycheck to paycheck. One missed check and we’re bankrupt.
  • This is how most of our marriages are right now (barely hanging on and surviving!)
  • In my experience, usually, if a man thinks his marriage is good, it’s probably not.
  • Why? Because in today’s society, we are all delusional.
  • We continually rationalize that things are great, when in reality they aren’t (our marriage, our relationship with God, our relationship with our children)
  • Just like many of us continually disregard the end of our lives.
  • Why? Because it’s a buzz killer to consider what is going to happen when we die, and if we are, or ever will be prepared to stand in front of God!
  • Sure, there are great marriages out there (maybe even some legendary marriages) but most today are bad, lackluster, or plain passionless.
  • And this stems mostly from one, the pride of us men..
  • Two – God is basically absent from our marriage…
  • And three – we don’t give our marriage much attention, and expect it to be on autopilot.
  • These are all grave mistakes. And it’s only a matter of time before your wife tires and begins displaying symptoms of the curse of Eve! (we’ll discuss this more in a future tactic)
  • But for now, she will begin trying to control you, nag you, become unhappy, feel unsecure in your love, clingy.
  • Or worse, begin seeking another man’s company to replace you!
  • Or even worse yet – she may already be displaying some of these symptoms.
  • And if she is – Brother, you are in serious trouble, and don’t even know it!
  • So, what’s the solution? The solution is,
  • You must be willing to listen to solid advice when the Holy Spirit sends it, through your wife, your mom or dad, or maybe even a friend.
  • And by all means, stop - thinking you know everything or have everything under control.
  • Because I guarantee you, if you come home one day and your beloved is gone, you will lose control, instead of thinking you are in control!
  • So, here are some things that will help…
  • Three steps to help abolish pride in your marriage:

  • Confession because it’s a sacrament, and all graces from God stem from you being in grace with God.
  • Also, if men are not in grace with God, there prayers and sacrifices are of no benefit in the eyes of God
  • Pray the litany of humility
  • Accept the trials of pride when the Holy Spirit sends them your way.
  • The only way to beat the evil of pride is through humility. And the only way to help you with pride is for God to send you tests of humiliation to help you get used to defeating pride in your marriage and common life.

Next, here are Three Benefits to working on Tactic #1

  • You will be more able to battle the demonic when it attacks your marriage. Why? Because the only way to defeat the devil is through humility. Because Satan refused to serve!
  • Humility will allow you to acknowledge and consider that maybe your wife is not responsible for all problems plaguing your marriage.
  • And that you the husband must work on fixing your defects first, if you expect your wife and children to fix themselves as you the husband and father are the leader of the home (authority given by God Himself)
  • Sorry - Your wife and children follow your lead and do what you do!
  • Eliminating pride will allow you to grow in virtue (which leads to holiness and authentic masculinity, driving you to model the ultimate man Jesus Christ.
  • Your virtue and holiness will drive your wife crazy with respect, submissiveness, and devotion. Compelling her to begin fixing her flaws in the marriage and allowing you to lead her and the family towards Christ and His Church!

What are the consequences of failing to follow the Alpha Marriage Tactic #1?

  • Your marriage will never become great, holy, or legendary. And will forever loom in mediocrity.
  • Your wife will never fully commit to you, or follow your lead because your pride will always come between you her and God.
  • An uncomfortable tension will always exist between you as you are always blaming her for your problems, and she reciprocates blaming you!
  • You see how this viscous cycle will never stop if you don’t take the lead and work on your flaws first?

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Marital Problems - Tips For Men!

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The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
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Man Malpractice: Why Do We Neglect The Spiritual Headship Of Our Family? CARP016e

February 3, 2019 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

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Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis...

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In this 16th episode? Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis! Let's solve it together?

No one wants to give money to the Church anymore…Because they realize many of the leaders are really just politicians with religious garb and pointy hats.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

 

  • What's the consequences of men not passing on the faith to their children?
  • As a man, how do you protect your children when you aren't around?
  • What can you as a man do to stay out of divorce court?
  • What's the most important factor you should consider when dating/courting a woman?
  • What is a Holy Lover and why is it vital men become one?

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Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen To The Full Episode Here!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

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Catholic Faith Formation: The Blowback Of Men Not Giving Children The Faith! CARP016d

February 2, 2019 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

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The Blowback Of Men Not Giving Children The Faith!

Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis...

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In this 16th episode? Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis! Let's solve it together?

No one wants to give money to the Church anymore…Because they realize many of the leaders are really just politicians with religious garb and pointy hats.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

 

  • What's the consequences of men not passing on the faith to their children?
  • As a man, how do you protect your children when you aren't around?
  • What can you as a man do to stay out of divorce court?
  • What's the most important factor you should consider when dating/courting a woman?
  • What is a Holy Lover and why is it vital men become one?

Can you afford to miss this?

Get your Radical Relationship Advice Today...

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Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen To The Full Episode Here!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Get Hooked! Listen To Our First 4 Radical Episodes

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Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis: The Battle For Masculinity! CARP016

January 17, 2019 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

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In this 16th episode? Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis! Let's solve it together?

No one wants to give money to the Church anymore…Because they realize many of the leaders are really just politicians with religious garb and pointy hats.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

 

  • What's the consequences of men not passing on the faith to their children?
  • As a man, how do you protect your children when you aren't around?
  • What can you as a man do to stay out of divorce court?
  • What's the most important factor you should consider when dating/courting a woman?
  • What is a Holy Lover and why is it vital men become one?

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Links And Resources Mentioned In This...

Marriage Crisis Episode

  • Original Archbishop Vigano' Testimony Document (find it here)
  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • 20-Minute Marriage Makeover - Take the assessment at https://catholicalpha.com
  • The infiltration by Communism and Radical Feminism in the Catholic Church: Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast Ep. 2 (How To Be A Man)
  • Listen to episode 15 here: Marriage Struggles: Here's What Helped Me!
  • Article On The Crusades: Crusading For The Truth
  • How men abandoned Christ during Vatican II: Contained in this episode - How To Meet Women: 14 Reasons Dating Is For Sex And Courting Is For Marriage!
  • Article on how to man up Christ's way: Christ - The Original Catholic Alpha
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Book - Three To Get Married - Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen

Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis: Masculinity Under Attack!

Episode 16- Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 16 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

Marriage Crisis (Quote Of The Day)

If love does not climb, it falls.

If, like the flame, it does not burn upward to the sun…

it burns downward to destroy.

If sex does not mount to heaven, it descends into hell.

There is no such thing as giving the body, without giving the soul.

Those who think they can be faithful in soul to one another, but unfaithful in body…

forget that the two are inseparable.”

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen – Three To Get Married

Catholic Alpha's Radical Rant Of The Day

The Cowardice Of Men – The Top 21 Reasons Men Have Caused The 2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church – And Why We’re Not Going To Take It Anymore!

  • Before I start – This will be a 21-episode series (one per show)
  • Also understand that the infiltration by the Catholic Church with homosexuality and radical feminism, plus the watering down of the faith and the stripping away of the Latin Mass was planned in order to, destroy the morality of those within the Church (priests and laity) and is not the teaching of the Catholic Church.
  • Why was this done?
  • To destroy the American family, to destroy our morality, and to destroy our patriotism! In order that we become susceptible to Communism and its ideas!
  • If you want more on this please refer back to episode #2.
  • Many people want to bash or worst leave the Catholic faith because of the current scandal…That’s pure ignorance!
  • That’s exactly what the Evil One wants them to do!
  • Also we must understand that there are many Judases among us. Are you going to abandon Christ too?
  • We must fight within the Church – This is how Christ demands it because this is the Church He created!
  • You can’t change the Church outside the Church!

2018 Scandal In The Catholic Church...

The #16 Reason Men Are Responsible

So let’s get started with number 16 of the top 21 reasons that men are responsible for the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church.

But first let’s review the first 15…

#1 was Refusal to accept our roll as men.

#2 was Allowed the men in the Catholic Church (Popes, cardinals, bishops, priests, deacons, to water down (dilute the teachings of the Catholic Faith)

#3 was “They didn’t fight for Christ during Vatican II”

#4 an unwillingness to sacrifice for Christ

#5 they have nothing they are willing to die for.

#6 Have begun raising soft and selfish boys (aka – wusses)

#7 Don’t understand our mission and purpose as men – to protect-defend-and serve (God, marriage, wife, children, society at large)

#8 We didn’t crush feminism

#9 We didn’t crush the protestant revolt

#10 We didn’t crush contraception (aka – birth control)

#11 We didn’t crush abortion

#12 We didn’t crush so-called same-sex marriage

#13 We didn’t crush no-fault divorce

#14 We didn’t crush ecumenism

#15 Men have stopped praying

Before each number I will read a quote directly from the document containing Archbishop Carlo Maria Vigano’s testimony.

So that you can understand the gravity of this situation and move to destroy and speak out against it in your environment (Church, marriage, family, work, and society at large.)

I’ll also place a link to the full document in the show notes.

Quote Archbishop Vigano – on the abuses of Cardinal McCarrick (see quote #16 in the document)

Comment on quote! (this insinuates that the corruption, coverup, and lies are at the highest levels of the Church!)

Realize, these top 21 reasons are in no certain order as they all feed upon one another.


 

So, what is the (#16) reason men have caused the 2018 scandal in the Catholic Church?

Men Have Stopped Passing On The Faith To Their Children!


  • So, as we discussed in (episode 15 Marriage Struggles) men have stopped praying.
  • What’s the natural next consequence?
  • Yep, men as the spiritual head of the family begin to cease passing on the Catholic faith to their children.
  • I’ll tell you I feel completely robbed that the faith was basically ignored in my childhood!
  • This is man malpractice!
  • We men are so blind sometimes.
  • We continue to rely on the natural world, for protection!
  • We forget that there are two realms, and the other is the supernatural world.
  • I ask what happens to your wife, your children, your girlfriend, when you are not around, and unable to physically protect them?
  • Can you be with them 24 hours a day?
  • Moreover, can the police get to your home, or to the school, or to your wife’s job, before the horrible happens?
  • This is why you as the man must invoke the power of the Holy Spirit in your family, to help you defend and protect your family when you are absent.
  • This is one of your top duties given to you by God!
  • What do I mean?
  • Just think of the hundreds of decisions your children make per day?
  • Also, the many evil influences that surround them.
  • How do insure they make the proper decision…
  • Not to smoke that joint, not to sleep with that girl, not to allow a boy to get her pregnant, not to skip class, not to lie to you about another bad thing they’ve done?
  • See, this is what happens when we believe we are god, and that we are completely in control.
  • Something catastrophic happens, then we see we are not in control.
  • Then what do we do, we holler for Christ to run in like superman and save us.
  • But as I said in the last episode, do we really know God?
  • Why should he come in and save us, when we’ve ignored him, and proven to him that we don’t want anything to do with him?
  • As God gave the responsibility to Adam for the natural world, you (the man) must grab hold of this duty and take it seriously.
  • You must study, and seek the true answers to how this world really works.
  • Even if your faith is weak right now, don’t you have a duty to find out why.
  • You are the man, the husband, the boyfriend, how much longer will you stand by and rely on haphazardness to rule your life?
  • You must pass on the faith to your family.
  • This gives them the means to deal with whatever happens in their life.
  • This helps ward off disease, mental illness, bad decision making.
  • What happened when you and your wife die?
  • Who is there to protect your children, and their children while you are six feet under?
  • Basically, you’ve left them in a world full of wolves to devour them.
  • Have you really done your job of protection?
  • Just like the current leaders in the Catholic faith…
  • They don’t realize that their failure to pray, to truly believe in God, to truly live up to their commitment of spreading the True word of Christ at all cost, has damaged the natural world.
  • And the main cost has been the family, the center of the universe.
  • Isn’t it funny how…
  • No one listens to them anymore?
  • No one passes down the Catholic faith to their families anymore!
  • No one wants confession to ward off mental illness, and disease anymore!
  • No one wants to give money to the Church anymore…
  • Because they realize that many of the leaders are really just politicians with religious garb on and pointy hats.
  • No one wants to hear how Christ can save them, how he can protect their wives, girlfriends, and children from evil.
  • They have stunted the growth of the church through a lack of courage, a weak stance on abortion…
  • And a never-ending focus on money, power, and ambition!
  • As we look out over the country, abortion is on the rise, divorce is on the rise, suicide is on the rise, mental illness is on the rise, despair is on the rise…
  • And the men in the Catholic Church continue to sit on their hands and do nothing but beg for money, blame everyone else for their woes, and eat bon bons!
  • I will say as I always say, the men in the Catholic Church have much to answer for before Our Lord!

What do you think?

Send your questions or comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com

The Holy Lover Segment...

Man Crisis, Marriage Crisis: Have We Failed As Men?

  • The Goal of this segment is to give you a mission and purpose:
  • And that mission is for you to Become A Holy Lover!
  • What is a Holy Lover? Two things…
  • One: You becoming the man your wife needs
  • You becoming the man God created you to be
  • What will this accomplish?
  • Keep you out of divorce court
  • Keep you outside of the Annulment Tribunal
  • Keep your family together and prosperous.
  • Keep peace in your home.
  • Keep your wife happy, fulfilled, and secure!
  • Give you a guide and purpose as to what life is really about. And that ain’t money and career!
  • Help you save your soul and the souls of your wife and children.
  • Because let’s be real, ultimately, you are responsible for the success or failure of your marriage.
  • If single to understand your duties and responsibilities in courting, marriage, family, and society.
  • And how to court to find the woman God is trying to show you (basically, to find the mate that will help get you and your children to heaven)
  • And lastly, how to learn how to fix yourself first before blaming God, your wife, your children, your girlfriend, society, the government, your friends, you parents, your siblings!
  • Understand Holy Lover Status is a journey! A journey you must complete for the reward of a whole and complete marriage and family grounded in holiness!

  • [QUOTE] The Battle:
  • “Christian Soldier: The spiritual battle is upon you.
  • No longer can you remain aloof. You are made for combat; made to fight the inner spiritual battle against evil daily.
  • The time has come to be a man of courage!
  • To dawn your armor; pick up your shield, unsheathe your sword; in preparation of the upcoming physical battle.
  • And, for whom do you battle?
  • The battle for Christ;
  • The battle for your marriage;
  • The battle for your family.
  • And if you have anything left; the battle for your very soul!” [END QUOTE]
  • ~Catholic Alpha

  • In order to become a Holy Lover, you must understand what True Masculinity is.
  • And that simply is using Christ as your model.
  • Man Crisis; Marriage Crisis: The Battle For Masculinity!
  • According to the New Emangelization Project’s article documenting the serious Catholic “man-crisis” in the United States. The article states:
  • One in three baptized Catholic men have left the faith.
  • And of those who remain, 50-60% of them are “Casual Catholics” men who don’t understand, and don’t practice the faith.
  • Note: and before you get all uppity, this doesn’t just apply to Catholic men. This man crisis pertains to all Christian faiths!
  • My question is where are the real men?
  • What are we doing?
  • We bitch and complain about our wives or the women in our lives.
  • We complain about presidents, and politicians.
  • We complain about our job, and how we get no respect.
  • We complain about how we’re treated in society, and about how men are emasculated.
  • Hell, most of us don’t even realize that our masculinity has been stripped down to our undershorts.
  • This is how completely unaware we are.
  • Listen, honesty is the only course here. We CAN’T FIGHT THEM WITHOUT CHRIST! It’s not going to happen.
  • No one will respect us! No one will listen to our pleas!
  • Why? Because, they don’t care anymore. In fact, to the secular world, we are irrelevant; useless.
  • Our fathers, and our father’s father abandoned Christ. I mean, what did we expect would happen?
  • Brother, we’re trying to fight evil with evil. This strategy doesn’t work. It’s impossible for it to work.
  • Furthermore, Christ needs warriors.
  • He needs more than a robot; a go along, to get along, emasculated weakling!
  • He needs us to stand up for something greater than ourselves.
  • He needs us to prepare ourselves to sacrifice (as He did) at any time!
  • He needs you to be remarkable; to be a freakin’ REBEL!
  • Gentlemen we must begin to understand the art of manliness, if we are to regain the place God meant for us to have.
  • Only then can peace and holiness fill our lives!

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

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  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
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Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage Part 1

May 24, 2018 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage

Kevin Hart: Wuss Or Warrior Part 1

Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage...

How is your marriage holding up? How about your family? Could it be better?

Consider the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!

5 (less than) 20-minute (do it yourself) videos, to help you discover ...

  • What your wife and children need from you as their spiritual leader in the home.
  • What God is truly asking of you as a man, husband and father. Which gives you true purpose.
  • The true meaning of intimacy in marriage. What your wife needs from you, and how this knowledge can enhance lovemaking and closeness with God.
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Your Next Step Starts Here...

Yes, I Want To Take The Assessment!
Yes, I Want To Watch The Video!
Choose My Top Marriage Weakness!

Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage

The Video Transcript...

Tips on how to save a failing marriage? 9 ways to become a man of sacrifice. Read the full blog post (or watch the full video) here!

 

  • Watch Kevin Hart: Wuss Or Warrior Part 2 Here (coming soon)
  • Watch Kevin Hart: Wuss Or Warrior Part 3 Here (coming soon)
  • Mentions: St. Mother Teresa Of Calcutta, Kevin Hart, Allison Cacich, Eniko Parrish.

The title of the first Catholic view on Hollywood Hookups. The title of the article is "Kevin Hart Willing To Tear Up Prenup To Save His Marriage" by Allison Cacich.

So this is what the first paragraph says of the article. Comedian Kevin Hart, is desperately trying to get out of the doghouse after an extortion plot involving a video allegedly showing the 38 year old cheating on his wife was revealed to the public.

 

Although the Ride Along star apologized to his pregnant spouse, (Oh, she's pregnant, okay) Eniko Parrish, for the bad error in judgment, he's willing to try anything to avoid a split.

Kevin: Caught On Tape! Ouch!

So, he got caught on video, cheating on his wife.

Now see, this is the first thing. If you're going to cheat, be smart about it.

I mean, you don't even have enough common sense, to not get caught on video.

That's because what is it, you don't have any respect. He doesn't have any respect. He has no respect for himself, his wife, or the one that he's with, his mistress, so called mistress.

And that's the first problem. Women aren't called to control themselves. Men we are the protectors. We're called to control ourselves.

And so that's what happens when a man has intercourse with the woman, and then he doesn't want her anymore.

He expects her just to be all happy about it. And of course, most of the time, they ain't happy about it.

Why?

Because now you've bonded with your wife, now you've bonded with some lady that you know, that you think is gonna be a short term deal.

 

Learn more here on how to save a failing marriage on my Infidelity Prevention page!

The Solution: The Catholic Way!

So, what's the solution? 

Honestly, that's the problem right now. He has forgot to sacrifice. When is the last time he sacrificed for her?

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

First, we're not even sure if this story's even true. But, I'm just using it as an example and model.

Honestly, I feel a lot of empathy for Kevin and dudes in this situation. Because they just have no idea what their purpose and mission is.

He has no graces in his marriage from God. It's about Christ. Christ is our example to teach us how to serve. How to sacrifice.

It makes me think about a Mother Teresa quote. Quote,  "Love to be real, it must cost. It must hurt. It must empty us of self." Saint Teresa, Mother Teresa, of Calcutta.

And I think that's what men today have forgotten. Kevin Hart, and men like him, should just be into your wife. Get into her, learn her mysteries.

Honestly, that's the problem right now. He has forgot to sacrifice.

When is the last time he sacrificed for her?

That's a great question.

So, let me ask you one final question. What is your top marriage weakness?

Want more reliable Catholic relationship advice, try here!

Do-It-Yourself: Marriage Help For Men!

Do you experience disharmony in your marriage or home?

Do you lack a complete understanding, or your purpose as a man in marriage, family, and society?

Do you endure lackluster, mediocre, or non-existent intimacy?

So, let's get serious here. If you're suffering from any one of these top marriage killers, do this immediately.

Step one. Go to CatholicAlpha.com.

Step two, click on the Take The Assessment button, which will show you your top marriage weakness, which should be worked on immediately.

Step three, click the start button to begin the 20 minute marriage makeover challenge.

And lastly, step four, Earn the marriage you deserve, by viewing the five short 20 minute marriage makeover challenge videos.

I'm Jerry Jacobs Jr. of CatholicAlpha.com. Where I help men identify their number one marriage weakness by giving them a short assessment.

What I found is this drastically improves their marriage, and what I've also found is every man has one.

What's yours?

Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage...

How is your marriage holding up? How about your family? Could it be better?

Consider the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!

5 (less than) 20-minute (do it yourself) videos, to help you discover ...

  • What your wife and children need from you as their spiritual leader in the home.
  • What God is truly asking of you as a man, husband and father. Which gives you true purpose.
  • The true meaning of intimacy in marriage. What your wife needs from you, and how this knowledge can enhance lovemaking and closeness with God.
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Your Next Step Starts Here...

Yes, I Want To Take The Assessment!
Yes, I Want To Watch The Video!
Choose My Top Marriage Weakness!

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Are You A Holy Lover? Your Test Of True Manliness! Part 2

February 19, 2017 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.



Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Are You A Holy Lover?

Your True Test Of Manliness!

Part Two

Understanding A Holy Lover: Authentic Masculinity

 

A Man Of Courage: Embraces Suffering, Serves Thy Beloved, Sacrifices Self. While Being The Rock For Masculinity, And The Full Truth Of Christianity."

~Catholic Alpha

Part Two The Art Of Manliness Video


Click Here To Take The Holy Lover Challenge Now!

Quick Holy Lover Recap

Of Part One

Again, the definition of a Holy Lover is becoming the husband your wife needs; As well as, becoming the man God created you to be. Yes, this isn't easy, but it creates dam good marriages!

In part one, we discussed the first eight gifts of a Holy Lover (Category one, Prayer Warfare). Click here if you haven't read it.

 

Now, let's get busy digging into category two, "The Art Of Manliness". Ok, man up fellas. Time to recover your masculinity!

Category Two

The Art Of Manliness

Let’s face it, today’s men have lost their way. Indeed, we are weak, soft, effeminate, and emasculated. We hide behind our momma’s, our wives, as they do the things we as men should be doing.

We stand up, and fight for nothing of consequence (But, we will kill someone if they speak ill of our favorite sports team.)

Most of us haven’t a clue of what it takes to be a man, a husband, or a father. We’re only concerned with our own well-being, and our own wants. We wallow in our weakness, as our feelings are hurt, and hide in our emotional corners.

We raise boys, who possess no fight whatsoever. As a matter of fact, we allow our children to run our households. We allow our boys, to emulate girls, wear skinny jeans, and the soft, emasculated, color pink. We retain, no fight or pride. As we allow the mothers of our children, to raise our sons as basically; girls in waiting.

As men in this country, we command no respect. Our women view us, and pity us inside. Why? Because they know deep down; we are useless. We bitch, whine, and complain, about everything (we have ceased doing the tough stuff; effeminacy).

We abandon our families, screw around on our wives, make babies with homewreckers; and our useless friends; say nothing!

Above all, we’ve failed God, our wives, our families, our country, and ourselves. We’ve allowed the feminazi’s, emasculated, and evil ones, to infiltrate and hijack this country.

But, I will offer this. The feminist are doing what we refuse to do. They feel they’re protecting themselves against us. They’re doing what women do, when they deem leadership, masculinity, and the security of their children, are in jeopardy.

They challenge, fight, and scratch, to find it!

In essence, we haven’t a clue what our mission is on this earth. We’ve no clue, of our true power and potential, as men. WE ARE LOST!

This section will focus on, who we are as men; as husbands. As well as realizing, how to emulate, and use as our example Jesus Christ, the ultimate model of a man. Last, this section is about you understanding your masculinity, your manhood, your manliness.

Furthermore, how to be the man God is calling you to be. How to in fact, become great!

Take back your manhood. Listen; Learn; and Do!

The Art Of Manliness

Gift Nine

A Holy Lover is his wife’s best friend, and she is his.

If you and your Beloved, aren’t best friends, your marriage will eventually fail. And I don’t mean just divorce. I mean a dull, lackluster, passionless marriage.

I mean, why did you get married? To spend time with other men; allowing them to steal precious moments away from your soulmate?

Your job is to become one flesh with your Beloved. How can you do this, if you and your wife share your dreams, wants, and desires with another human being?

Answer; you can’t!

Gift Ten

A Holy Lover shows his wife never ending appreciation.

If you have an unhappy wife, one of the best things you can do at once, is show her genuine appreciation. Women thrive on this. More important, from their husbands. They are ordered toward a nurturing nature. They need this from you for validation and assurance of love.

Gift Eleven

A Holy Lover never takes his Beloved for granted.

This foolishness is the big one. For this reason, husbands arrive home from work, and find their wife gone with the children.

Men, our problem is we’re hard-headed. We suppose we know it all. And worse yet, we act like it. You must never allow this to infiltrate your marriage. Your wife is first; now and forever. Neglect this; your masculinity card should be revoked!

Gift Twelve

A Holy Lover uses Christ as his ultimate example of manliness.

I know, Jesus Christ today isn’t presented in the most masculine light. The soft images of Him don’t inspire masculinity. But don’t get it twisted. Christ was powerful, strong, tough, aggressive, direct.

Christ was perfect, and He demands we’re perfect. And that means modeling our lives after His.

Only through Christ, will we ever get back the respect, the love, the loyalty, the courage that Our Lord meant for us. Not this emasculated mound of Jello, we’ve amounted to in the last 60 years.

Gift Thirteen

A Holy Lover never ceases learning every inch, every inner thought, every mystery of his Beloved. No matter how long the marriage!

Why is your marriage boring? Because you make it boring. You’ve stopped being intrigued by your wife. You’ve stopped exploring her. You’ve given your marriage over to the marriage gremlins.

Over the years, your wife has grown. She’s learned new things, new interests. You must continue to invest time, and focus on her.

If you want passion, fire, and splendor in your marriage. You must inspire it within your Beloved. To accomplish this? Continue to discover her mysteries?

Gift Fourteen

A Holy Lover must suffer, sacrifice, and give his life away a little each day, for his Beloved.

Your ultimate goal as a husband, is to present your wife before the Father blemish free and pure. You can only do this by placing yourself last. By praying, by doing what’s best for her according to God. Moreover, denying yourself pleasure in lieu of hers. And many more.

And as you endure these sufferings, you unite this suffering with that of Christ, for the benefit of your Beloved.

Gift Fifteen

A Holy Lover must stand for and seek the truth of the Catholic faith.

Wow! This statement is a controversy starter I know. But remember, we are seeking greatness, not mediocrity. So, as a Holy Lover, we must discover the complete truth. And view everything we do, through the eyes of He; who is the Truth; Christ. Most agree that the Catholic Church was the first Church.

But, whether we presume this or not. It’s the Church that Christ started, by giving St. Peter the keys to the Kingdom (Matthew 16:18). So if there’s a problem, take it up with the Father (Don’t kill the messenger.)

To this I would say, many protestant and other religions, are important starting points. We come into the faith by our own environments, and what we’re taught. But it’s our responsibility as men, to seek the absolute truth of what Christ is asking us to do. Not stay where we are, and refuse to grow.

I’ve been in protestant religions. Have seen most of them from the inside (Baptist, non-denominational, Presbyterian, Jehovah Witnesses etc.)

As I advise, they are a great starting point. But we as men, in order to become a Holy Lover, a husband made for greatness. We seek the complete fullness of Christianity. And the first Church, the Catholic faith, the faith Christ started. The faith whose bishops originate from the Apostles. I promise will give you a complete mission as a man, a husband, and a father. While assisting you towards your complete union with the Father.

We must remember that the Catholic faith is not a faith of feelings. It’s a faith of the intellect (doesn’t rely on emotions for motivation to be obedient). Many protestant religions, don’t quite understand this. As they rely on their emotions, to motivate them towards obedience to the Father.

Besides, they forget that Christ requires us to suffer and sacrifice, in order for us to imitate Him. Thus, to muster the courage, you need a sense of duty, responsibility, and self-sacrifice, for something greater than yourself (not emotions).

On this account, the Catholic faith is designed to place you on this journey, by using Christ as the example. The outcome; so that you become closer to the Father.

Religion is hard. Prayer is hard, discipline is hard, perseverance is hard. Men are made for this difficulty. As a result, feelings have no place in the equation. Why? Because feelings will abandon you. Or, give you a false sense; that’s just not there!


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Gift Sixteen

A Holy Lover embraces fidelity.

If you are serious about understanding your masculinity; your manliness. The first virtue you must endure is chastity. A man of God, realizes that he must learn to control his urges. Battle his inner demons, and protect his Beloved from himself.

How can you proclaim, you’re “A Man Of Courage” “True Man”, a “Holy Lover” if you indulge in your own selfishness?

Man, you are not made for this. You are made for more than this. If you can’t make the woman you have happy. What makes you presume, you can make another happy without fixing yourself. Furthermore, conquering the battle within yourself?

Gift Seventeen

A Holy Lover wins the heart of his Beloved daily.

Yes, I said every day. Why? Because you are a man. And, here’s what you will do over time. You will become aloof, concerning your wife and your marriage. The end result, you will put your wife in the trunk of the car.

Rationalizing, she will be ok. While you give your time, energy, and passion, to some other unimportant task. Designed for your pleasures.

I ask, do these outings mean anything in the big scope of your life; your marriage; your journey towards God? Of course not! Get your priorities correct now, so you’re not begging for forgiveness later.

Gift Eighteen

A Holy Lover protects his sexual health at all times.

Ok, going to attack your manhood a bit here. If you suffer from sexual performance issues, such as (premature ejaculation or impotency) you must fix this at once. Next, put a plan into place to protect your sexual health daily.

For example, premature ejaculation. If during the marital embrace, you Lose Your Cool before your wife has experienced one orgasm. You are disrespecting her as a human person. You’re only considering yourself; your pleasure.

I argue, is this what Christ did? Did He place His wants before that of His bride the Church? Of course not!

And so, I ask; and He asks, no less from you! Isn’t this what men do? You must get your sexual health in order. If you need help in this area (and most of us do) I have a course created that addresses this problem directly here.

Are you now starting to understand, how all of these points work in conjunction? You can’t ignore one aspect, otherwise, it affects the others. STAY THE COURSE CHRISTIAN SOLDIER!

Gift Nineteen

A Holy Lover rejects selfishness in all areas of his life, more important his marriage.

Here you have it. The number one cause of divorce; selfishness! Again, if you consider yourself first or second or third. Your marriage will fail!

You aren’t entitled to anything. What you earn is what you deserve.

So in order to gain a legendary marriage, you must work for it, sacrifice for it, suffer for it! Focus on your marriage, with reckless abandonment!

Do you intend to be great? Do you seek to be a man of respect? To build a legendary marriage? To inspire passion, splendor, and holiness, in your marriage and Beloved? Then don’t compromise your morals and virtues.

This my friend is “True Man”. This is a Holy Lover. This is Christ’s desire for you; Greatness!

Gift Twenty

A Holy Lover understands his masculinity is a gift from the Father; on loan in service of Him, and his Beloved!

Your masculinity is a gift. The aim of that gift, is to serve the Father and your wife. This gift is on loan, and has purpose. Understanding the intent of marriage, is important to your understanding of this gift. You must use your masculinity, as an example for all else to follow. Emasculation and effeminacy, are not an option.

You will fall at times. Maybe even fail. But for this reason; you are man! Rise up; dust yourself off; and get back in the game!

Summary

Many husbands don’t have the staying power, the perseverance, the courage to become a Holy Lover. However, I believe most do. We just need direction and awareness that we do have a problem or potential problem.

My goal for you, is to place your marriage on a maintenance plan. To cheerfully bestow upon your Beloved, the gifts of a Holy Lover.

Over time, add new gifts as you become comfortable with the previous. I will not lie. This work is difficult and complicated. But if you love your wife, are devoted, and desire to be True Man. You can become the ultimate; Holy Lover.

The categories; Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; and Lovemaking Mastery; can’t be neglected for one over the other. As you’ve seen in this article, each works off of and compliments, the other. Neglect one, and you might as well neglect them all.

Are you willing to put in the work? Are you the man for the mission? Can you become the husband, the Father is calling you to be?

Can you become a Holy Lover? Become something greater than your current self?

She’s waiting on you. Your Beloved, the mother of your children. Your helpmate, your battle partner! She’s waiting on you, to rescue her; from you. Once you chisel the rough edges from yourself; this will encourage her to become the wife you need her to be.

Finally, again, I ask you to instill passion; instill splendor; inspire holiness. Refuse to fail; become a Holy Lover.

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You have been challenged with a great task; to become A Holy Lover.
  • You learned much about Authentic Masculinity. 
  • Moreover, what God is asking of you as a Christian Soldier.
  • You've also learned how men have been robbed of their masculinity, and how we need it to help us be True Man.
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
Could your marriage be better?
What are your plans to take your marriage to the next level?
How many of the Holy Lover gifts are you lacking?
Again, take the Holy Lover Challenge, to access where you truly stand in your marriage!
 
Share It! Comment and hit me hard with your thoughts!

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • The marital embrace, and some critical changes you must make to ensure your Beloved feels complete and total love from you.
  • Many husbands take this for granted. And have found themselves in divorce court. Don't you be that man!

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: christian marriage for husbands, holy lover, jesus true masculine man, matthew 16:18, Saint Augustine

Why So Many | Marriage Problems Men | Suck At Being Men!

September 24, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Why So Many Marriage Problems? Men Suck;

At Being Men!

The marriage problems men experience can be adverted by heeding the following scripture:

God gave us His spirit, and the spirit doesn’t make us weak and fearful, instead, the spirit gives us power and love. He helps us control ourselves.”

~2 Timothy 1:7

Marriage Problems: Men Of No Respect

Your Quest To Become A Holy Lover!

The marriage problems men find themselves in today stem by and large, from two causes. One, absence of prayer. Two, a misunderstanding of masculinity.

I myself, in the past 10 months, haven’t in my life, dealt with such masculine weakness and emasculation. It’s sickening, and drives me to nausea.

Nearly every so-called man, I’ve come in contact with, has emasculation or effeminacy pouring from his pores.

Let’s face it, today’s men have lost their way. We hide behind our momma’s, our wives, as they do the things we as men should be doing.

We rise and battle nothing of importance. Our conversations are empty, meaningless, and lead us in one direction; Toward the many depths of hell.

Most of us don’t have a clue of what it takes to be a man,  husband, or father. We’re only concerned with our own well-being, and selfish desires. We con ourselves into believing we’re self-giving and protectors of the weak.

But in the dark; as we fall asleep, and wake in the morning, we find depression, misery, and an emptiness we can’t shake.

We use distractions, such as an overindulgence of pleasure seeking urges (sex, food, sports, television, cell phones, careers, etc…) To distract us from our life’s inevitable end, and the all-important questions; why am I here? Why was I created? Where will my soul venture when I die?

We wallow in our weakness, as our feelings are hurt, and hide in our emotional corners.

We raise boys, who possess no fight. As they are so weak (mentally) they commit suicide in droves; experiment with homosexuality; stumble through transgenderism.

More detrimental, we allow our children to run our households. We encourage our boys, to emulate girls, wear skinny jeans, and the sweet, feminine, emasculated, color pink.

Our manliness is absent. We are negligent in our manhood. As we allow the mothers of our children, to raise our sons as basically; girls in waiting.

As men in this country, we lack true honor, true respect; true devotion. Our women view us, and pity us in private. Why? Because they understand; we are selfish. We whine, and complain, about everything. We blame everyone and everything for our problems, except the true cause; ourselves.

We abandon our families, screw around on our wives, make babies with homewreckers; and our useless friends; say nothing!

We’re unable to last longer than five minutes during the marital embrace; but walk around town as though we are (The Man). But can’t satisfy our Beloved wife with any sort of sexual fulfillment. As she dies a little each day, waiting for her hero to return.

Above all, we’ve failed God, our wives, our families, our country, and ourselves.

Marriage Problems: Men Of America;

Wallowing In Weakness!

We’ve allowed feminism, Marxism, Socialism, Communism, and whatever other “ism” you can think of. To in fact, infiltrate and hijack our society, and ruin the Father’s plan for the family.

In essence, we don’t have a clue what our mission is on this earth. We’ve no clue, of our true power and potential, as men. We’ve no clue, as to the real meaning of masculinity, and its importance. WE ARE LOST!

Moreover, we have the gall, to suppose the marriage problems men encounter are an accident or bad luck. Although, what it boils down to is our laziness, our loss of masculinity; our lack of sacrifice.

 

In my article Are You A Holy Lover: Your Manhood On Trial! I state how important it is for you to become a Holy Lover. To in fact, bestow the 33 gifts of a Holy Lover upon your Beloved. 

 

A Holy Lover, strives for perfection in his service to his Beloved. Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; Making Love Mastery are vital to unleashing the Holy Lover within yourself.

Masculinity (gift 20) is the subject of this article. And should be worked on constantly; with Christ as your model.

 

Understand, your masculinity is a gift. The aim of that gift, is to serve the Father and your wife. This gift is on loan; has purpose. Understanding the intent of marriage, is important to your understanding of this gift. You must use your masculinity as an example for other men to follow. Emasculation and effeminacy, are not an option.

[pullquote]You will fall at times; even fail. But remember; you are man! Rise to the occasion; dust yourself off; get back in and change the game![/pullquote]

Moreover, realize you must use Christ as your ultimate example of a man. As well as, focus on becoming the man God created you to be. How to in fact; influence your environment; and plant seeds for God!

Marriage Problems: Men Your Wife Hates A Wuss!

The Art Of Manliness

Ok who wants to be the man?

Come on, put those hands up. Each of us wants to be “The Man.” Right? Sure we do.

Deep down, each man wants people to see Christ raining from him. It’s in our nature.

Well, without God; study of the faith; your marriage and family life in order; and prayer; you can’t be the man.

These things are your foundation; Essential.

Let’s be real for a second. There are millions of men today, who suppose they are the man right?

Riding around in their Caddy’s, Lincolns, BMW’s, Mercedes. Making millions of dollars.

A lot of nice homes, throwing touchdown passes. Sinking three-point shots. Catching 20-pound bass. Sinking holes in one. Got tons of nice clothes, shooting a deer from 100 yards away; benching 500lbs; in essence, a lot of people admiring them?

But is this how we in truth become “The Man?”

Look, everybody can’t be Bill Gates, Michael Jordon, Peyton Manning, Donald Trump, or President Obama. Whether you like them or not, is not the point.

God has given these men certain gifts. Just as He has given us certain gifts, to carry out His mission. But we must seek it, embrace it, submit; listen!

Gentlemen, here is a secret. A well-kept secret. No one, no government, no institution, not Satan himself, can prevent each of us from becoming a great, awesome, and awe inspiring Catholic.

Each man can plant seeds, and get a soul before God.

Sure, the things above are important. But they’re not the ultimate are they? ARE THEY?

Of course not!

Sometimes we forget that death is how the Father makes us equal.

We all are born; we all live a life; and; we all die.

For this reason, I ask you to embrace your mission as a Christian Soldier; A Man Of Courage! Become great; change the world!

So let’s get started understanding our roles as men. Why? Because without a clear understanding of masculinity, and our roles in marriage, and our family, the way the Father intends, our mission will forever remain unclear.

 

More marriage advice for men on masculinity here.

Marriage Problems: Men

The Wussification Of Your Education!

Marriage Problems Men of America; wusses in touch with their feelings (men in black suits with orange, blue, green, and red hair)
Marriage Problems: Men Of America; Wusses Of The West!

Understanding Your Masculinity

According to Fr. Chad Ripperger, FSSP, who is a trained exorcist and psychologist in the Church.

True Man, A Man Of Courage, A Man Of Christ, is a man of virtue and self-sacrifice.

Why? Because God made it that way. He designed men to engage in things that are hard, difficult, and require responsibility.

Why? (paraphrasing St. Thomas Aquinas here) So you deny how you feel, in order to achieve love, submit to, and become like Christ. In essence, God’s will for you (obedience)

With virtue comes interior self-discipline and self-control.

This is the hallmark of masculinity.

The man who can stand in the face of evil and pleasure while maintaining his interior control, is the True Man.

Why? Because he can engage in tasks that are hard, arduous, then remain steadfast.

The guy who sees the tough task ahead, and wilts is effeminate and invites emasculation.

A Man Of Courage; A Man Of Christ; controls his inner sexual urges; his inner pleasure seeking urges. (pornography, sex outside of marriage, an over-abundance of television, cell phones, video games, sports etc…)

Why? Becomes when he does, he encourages fortitude, perseverance, holiness, perfection, sainthood (becomes like Christ)

With the tons of marriage problems men in America have amassed. They have officially earned the name (Wusses Of The West!)

Marriage Problems Men;

How Not To Be A Wuss In America

A True Man submits to the truth, no matter how hard it is. He doesn’t try to alter it, or adjust it, to his way of thinking. Moreover, to his feelings.

He mans up, and accepts it. As Christ did in the “Agony Of The Garden In Gethsemane”

He knew His time had come. He understood His task would be hard, difficult. But what did He do?

He died to Himself, He gave Himself, He was obedient, and did the Fathers will.

This pain is what men, husbands, fathers, are called to experience. SACRIFICE OURSELVES EVERY DAY, FOR THE GOOD OF ANOTHER; FOR HIS BELOVED; FOR CHRIST!

And until men embrace this plea, we will never feel complete; we will never feel whole!

Summary

In this article, I’ve tried to help you understand a major part of marriage problems men experience, because of their lack of understanding of masculinity.

Not societies definition. But God the Fathers definition. Which is using Christ as our example, to maintain and flourish in a Godless culture.

Manning up and embracing your manliness is what God demands. You will get disrespected; you will be challenged. But what better way to go down than with Christ at your side?

Martyr yourself daily, for Christ; for your Beloved. Tough at first? Of Course! Well worth the pain? You Bet!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • In this article, we’ve learned how important masculinity is.
  • As well as, what true masculinity consists of.
  • Next, how this defines our mission as men.
  • Also, we quoted from 2 Timothy 1:7, which can be a good verse to refer to when the marriage problems men encounter become overwhelming.
  • Finally, how the marriage problems men experience can be avoided.
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
  • What are ways you can better become like Christ using Him as your example of manliness?
  • What things did you learn that can help you accomplish this?

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • One of the most important ways to build closeness in your marriage, which fuels the marital embrace.
  • Also, understand how to build the vital foundation, of placing your marriage and Beloved first behind the Father.
  • Last, a highly neglected question that must be answered, but is hardly ever asked, until it’s too late.

So, see you next time.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: 2 timothy 1:7, fr. chad ripperger, holy lover, jesus true masculine man, st. thomas aquinas, true masculinity

Are You A Holy Lover? Your Test Of True Manliness! Part 1

July 3, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Are You A Holy Lover?

Your True Test Of Manliness!

Part One

Understanding the philosophy of a Holy Lover:

This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections.

~St. Augustine

 

Part One Prayer Warfare Video

Holy Lover

Does She Deserve Any Less?

Are you a Holy Lover? Is your mission to become the man God created you to be? Do you understand your role, your duty, as a husband in marriage? Is your marriage thriving, prosperous, peaceful, full of the Father? Or is it lackluster, passionless, void of intimacy?

Are you and your Beloved, one flesh? Do you avoid each other like the plague? Do you go along to get along? Do you want more, crave more, hunger for more? But, don’t understand how to get what your marriage needs? Does your marriage lack greatness?

Well, I can help you reach this feat. I can help you understand your purpose. I can help you, in your pursuit of greatness.

In fact, I experienced many of the above questions. I didn’t understand, what I was supposed to accomplish on this earth. I had a family; a wife. But didn’t realize my purpose, where I was supposed to go. More important, where I was headed. Not to mention, how to lead them there.

So, I did what everyone else did. I chased the almighty dollar. I pursued careers. I tried with much passion, to fill my empty gut with things, stuff, sex, and distractions. None of it worked!

I required something more. There had to be more. THERE-MUST-BE-SOMETHING-MORE!

Mission: To Become A Holy Lover

By the grace of God, more did present itself. I stopped allowing myself to become distracted, with the lure of society. I decided to rise up, and search for the truth of my life. Moreover, what that meant for me, and my family. 

There had to be more to this life, than a mere one hundred years; then death. This logic made no sense. And it shouldn’t make any sense to you.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.

My mission of this article, is to get you to elevate yourself. To rise up from your nothingness, meaningless existence. Furthermore, to realize every decision, every thought, every action you take, means something in the universe.

Your marriage, your Beloved, your children. They are depending on you, to lead them to greatness. More important, to help them reach their full potential as members of the Kingdom Of God.

Can you do this? Are you the man for the mission? You have to be because my friend there’s no one else.

If you read this article, and follow the attributes. Then decide, you want more for your marriage. As well as, for your children; for yourself; than just a meager, selfish, one hundred years of existence.

Then I ask you, sacrifice yourself, your wants; your every desire. In benefit of the Father and your Beloved.

Become a Man Of Courage; embrace suffering, in service of your Beloved and Christ. In fact, give your life away for something far greater than yourself. For Christ, for your Beloved, for your marriage.

Once again, become her hero, once again become the husband she needs, once again become the man of her dreams. I plead with you, become the man God created you to be; in essence; become a Holy Lover!

What is a Holy Lover?

Let me be clear. Even though, I created the concept of the Holy Lover, along with the help of the Holy Spirit. I myself, have not reached the full potential of Holy Lover status.

I must admit, becoming a Holy Lover is a journey. It’s not something you can accomplish in a year. Something of this magnitude, takes time, perseverance, patience, discipline, humility, and prayer. But above all, to reach Holy Lover status requires the help of the Father, and His merciful grace.

As you embark on this path towards the Father; towards greatness. I implore you, to lean on prayer, and the Holy Spirit to help guide you. You cannot become great; holy; a saint without the Father. It’s impossible!

Indulge in more concepts such as Theology Of The Body here:

33 Steps Away From Comfort And Towards Magnificence!

I’ve divided the gifts of a Holy Lover into three categories (Prayer Warfare, The Art Of Manliness, Love Making Mastery).

Each category is as important as the other. Further, each category should be strived for and completed, for total success. You cannot neglect one category, in favor of another, and expect to reach ultimate and True Man. You must embrace each category, to become a Holy Lover.

So, let’s get started. I will list each gift in each category. Followed by a brief explanation of each.

The Gifts Of A Holy Lover

A Holy Lover is A Man Of Courage; True Man. He understands in order to serve, he must deliver the gifts of his manliness, given to him by the Father.

A Holy Lover understands every action, every thought, every word, is a gift given in service of the Father.

Your mission? To unleash as many gifts upon your Beloved, as she can stand. The reward? A magnificent, fantastic, passionate, holy and legendary marriage!

Category One

Prayer Warfare

No one wants to believe in evil, really, above all, not in an evil being, an evil spirit. Everyone wants to abolish the idea.

To admit the existence of evil means a responsibility, and no one wants that responsibility. That is the opening through which the evil spirit crawls, stilling all suspicions, making everything seem normal and natural.

This is the “thought,” the unwariness of the ordinary human being which amounts to a disinclination to believe in evil. And if you do not believe in evil, how can you believe in or ever know what good is?”

~Father Malachi Martin

This category is first. Why?  Because it’s foolish not to consult the Father, before you make a decision of consequence. If you don’t, plain and simple, you will fail.

Look, many husbands today believe they’re independent. They don’t need anyone, but themselves. Somehow they have it all together.

No matter who you are; evil, time, life, eventually, will force you to submit to its will. Depend on yourself, lean on yourself, continue to act as if you are your own god.

And, you’ll invite meaningless suffering, upon your marriage, your Beloved, your children, and yourself.

Ask yourself, “Do I want greatness or mediocrity?”

This abyss, is what society offers you.

As a husband, either you want your life to mean something or not (something bigger and better than yourself). Remember, Christianity is hard. It’s supposed to be. So I implore you, be tough; Lean on the Father!

More important, unleash upon your Beloved, every gift your masculinity has to offer. Refuse to be stingy, selfish, and lazy. As a husband, realize the power you possess. Again, unleash it; every bit of it; upon your Beloved!

Prayer Warfare

Gift One

A Holy Lover enforces, God first, marriage second, family third, and self; last!

As a husband, your mission is to protect, defend, and to serve. If you place your wants and desires above God’s, your Beloved, and your children. Are you in fact; serving? Or, are you wallowing in your own selfishness?

Gift Two

A Holy Lover engages in the spiritual battle daily.

 

Spiritual Warfare (prayer) is your number one duty as a husband! You are a fool, if you neglect this battle. The Evil One loves it, when you place his will above that of the Father’s. Indeed, my friend. I beg, choose a side; any side. This the Father demands!

Again, you are charged to protect, defend, and to serve. Prayer is the battle you engage in daily, to combat assaults on your family and marriage.

Examples; when your daughter leaves the Catholic faith. When your son gets a girl pregnant. When your son becomes an alcoholic. If your wife seeks another man’s comfort.

Can you withstand these trials on your own?

Will you continue to allow your family to journey through this life unprotected by you their husband; you their father? You have great power; use it!

Gift Three

A Holy Lover rejects contraception (birth control) in any form.

Why? Because birth control, will kill your marriage sooner or later.

Love is destined, to be shared. Remember, God loved the Son, and their love created the Holy Spirit!

If you and your wife, only love each other. That love will start to turn in upon itself, and murder your marriage. If its fruit isn’t the gift of children. Realize, love must create, it must multiply, it must never become selfish.

LOVE-MUST-HAVE-CONSEQUENCES! Love, must have something on the line. Otherwise, the marital embrace means nothing.

Contraception ruins this. It’s compared to masturbation. Complete and total selfishness. And sooner or later, your wife will feel used!

Gift Four

A Holy Lover understands marriage and its meaning.

Marriage and the Holy Caress, are created by the Father for procreation. As well as, the forming, and education of His children. More and more, for the couple to become one flesh, by striving to be holy, and as an example of His Divine Love, for the entire world to mimic!

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Gift Five

A Holy Lover understands the value of children (at least four) to the success of his marriage.

As said before, love is meant to be shared. And the gift and creation of children, solidifies your marriage will survive a lifetime.

In his book “The 7 Big Myths About Marriage” Christopher Kaczor, proclaims that marriages with at least four children, have a low percentage of divorce.

On a more practical plain, do you want to be old, alone, and placed in a nursing home? In addition, with no one to love and care for you.

Your wife will die. Your children, will love and care for you when you can’t care for yourself. This is called love, honor and respect. Don’t believe this can happen? Check the nursing homes filled with, old and alone people. Who likewise, drunk the Kool-Aid, and considered children as a hindrance and a curse. Yes, selfishness is hard to overcome.

Gift Six

A Holy Lover never ceases in his pursuit of holiness, sainthood, and perfection!

Your wife and children, will follow your lead. They will do what you do, act how you act, be what you be.

If you are the best moral example of yourself (which by the way, is the duty of every man on the planet) your Beloved will follow suit. Your children will follow suit.

If you don’t seek perfection and holiness, you will become aloof. Your marriage will suffer. And you will become just another average man, meant for greatness. But somehow, got distracted, and became less than his potential.

Do you want to be responsible, for the downfall of your marriage?

Gift Seven

A Holy Lover reads, understands, and applies Ephesians 5 (21-33) in service of his Beloved and the Father.

These verses, are your roadmap to greatness. This comes direct from the Word. View my article on (Ephesians 5) to get a greater understanding.

But in short, St. Paul is asking us to submit to Christ, and as long as we do this, our wives must submit to us. As husbands we must do as Christ did for his bride the Church; die a little each day, in service of our Beloved, and the Father.

Gift Eight

A Holy Lover understands sexual purity and chastity.

Sexual purity (masturbation, sex outside marriage, homosexuality, infidelity, pornography) each of these acts of selfishness, emasculates you, fosters effeminacy, and steals your masculinity away.

Controlling your sexual urges, fosters maturity, holiness, and manliness. This suffering, and being able to battle it, strengthens you, and purifies your inner-self. In like manner, suffering draws you closer to the Father as you mimic Christ, and his sacrifices.

You want to be great? Or you want to stay soft, weak, and effeminate? Become magnificent. Understand chastity!

Summary

Many husbands don’t have the staying power, the perseverance, the courage to become a Holy Lover. However, I believe most do. We just need direction and awareness that we do have a problem or potential problem.

My goal for you, is to place your marriage on a maintenance plan. To cheerfully bestow upon your Beloved, the gifts of a Holy Lover.

Over time, add new gifts as you become comfortable with the previous. I will not lie. This work is difficult and complicated. But if you love your wife, are devoted, and desire to be True Man. You can become the ultimate; Holy Lover.

The categories; Prayer Warfare; The Art Of Manliness; and Lovemaking Mastery; can’t be neglected for one over the other. As you’ve seen in this article, each works off of and compliments, the other. Neglect one, and you might as well neglect them all.

Are you willing to put in the work? Are you the man for the mission? Can you become the husband, the Father is calling you to be?

Can you become a Holy Lover? Become something greater than your current self?

She’s waiting on you. Your Beloved, the mother of your children. Your helpmate, your battle partner! She’s waiting on you, to rescue her; from you. Once you chisel the rough edges from yourself; this will encourage her to become the wife you need her to be.

Finally, again, I ask you to instill passion; instill splendor; inspire holiness. Refuse to fail; become a Holy Lover.

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You have been challenged with a great task; to become A Holy Lover.
  • You learned what is needed to get you on the path to becoming the man God is calling you to be. 
  • As well as, how to become the husband your wife needs.
  • You've also learned how men have been robbed of their masculinity, and how we need it to help us be True Man.
 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Could your marriage be better?
 
What are your plans to take your marriage to the next level?
 
How many of the Holy Lover gifts are you lacking?
 
Share It! Comment and hit me hard with your thoughts!

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • We'll discuss the one thing that has been stripped from most men in this country.
  • Also we'll speak on the phenomenon of why women crave True Masculinity.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: christian marriage for husbands, christopher kaczor, ephesians 5 (21-33), Father Malachi Martin, Gregory J. Popcak Ph.D., holy lover, intimacy in marriage, jesus true masculine man, matthew 16:18, men sexual health, Saint Augustine, saint pope john paul II

Bad Wife? | Did You Create This Monster?

May 15, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Is Your Marriage In Crisis? Start Here...

Bad Wife?

Did You Create This Monster?

When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her.

The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.”

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~ Life Is Worth Living

 

Bad Wife?

Could The Problem Be You?

A span of 30 years. An adventure to over five countries. An encounter of thousands of people, and hundreds of marriages.
 
 
Furthermore, in all those years, in all those places, and the meeting of all those people. Never did I stumble upon, one man that approached with this statement. As their marriage faded into oblivion:
 
“Jerry, my marriage is in a terrible way. And I realize my wife has some problems. But if I were to be honest. I would have to admit. I haven’t, for the most part, been the man I needed to be in our marriage. In fact, the man my Beloved needed me to be.”

This Is The Man Our Society Needs!

Now this is what I’m talking about! A look in the mirror. A smack in the face. A series kick butt, man up, strong, masculine, take responsibility, leader of men; response I’m looking for.
 
Not some soft, weak, wuss response blaming our woman! It’s all her fault. She did this. She did that. She’s like this. She’s like that. She doesn’t do this for me. She doesn’t do that for me.
 
Look man, our wives are just being who they are (women). They’re emotional, they’re sensitive, they’re loving, they’re compassionate.
 
View it this way:
 
The Father already told you:
 
“Woman He made them.”
 
Should you expect anything else? I mean, come on man. Be real!
 
Sure, women may be all the things I’ve stated. But I’ll tell you this; straight out.
 
In all those years.
 
In all those places.
 
In all those people.
 
I’ve never met a good wife or a bad wife, who disrespected; bad mouthed; deceived; wanted to abort a child; slept around or abandoned:
 
A strong, masculine, Christian man on the journey, and accepted becoming the man that God was calling him to be!
 
And that’s the truth. Sure, extreme exceptions exist. And I’m sure you can state one. In fact, these occasions are rare.
 
Revelation:
 
Women, wives, mothers, do not leave, abandon, divorce Men (husbands, fathers) when they feel; loved, cherished, fulfilled and first in all things.
 
Sorry, it just doesn’t happen. It’s natural law, in her instincts; just not in her DNA!
 
Brother, can you feel me?

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  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
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The First, Middle, Last And Only Question

I WANT YOU TO BE THAT MAN!
 
It's why I created  Catholic Alpha and Marriage Unchained. 
 
I understand from the deepest depths of my soul; we must change the men of our society, in order to change the world at large.
 
I want you to become part of this movement. One of you at a time. One great marriage, one great family, one great man. Turning a bad wife into a great wife.
 
As I’ve stated before. Our women will be who and what they are. The facts are plain, simple, exact.
 
This assessment isn’t good or bad. It’s just the way it is.
 
However, there’s one thing I must tell you. And you may not believe me. Indeed, the truth is the only direction I can approach from.
 
Contrary to popular belief; and even if you have a bad wife:
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS TO FOLLOW YOU.
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS TO BE IN YOUR CORNER.
 
YOUR YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO DEFEND, PROTECT AND SERVE HER.
 
YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO LEAD YOUR FAMILY IN GOOD, HOLINESS AND TOWARDS SAINTHOOD.
 
Brother, she has to. She is your Beloved. But you must earn this. You must pursue this objective with complete fierceness, passion, fire and reckless abandonment.
 
You must, in fact; be worthy.
 
Hey, even a bad wife can get behind a man such as this!
 
Women aren’t stupid. They possess instincts, insights and powers we can’t and never will in truth understand.
 
Moreover, are you worthy of your beloved?
 
Right now, at this point in your life? Have you been that man?
 
Can you honestly step up and proclaim to the world:
 
“Yes Father, I have been that man!”

If You Can’t Guess What? It’s OK

Why? Because my friend, life is a journey. In truth, An ever growing trek towards the Father. Where you will learn, grow and advance.
 
Meanwhile, becoming worthy of your Beloved.
 
This path is all she asks.
 
Click here for my page dedicated to what God expects from us and our manliness.
 

The Question: The Answer

So, the question, what is it? What could it possibly be? What in fact, is this awe inspiring, mind blowing revelation?
The answer?
What can I do, to change me, fix me, kill my old self above all else; become worthy?
See, no other way exists. By changing you; you change her.
Again, she is part of you, made for you; made from you.
You can only fix her, mold her, purify her, by igniting your will in suffering and sacrifice of her. In essence, fixing yourself.
Then, and only then, will you become worthy of her, and the things the Father has given you.
Tired of hearing sacrifice, suffering and unselfishness? I know, so was I.
Nevertheless, it’s part of the job; part of our mission as Christian men (the price of greatness).
This holds true no matter your current predicament of a good wife, or a bad wife.
Denying this part of us, is denying what Christ asks of us (to accept our role as protector, defender and server).
For this to work, you must rinse and repeat for a lifetime. Why?
Hey brother, haven’t you heard?
This crazy and messed up world isn’t it (isn’t the end).
The Father awaits!
Yeah, you got it; exactly.

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Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

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Summary

 

Again, are you worthy of your Beloved? Do you fight to gain virtue, and become the best moral example of yourself daily? In essence, fighting the spiritual battle within yourself. Never relenting?

Look, this is why you are Christian! Lean on the Father. Ask him to send the Holy Spirit to guide you, and help you fight. Pray, fast and prepare for battle!

See this is how you change a bad wife. She and your family, follow your lead. If you fall, they fall. If you rise, they rise. You must protect them from yourself. By being the best moral example of a man, you're able to muster.

No excuses, no whining; just freakin' do it!

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You learned the beginnings of how to start to turn your marriage around.
  • You've started to consider the worthiness of you as a husband.
  • Also, if you have a bad wife; maybe you could be the problem.
  • Lastly, get in the fight, and begin fighting the spiritual battle today! 
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Have you started taking your Beloved for granted?
 
When is the last time you really tried to win her heart?
 
Do you really expect your wife to be into you, if you refuse to be into her (totally and completely?)
 
 

 

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Pride and egoism in marriage, and how it can cost you your Beloved.
  • Seven examples of men who have let pride murder their marriage. And how not to let his happen to you!
  • Also, an old secret you can use to help you keep your marriage on track.

 

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Do You Have A Cheating Wife? | First Mission: Fix Yourself!

May 12, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.



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Do You Have A Cheating Wife?

First Mission: Fix Yourself!

In divorce cases, this is called mental torture or domination.

Really, it is egocentricity, in which one ego loves itself in the other ego. The I is projected into the Thou and is loved in the Thou. The Thou is not really loved as a person; it is only used as a means to the pleasure of the I.

As soon as the other ceases to exhilarate, the so-called love ceases.”

~ Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen, Three to Get Married

 

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Cheating Wife: The Gift Of Ten

When is the last time you gave your wife “The Gift Of Ten?” You may be wondering; what is “The Gift Of Ten?” Well, “The Gift Of Ten” means 10 orgasms (a partner of “The Forever Orgasm”).

 

You’re right, this question is raw. Especially, for Christian husbands.  Because many of us are taught that sex is naughty, dirty; should be kept in the dark; stored away in the storage room. To only be dusted off and mentioned, when the so-called; urge hits us.

 

Well, this train of thought is foolishness. Holy Sex; the marital embrace; the Holy Caress; [pullquote]Sacred Intimacy is not what we do. In fact; when ordered toward God; sex is who we are.[/pullquote]

 

The Father is good. Therefore; He can only create good. God created sex. Therefore; sex is good. That’s why the marital embrace is referred to as; the marital embrace. Because, it’s meant to only be done between the married couple.

 

But, when done outside of marriage; which means, done outside and ordered away from God (in essence, evil.) The act of the Holy Caress, is engulfed in eroticism, filth and causes great evils.

 

I’m speaking crazy you say? Well, the proof is around you. How many sexual relationships outside of marriage, end up in the toilet (unwanted children, abortions, fatherless homes, broken, hurt, used, and abandoned women, rapes, pedophilia, incest, infidelity?)

 

Each of these evils, have a root cause, stemming from sexual relations outside the marital embrace. Please; please try and rationalize that I’m wrong. But of course, I’m not.

To Stop A Cheating Wife?

Understand The Purpose Of Your Manhood

You must remember; God gives us what we ask for. Whether it’s Heaven or Hell.

 

You indulge in filth; He allows you to feel and be treated as dirt. You embrace purity, sanctity, and Holiness, the way He has designed it? Your marriage is rewarded with peace, passion, fruitfulness, unbelievable intimacy, fidelity, and an amorousness unlike any other.

 

Again, the question. When is the last time you sacrificed your ultimate pleasure in service of your wife, by giving her “The Gift Of Ten?” My bet, is not of late, or in many marriages; not ever!

 

God has given you the gift of masculinity. You in turn, must view your ability to satisfy and fulfill your Beloved as a gift from the Father. On loan, given to you by Him. Your masculinity is a gift in service and dignity of your wife; and the Father’s will. Not merely, to satisfy your urges and ego.

 

As St. Pope John Paul II proclaims in his writings, Love And Responsibility; the husband is required to make sure that his wife is given the gift of climax. As not to be used as a mere object, but to uphold her dignity as a human person. (More on female orgasm and a man's duty here)

 

I will add to that by saying, this is the minimum standard. Many wives need much more than one, for a deep and fulfilling sexual experience. And, I believe it’s safe to say, your wife is in this category (enter “The Gift Of Ten”).

Cheating Wife? Give Her The Gift Of Ten!

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Do You Have A Cheating Wife?

Fix Yourself First!

You boast, you love her. You say, she’s the most important person in your life. You claim, you would do anything for her happiness. In the end, aren’t these mere words? Until you put into action these phrases, they have no meaning whatsoever.

 

Until you insert the Father at once, into the center of your marriage, you and your wife will continue to be attacked by the Evil One.

 

If you have a cheating wife?  Do me a favor, and consider; just consider, your roll in this travesty. Until you learn to sacrifice, suffer, and place yourself last. Moreover, to understand what this truly means in your marriage and family. You; your Beloved; your children; nothing but unhappiness, misery, and attacks from the Father Of Lies.

 

Listen or don’t listen. The ultimate choice is yours. But see, I have a joyous wife. Do you? Have you ever even considered this question?

 

Probably, over the span of your marriage. You’ve refused to absorb the clues, your wife has given you, concerning her unhappiness and emptiness. In wait for you, her Beloved husband to return to her. To once again love her, engulf her in pure passion and intimacy. To insure her; she’s first in all things in your life. Only you can answer these claims as true or untrue, in your marriage.

 

This cluelessness is a gargantuan problem in husbands, and men in general. You know the type. They know everything. You can’t tell them anything. And if you do, you must use kid gloves. Because they will get offended, upset, or muster a complete breakdown. Total emasculation and effeminacy.

 

So, when their wife approaches, and makes known, she’s leaving. Or instead of leaving him, she has an affair on his lazy, aloof butt!

 

He’s in total shock and bewilderment, as to her cause or reasons. He’s too stupid, to realize what his Beloved needs to feel close to him. Mainly, because he’s too concerned with his own selfishness.

 

He refuses to zero in on his wife, to make her sense appreciation and fulfillment. In essence, he’s slowly over the years, started to take his Beloved for granted. And, she can no longer stand being treated as an object. Do you blame her?

 

Now, I understand the wife deserves blame as well. But, we aren’t talking about your wife. We’re talking about you. The leader. The man of the household. The individual, charged to protect, defend, and serve. The Christian soldier Christ left in charge.

 

If you keep company with the millions of men who suffer from a cheating wife. I must proclaim, look at yourself first. Place yourself in front of the mirror and examine your roll. Fix you! Get yourself right with God. Before you rush out and scream, blame, and attack, your wife for her problems and indiscretions.

 

In fact, I’m asking you to become the husband she needs. In order that your Beloved is compelled, to follow and embrace your leadership.

Refuse Effeminacy

Deny Yourself Pleasure In Lieu Of Greatness!

Remember; Christ left you in charge of this realm. Not your wife; you! She is your helpmate, your battle partner. But you must fight, to become the man God created you to be, so you can lead, and become worthy of your wife’s loyalty, love, and trust.

 

In essence, become the best moral example of yourself. Then and only then, will she submit to you, and allow you to be her hero, her champion. To once again, become worthy of her; the man of her dreams.

 

Your first instinct will be to resist what I’m telling you. Don’t! That’s evil, and your brainwashing from society kicking in.

 

Refuse to hear that foolishness, and to further be manipulated. Use what the Father has given you. Invoke the Holy Spirit. They will help you realize what needs to be done?

 

My proof? Consider your life up to this point. You’ve done everything and all things on your terms. My question to you?

 

HOW-HAS-THAT-WORKED-OUT-FOR-YOU!

 

Understand more on how to deal with infidelity, by exploring my page dedicated specifically to infidelity and its prevention here)

Summary

Many husbands reading this article, will complain and whine, concerning how I've painted a picture of them having to do all of the work.

The problem, most of our lives we've been conditioned to focus on the other person's faults and misdeeds. While in complete denial of our own foolishness and selfishness.

Well, I don't roll like that. You can't keep your Beloved, not to mention a cheating wife happy, by continuing to only focus on her craziness.  

You must zoom in on what you can control. And, the only person you can completely control is you. Change you; dig deep into what you can do to improve yourself. And I promise, you will look tantalizing to your Beloved.

Insert God. Realize the meaning of sacrifice and suffering, for the benefit of another. Kill your ego. Dismiss selfishness. In essence, become marketable, a great catch, a stud, a blue chipper again.

Stop being lazy! Stand up for the truth, and what's right and virtuous in this chaotic society.

Be "A Man Of Courage".

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You learned what "The Gift Of Ten" is. And where to learn more on this wonderful concept. (Subscribe to my two week email course to learn more; much more.) 
  • You also learned, how important it is to adopt the proper mindset concerning the marital embrace. Moreover, how God views the art of making love.
  • You now understand that in order to understand a cheating wife. You must first understand, what the Father expects from you concerning the gift of masculinity He's entrusted to you.
And Last, Questions To Crack Your Cranium: 
 
Do you agree with the principles I've set forth in this article?
 
Do you know of other husbands that are taking their wives for granted? And getting a wife who is fed up; depressed; with feelings of emptiness?
 
Shoot me some comments!
 
 

 

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • Your ever growing roll as the protector and defender of your home.
  • Also, we'll cover what wives really need in a husband; not necessarily what they want. And how it's important that you realize the difference.

Catch you next article. It will be powerful!

 

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