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Reasons Why My Catholic Wife Won’t Sleep With Me! CARP074

April 3, 2023 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

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Why Won't My Wife Sleep With Me?

In this 74th episode? Catholic Alpha's Radical Rant: What do I do if my Catholic wife won't sleep with me?

A study was done by Masters & Johnson that determined that…90 percent of women never experience complete and fulfilling orgasms

Jerry Jacobs Jr ~ Catholic Alpha

 

  • In this 74th episode of the Catholic Alpha Radical LIVE Show we discuss...
  • Why my wife won't make love to me?
  • Plus, your LIVE calls to answer your Catholic marriage problem questions.

 

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Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
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Catholic Alpha's Radical Rant Of The Day...

Episode 73- Show Notes

"Show Transcript"

Hello, I’m Jerry Jacobs Jr. and welcome to the Catholic Alpha Radical Live! (Save My Catholic Marriage Minute) Where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

The Save My Catholic Marriage Minute is for you if…

  • Your marriage has very little or no emotional closeness
  • Your wife has asked for a divorce or separation.
  • Your wife has left the home, or you are separated.
  • Your wife is in the home, but you are in separate bedrooms.
  • Your marriage is just plain boring and or, has no passion.
  • You engage in the marital embrace less than weekly or severe (less than once a month!)
  • You are divorced but didn’t want it.
  1. IN THIS 74th EPISODE (Reasons why my Catholic wife won’t sleep with me)
  2. Plus, LIVE calls answering your marriage questions
  3. So, please call now and get in the queue!
  4. I’ve helped hundreds of men in their marriage…
  5. so why don’t you get in the queue, so I can help you!
  6. Get your Catholic Marriage questions answered now by calling (313) Radical…that’s (313) 723-4225
  7. or call in using your browser at CallinStudio.com/RADICAL1
  8. Don’t wait! Get in the queue now call (313) Radical
  9. For some resolution to your marriage confusion – BAM!

TRANSITION MUSIC

 

 

Quote Of The Day

[QUOTE]” The second cause of love is knowledge. A woman cannot love a man unless she has had at least some knowledge of him.

"Introduce me to him" is a demand for knowledge preceding love.

Even the dream girl of the bachelor has to be constructed out of

fragments of knowledge. The unknown is the unloved. The love of

the animal begins with the knowledge that comes through its

senses, but the knowledge of man comes from his senses and his

intellect. As love comes from knowledge, so hatred comes from

want of knowledge. Bigotry is the fruit of ignorance.” [END QUOTE]

 

~Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen ~Book: Three To Get Married

 

 

Save My Catholic Marriage Minute

  1. [Continually look for calls in the queue.]
  2. Why won’t my wife make love to me?
  3. Why is sex the second most important thing in marriage?
  4. Why doesn’t my wife enjoy making love with me?
  5. We’ll go into this more after the break.
  6. After the segment pose the question…
  • What do you think? Call (313) Radical to comment
  • Do you have a troubled wife?
  • Call (313) 723-4225 now! or call from your browser…
  • Inserting the URL…CallinStudio.com/RADICAL1
  • Remember get all of your marriage questions answered every…
  • Monday thru Friday 10am eastern
  1. Encourage listeners to call…
  • Hey has your wife said she needs some space? Call me right now at (313) RADICAL that’s 313-423-4225 I need to talk to you!
  • Hey, has your wife been having an affair? Call me right now at (313) RADICAL that’s 313-423-4225 for answers on how to deal with this!
  • Hey has your asked you to move out? I need to speak to you right now…call (313) RADICAL that’s 313-423-4225
  1. [Use the speech word counter website]
  2. TRANSITION MUSIC SHORT

 

 

Call To Action #1

[If You’re Getting Value From This Podcast And Would Like more personal Marriage Help…]

  • Visit SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com for an opportunity to work with me personally for free!
  • Yes, within 30 days learn how to become a better husband that attracts your wife back to you!
  • Visit SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com and get a plan tailored specific to your marriage and situation.
  • I’ve helped hundreds of men in their marriages.
  • Allow me the chance to help you, using my personal and gained experience.
  • Visit SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com…For superior coaching for your marriage.
  • Again…SaveMyCatholicMarraige.com
  • That’s…SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com to become the man God created you to be and the husband your wife needs!
  • Lastly, I always get the question…why don’t you help women. And I always answer them…I do!
  • So, for all of you Beloved wives out there that want to reignite that feeling of emotional closeness and complete love from your hubby
  • Consider Marriage Coaching and visit
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TRANSITION MUSIC!

 

 

SMCM Minute Content: My Wife Won’t Sleep With Me!

My Story…

  • About 15 years ago my wife began now wanting to make love anymore.
  • Her libido became very low and she was uninterested in making love.
  • We would have sex but it was infrequent and I initiated it 99 percent of the time; unlike when we were dating or first married.
  • At first we thought it was something to do with her (hormones, pre-menopause etc)
  • We couldn’t figure it out together so I started researching on my own.
  • And here is what I found…

 

 

The Second Most Important Thing In Marriage

  • Over the years many couples take the act of making love for granted.
  • As they get older they get used to infrequent intimacy and begin to lose one of the very things that builds closeness in their relationship.
  • Which is the most important factor for women in marriage.
  • And what do man men do…
  • We begin to ignore it thinking it will be ok and come back.
  • But of course most times the fire never comes back and so we find substitutes for the closeness with our wives…
  • Like hobbies, other women, television, work, friends etc.
  • Once this happens our marriages become boring, lackluster, and passionless.

 

Does Your Wife Display The Following?

  • Feelings of unhappiness
  • Feelings of emptiness
  • Feelings of depression
  • Feelings of boredom with making love
  • Feelings she is unsatisfied
  • Feelings she is unfulfilled as a woman
  • Has shut down emotionally
  • Has stopped speaking and having conversations with you
  • Throws her anger and frustration at you frequently
  • Neglects, or treats the kids bad.
  • Most times these symptoms are caused by a lack of fulfilling intimacy.
  • For this reason sex for women is substantially more important and will cause them to feel unloved thereby beginning the Women’s Exit Strategy!

 

Little Known Facts About The Marital Embrace

  • A study was done by Masters & Johnson that determined that…
  • 90 percent of women never experience complete and fulfilling orgasms
  • 75 percent of men are premature ejaculators
  • Which means that before his wife is completely and totally sexually fulfilled by having all the orgasms she needs, he loses his cool (ejaculates) which ends the sex session.
  • Why because for a man ejaculation is like an atomic bomb and depletes all of his energy.
  • On the other hand, for women, one orgasm expends only 1/50th of the energy a man does.
  • Which explains why women need (not want) many more orgasms then their husbands.
  • It takes women 20 minutes to warm up to making love (actual penetration)
  • Many men Lose Their Cool in 5-15 minutes.
  • This causes a disparity in the marital act.
  • As one partner is satisfied and the other has been denied fulfillment.
  • How does the Church look at this?
  • Pope John Paul II reveals that every husband is required to give his wife at least one orgasm during lovemaking to prevent her from feeling used as an utensil or object.

 

You Must Prolong Lovemaking…

  • Many men think they are studs or at least adequate in the bedroom.
  • But as seen above at least 75 percent of men are not.
  • And who is the judge? Your wife is the judge…
  • If a wife is displaying any of the symptoms I mentioned above (depression, unhappiness, unloved etc) she is unfulfilled sexually and as a woman. And will eventually begin the Women’s Exit Strategy!
  • You must at all cost realize that the marital embrace is much more than an orgasm and pleasure for you the husband.
  • But for your wife it is her very essence of feeling that she is loved by you.
  • All of the items mentioned above are your wife’s inhibitions (her deep pain) which must be removed or your marriage will eventually suffer!
  • How long does this take?
  • To remove all inhibitions from your wife takes a prolongation of the sex act of at least 3 times a week, for a minimum of 1-4 hours for a period of 1-3 years!
  • This depends on the amount of pain your wife has experienced in her life. Sexual abuse, premarital sex partners etc. will take longer. Then a normal life of no pain. But no matter every woman needs a minimum of a year!
  • Once this purge of inhibitions takes place, your wife will return to a more normal need for lovemaking of twice per week or so.
  • But you will have to remember to continuously make sure she is completely satisfied or she will revert back.

 

The Benefits For Your Wife…

  • Total emotional, psychological and sexual fulfillment for your wife.
  • A euphoric sense of being loved and cherished by you her husband.
  • Complete and total feelings of vulnerability.
  • A dramatic increase in libido
  • An unquenchable hunger for her husband.
  • An increased sentiment of love that she needs to spread throughout your family.
  • An almost unbreakable bond with her husband

A complete and deep understanding of how to make sacred love to her husband.

 

 

The Benefits For The Husband…

  • Your wife will once again desire you.
  • Your wife will no longer be bored with the marital act.
  • Your wife will approach you to make sacred love.
  • You will have sacred intimacy multiple times per week.
  • You will have a substantial increase in sex drive.
  • Your stamina will increase.
  • The bond with your wife will increase.
  • You will experience extreme vulnerability (essential for a lifelong fulfilling marriage).
  • You will experience a greater sense of moral character.
  • Your insecurities of how to make love; disappear!
  • This list is a small example of the benefits.

 

One Final Word…

  • This way of looking at intimacy will be hard for you to accept at first.
  • But again you must realize that this program takes you step by step through this process of all three categories (prayer warfare, the art of manliness, and making love mastery).
  • Because you are unfamiliar in most cases of how these things work you must push past the pain and uncertainty, which will get you to where you must be.
  • Again, everything in this program feeds off of every other thing.
  • Try to buy in and do the work and use the tool at the appropriate time and you will see wonders you never imagined!

…BAM!

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Catholic Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving Catholic marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen Now!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Get Hooked! Listen To Our First 4 Radical Episodes

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Pornography In Marriage: Is It Really Worth It? CARP047

April 15, 2022 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

Pornography In Marriage is it really worth it (Divorce)

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Pornography: What No One Wants To Talk About...

The Hidden Truth!

In this 47th episode? We discuss the effects of pornography on marriage, masculinity and the family, with Jim O'day!...

The cure for pornography addiction is simple but it ain't easy!

Jim O'Day ~ IntegrityRestored.com

 

  • My interview with Jim O'Day, executive director of Integrity Restored which helps with pornography addiction.
  • What are the effects of pornography on marriage?
  • How do you cure pornography addiction?
  • How can masturbation and pornography cause erectile dysfunction in men?

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Effects Of Porn....Episode

 

  • For help with pornography addiction, or how to help someone with pornography addiction visit IntegrityRestored.com
  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • She's Asked For A Divorce Now What? Start Here: SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

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The Effects Of Porn On Masculinity

Episode 38 - Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 29 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

Catholic Marriage (Quote Of The Day)

I saw my Guardian Angel, who ordered me to follow him.
In a moment I was in a misty place full of fire in which there was a great crowd of suffering souls.
They were praying fervently, but to no avail, for themselves; only we can come to their aid.
The flames, which were burning them, did not touch me at all.
My Guardian Angel did not leave me for an instant.
I asked these souls what their greatest suffering was.
They answered me in one voice that their greatest torment was longing for God.
I saw Our Lady visiting the souls in Purgatory.
The souls call Her “The Star of the Sea”. She brings them refreshment.
I wanted to talk with them some more, but my Guardian Angel beckoned me to leave.
We went out of that prison of suffering. [I heard an interior voice which said] ‘My mercy does not want this, but justice demands it.
Since that time, I am in closer communion with the suffering souls.
”

~Diary of Saint Maria Faustina Kowalska ~ Her Tour Of Purgatory #20

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Catholic Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving Catholic marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

  • Prayer Warfare - physical protection of your wife and family is important, but what about when you aren't around. Who protects them at school, at work? For this reason spiritual protection by you is extremely vital. And you can't protect them from the Evil One without prayer and sacrifice. Understand this is a battle. And you must get in it!
  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
Listen Now!

Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Get Hooked! Listen To Our First 4 Radical Episodes

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She’s Asked For A Divorce; Now What? Rebuild The Closeness

March 9, 2021 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

She's Asked For A Divorce Now What? Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast The Podcast That Fixes Catholic Marriages

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What Do You Do When Your Beloved Asks For A Divorce?

What No One's Telling You!

In this 30th episode? I speak on how to build and rebuild closeness in marriage...

You must understand that the closer your wife feels to you the more she will desire you.

Jerry Jacobs Jr.~Catholic Alpha

 

  • Why and how to rekindle closeness and passion in your marriage?
  • Why your wife rejects your advances for intimacy?
  • Why is the feeling of closeness so important for your Beloved that she would end your marriage over it?
  • Why does taking your wife for granted kill intimacy in marriage?
  • How does watching how your wife moves give you clues to her state of mind towards you and your marriage?

Can you afford to miss this?

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My Wife Has Asked For A Divorce Now What?....Episode

 

  • Send questions and comments to RadicalQuestions@CatholicAlpha.com
  • She's Asked For A Divorce Now What? Start Here: SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com
  • Watch this video: Restoration Of Marriage Comes From Above
  • Article on how to man up Christ's way: Christ - The Original Catholic Alpha
  • What the Catholic Alpha podcast is about and the benefits for you: Episode 1 - Marriage problems, girlfriend problems, intimacy problems? Start Here!
  • Book - Three To Get Married - Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen (consider before Catholic Marriage counseling)

Has She Asked For A Divorce?...Left The Home?

Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

Just How Serious Are You?...Your Next Step Starts Here..."Has she asked for a divorce, left the home, Are you separated; divorced? If So, TAKE ACTION NOW to fix this..."

Enter The Marriage Masterclass Now!

Your Wife Has Asked For A Divorce; Now What?

Episode 30 - Show Notes

Hello and welcome to Catholic Alpha Radical! – A Catholic Relationships podcast. Giving men winning tactics for marriage problems, girlfriend problems, and intimacy problems.

Moreover, where my main mission is to keep you out of divorce court!

And where Marriage Unchained – The Art Of One Flesh; Divorce Combat coaching is the flavor of the day!

While helping men understand marriage and courting NOT DATING in the Catholic Faith!

Why? Because dating is for sex and courting is for marriage – THIS IS EPISODE 30 - BAM!

So, Let’s-Do-This!

 

Today we’re going to talk about building closeness in marriage

Why?

Because without a feeling closeness your wife begins to feel unloved, unwanted, taken for granted, and uncherished!

But more important if she doesn’t feel close to you she will stop wanting to make love to you!

You will have to bribe her to make love

She will get bored with the marital embrace

And she will begin rejecting your advances for intimacy

So in order to prevent this from happening today for a few minutes we’re going to talk about how to rekindle closeness.

No need to worry about writing or taking notes I’ve created a great checklist for you to follow.

You can get it at www.SaveMyCatholicMarriage.com

So TIP 1: You must understand that the closer your wife feels to you the more she will desire you.

 NO CLOSENESS-NO INTIMACY-NO DESIRE FOR YOU-NO SEX-PERIOD!

This is why you must do the things to make her always feel she is connected and bonded to you emotionally.

And this begins with emotional intimacy, which is what I like to call making love outside the bedroom

TIP 2: Taking your Beloved for granted kills closeness

Marriages begin to fade when selfishness creeps in and when the couple begins to take each other for granted.

But for women it’s even more devasting because showing her appreciation is what fuels her love for you her Beloved husband.

So when you begin to take her for granted, marriages begin to fade, the intimacy fades and becomes lackluster.

She begins thinking of separation, taking the kids and leaving the home or worse seeking divorce.

As a husband you must vow to win your Beloved’s heart daily.

And this is what the Rekindling Closeness Checklist does for you.

A step by step cheat sheet to give a complete list in three areas to cultivate closeness with your Beloved daily.

The first category is Rekindling Closeness (The Heart)

This is such things as cuddling, kissing her deeply, showing her enormous amounts of appreciation…

watching and admiring how she moves and tons more on the list.

Category two is Rekindling Closeness (The Physical)

This includes such things as whisking her away on a Three Day Weekend…

Occasionally attend a religious marriage retreat…

be spontaneous and spend a night in a five star hotel one night during the week and order room service…

get a warm bowl or container of water and wash your Beloved’s feet after a long hard day…

and many many more things are on this list.

Category three: Rekindling Closeness (Conversation Perfect)

This is probably the most important category

You must develop a habit of conversation…

You must talk, you must ask her how she feels, what she thinks…

her current dreams, wants and desires for her marriage, for herself and for you and the children, as well as her faith.

I know for men this is truly hard especially doing it on a regular basis, but you must.

This is one of the greatest ways to build closeness, and a sense of true friendship with her.

Just sit there and listen…

I mean really listen to her and ask inquiring questions to show you are really into her!

THIS IS HUGE

Here are some example question that you can ask her to stimulate a meaningful and deep conversation… about her and the most important relationship in your life, your marriage!

Ask her if you make her feel appreciated?

Ask her if you make her feel loved

Ask her if you make her feel protected and secure?

Asking how she really rates your marriage, (bad, good, great, or thriving?)

Ask her about her current relationship with Christ

Ask her if your lovemaking is what she needs?

No matter how she answers in all of these questions, you must not judge her or get upset…

but ask her to please tell you why she feels this way

and what can you do to make it better. Even if the answer is positive or negative!

I promise you will not regret this bold and courageous move you are making.

Remember you are a Christian Soldier!

Catholic Marriage (Quote Of The Day)

He who breaks the Divine Law and finds himself
outside of Christ's Mystical Body in a second marriage, will often
justify himself by saying: "I could not accept the Doctrine of
Transubstantiation."

What he means is that he can no longer
accept the Sixth Commandment. Milton wrote an abstract and
apparently a philosophical treatise on "Doctrine and Discipline of
Divorce," in which he justified the divorce on the grounds of
incompatibility.

But the real reason was not what he set down in
the book; it was to be found in the fact that he wished to marry
someone else while his wife was living.

What is important is not
what people say, but why they say it. Too many assume that the
reason people do not come to God is because they are ignorant; it
is more generally true that the reason people do not come to God
is because of their behavior.”

 

~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen – Three To Get Married

Conclusion

As we always do, we end with a quote from Pope Benedict XVI

Quote “Society offers you comfort…

But you weren’t made for comfort…

You were made for greatness!

So go forth Christian Soldier…

The Spiritual fight is upon you…

Fast-Pray-And Prepare For Battle!

Catholic Marriage Crisis Tips For Men!

More About Catholic Alpha Radical!

The Catholic Alpha Radical Podcast

Catholic Alpha Radical, is about solving Catholic marriage trouble, and relationship issues on a raw level. Which is what we really and truly need today.

Why?

I'll give you at least three of the top reasons...

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  • The Art Of Manliness - You can't have the fortitude, perseverance, and patience, you need to survive without understanding your mission and purpose as a man...NUFF SAID!
  • Making Love Mastery - Understanding intimacy and the marital embrace through the eyes of God and your wife, this is powerful. And will change the closeness between you and your wife forever. Creating a marriage filled with devotion, loyalty, and passionate love!
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Sexless Marriage| The Top 24 Reasons For Intimacy Agony In Marriage

March 7, 2016 By Jerry Jacobs Jr.

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Sexless Marriage: The Agony

The Top 24 Reasons For Intimacy Anguish In Your Marriage

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Sexless Marriage: Intimacy Anguish

Causes With Devastating Effects

 

To be an infallible lover, the first thing you must recognize that sex is and must always be holy.  It must make you holy. It must make your beloved holy. It must lead you to him who is holy." 
 
~Gregory J. Popcak, Ph.D. ~ Catholic Marriage Therapist and Author
 

Yes, causes (plural). Several possible reasons exist for sexual issues in marriages. Is your marriage fortunate to have one possibility? Or, is your Holy Union one of the unlucky, meaning two or more to wrestle with?

For this reason, I must bring you along slow. Because, I realize how big of a job you have in front of you.

Just as they proclaim about being overweight. Getting fat didn’t take a couple of weeks. So, what makes you think you’ll lose 100lbs in two weeks?

Remove the quick fix mentality from your brain right now.

If you appraise this journey is a two week or even 30 day task, you are mistaken. Now, I’m not concluding you won’t have small successes along the way.

I need you to understand, this crossroads has taken you years or in some cases decades to reach. A complicated issue, such as a sexless marriage, can't be solved as quick as tomorrow.

Most of all, I need you to dig in; get ready for a battle; persevere.

Do what I’ve addressed earlier in my previous articles; send forth your will. Tell yourself, you will smash this, as you smash a clove of garlic.

You will fight. You will endure, and sacrifice whatever is needed to succeed. Indeed, save and keep what you’ve built, what rightfully is yours by the Grace of God.

Most Common Causes Three Categories:

Emotional, Physical And Spiritual

Some of these issues are close in nature. But, for now we will separate them. In order that you can see the intricacies of how each may be a cause of intimacy problems or a sexless marriage.
 
In my experience, none of these problems can exist in a marriage. If they do, you must dig your feet in hard and fast, and solve them now! Without a doubt, you can’t procrastinate, be lazy or make excuses.
 

Again, your full focus is required to conquer this invader. An invader that’s entered, your home, your family, your marriage, and last; your bed.

Jerry Jacobs Jr. ~ Catholic Alpha
 
You must above all, decide which of these is the culprit (my bet is you have more than one). In my followup course, Marriage Unchained: INFLAMED! I cover a major secret that can help with some of these causes.
 
Moreover, devising a plan for action.

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  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
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Sexless Marriage: Ripping The Heart Out Of Closeness

Emotional

  1. Feelings Of Depression:
  • Each of us experiences mild depression which is normal, but severe depression is another story.
  • Depression will affect every aspect of your marriage, including the sacred union.
  1. Feelings Of Emptiness:
    Coping with the emotional fiery rampage of a sexless marriage
    Battling The Anguish In Your Marriage
  • This can cause severe promiscuity; always searching to fill that hole in your gut.
  • Drugs, pornography, money, any vice you can dream of. Problem; it’s never enough!
  1. Genital Pain (Mental):
  • There’s some mental anguish or pain that you’ve caused. She unknowingly transfers this to making sacred love, believing the sacred marital act causes her physical pain.
  1. Infidelity:
  • Chronic infidelity breaks the bond (physically and emotionally).
  • The total giving of self is impossible. Without this, you have no marriage (well, maybe on paper).
  1. Lack Of Trust:
  • Stops self-giving; self-sacrificing love in its tracks.
  • No trust, no marital intimacy. No marital intimacy; no marriage.
  1. Lack Of Vulnerability:
  • Each partner must feel vulnerable to the other. There must be something given up; something on the line.
  • Only then can you sense as though you’re giving up something for the greater good of the other.
  1. Mental Illness (severe):
  • This is self-explanatory, but is often overlooked.
  1. Premature Ejaculation:
  • 75% of men suffer this.
  • Meaning, you ejaculate before your wife has a chance to experience her first climax.
  1. Premarital Sex With Multiple Partners:
  • Each failed sexual relationship creates defensive barriers, making it difficult to create a lifelong marriage.
  1. Premarital Sex With Your Wife:
  • Cohabitation increases the chance of divorce at a high rate.
  1. Selfishness:
  • Focusing on self.
  • Unwilling to sacrifice your life for your wife.

Sexless Marriage:

Overcoming The Physical

1. Genital Pain (physical):

  • This is actual pain experienced upon penetration.
  • The pain is real and not imagined.

2. Lack Of Sexual Stamina:

You’re only able to perform in short periods, if at all.

3. Loss Of Hormones:

  • Your hormones are valuable.
  • You must learn how to hold on to them.

4. Low Sex Drive:

  • Your desire should be on demand and frequent.
  • Your wife should never be denied or have to wait for you to be in the mood for sacred intimacy.

5. No Sex Drive:

  • No matter if you are 18 or 108 your drive should always be present and available. 

6. Unable To Achieve Or Maintain An Erection:

  • Again, this cause is self-explanatory.

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Not Sure Where To Begin?

Has Your Marriage Lost The Fire, The Passion, The Devotion?

Lost Her Respect? Can't Seem To Make Her Happy Anymore?

  • Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
  • Secret #2: Could a lack of Authentic Masculinity be the culprit?
  • Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent? 
Tips On How To Save A Failing Marriage: Consume The 20-Minute Marriage Makeover!

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Sexless Marriage: Not New Age Or New Wave

I mean the one and only Holy Trinity (Father; Son; Holy Spirit)

Spiritual

  1. Contraception:
  • Stops trust, stops vulnerability, stops the giving of total self, stops (emotional, physical and psychological) bonding in your marriage. (DOOMED TO FAILURE!)
  • More important, it stops children. It’s proven, the more children the less chance of divorce and marital problems.

 

  1. Didn’t Get Married In The Church:

    A sexless marriage has a facet absent of God. In essence, inviting evil to reign as a heart wrapped in a chain engulfed in fire.
    A Sexless Marriage Absent Of God
  • If you don’t understand what grace is, you better find out quick.
  • In the Catholic Faith marriage is a sacrament. This means your marriage receives special graces from God. (in short, it enhances the effects of your marriage).

 

  1. Godless Marriage:
  • God created marriage. It takes three, your odds of success are low without the Almighty.

 

  1. Prayer:
  • Prayer will save your marriage if you persevere and endure.
  • Without prayer you have no protection from the effects of “The Fall” (sin, the bad, evil).
  1. Sin
  • Bad, evil or immoral behavior crushes your marriage like a tin cup. Marriage is hard enough when you do things right.
  • It’s like swimming in the ocean against a huge wave. Problems come fast and hard. Too fast for you to fix them all.
  1. Pornography
  • Pure selfishness; causes you to turn in upon yourself
  • Only a matter of time before your marriage is over.
  • Can cause erectile dysfunction (can you say sexless marriage?)

7. Forgoing Confession

  • This is where our marriage counseling should be.
  • Confession relieves an unbelievable amount  of weight from your soul.
  • We must understand what God loves about the marital embrace. Confession is where we learn this!

My Marriage

Hey, I was there. Furthermore, I’ve had more than a few of these possibilities during my marriages.
 
Yep, my marriage was screwed up. Yet, I didn’t realize it. I was so blinded by my selfishness, it almost cost me my soulmate (experience my story here).
 
Don’t let this be you. Continue reading and begin the battle!

Summary

Many will analyze what I've stated above, and dismiss it outright.

One, because they've never considered how much their selfish past, has infected their once rapturous marriage.

But even less noticeable, once they realize most of what is said above either applies to them, or partially applies. They will get angry, or hurt feelings, and retreat back into the twilight zone of denial.

Why? Because the truth hurts. In fact, anger is usually the first response to truth. It's hard to face up to our own sins and misdeeds.

These conclusions are of course a mistake, and moreover, naive. In order to fix our selfish lives, and to claim peace. We must seek courage; embrace truth. 

Hey, no husband starts out wanting to endure the effects of intimacy problems, or more drastic, a sexless marriage (but it happens.) Why? Because men get complacent. We get lazy; the big head. In essence PRIDE!

We think we know everything. But in fact, we don't know crap. And worse yet? We refuse to look in the mirror, and admit it! Just Dumb!

 

Finally, a sexless marriage will kill your marriage (guaranteed). Sex is a gift from the Father, for the married couple. It's the only way that they can become seamless, inseparable, unbreakable; one flesh. 

In This Article: How We've Rocked It!

  • You learned the many possible reasons for the cause of intimacy problems in a marriage.
  • You also learned, an absence of God in your marriage will invite evil to reign.
  • Also, how your past immoral deeds (however you choose to look at it) is now contaminating every aspect of your union with your Beloved.
  • Finally, how in order to solve these issues, perseverance is a must.
Do you have experience, or know of a marriage that has any of the problems listed above?
 
How is that marriage surviving? Are they happy? Are they thriving?
 
Do you think a sexless marriage can endure for a lifetime?

What's Coming Next?

In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:

  • One of the most controversial verses in the bible concerning marriage.
  • And how that verse should really apply to marriage.
  • Is the Christian faith just a list of rules, or a guaranteed path to happiness, fulfillment and peace?
  • What does submit, subordinate or subject to really mean; concerning wives and marriage?
  • Understanding what the Father is asking of you, as a Christian husband.
  • And why Christ's example of masculinity, must be your course!

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