What Can A Husband Do To Save His Marriage?
Answer: Unleash The Holy Lover Within: Gift Twenty-One
In sex the male adores the female. In love the man and woman together adore God.”
~Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen~Three To Get Married
A Holy Lover must at all times sacrifice his wants, desires, and needs for that of his Beloved; during the holy caress.
MANLINESS ALERT: SEX IS NOT ABOUT YOU! IT’S ABOUT YOUR BELOVED! IT’S ABOUT GOD!
In my first marriage, and well into my second marriage, I felt, for the most part, I had it together, when it came to sex. I wasn’t Catholic, and had no clue regarding the Church’s (Christ’s) teaching on sex.
At that time, I had no idea sexuality must include the Father. Further, each occasion is a supernatural gift from Him.
Hell, I more often than not, was concerned with myself. Sure, I wanted my wife to have a good time. But my ultimate goal, was my own satisfaction. And anything in between, was a means to that end.
I mean, I wanted my wife to climax. I tried really, really, hard (well the best I knew how, at the time) to please her. In essence, to last as long as I could.
The truth? Sometimes I did; many times I didn’t. I felt guilty, and often inadequate. But little did I realize, the burden, the sheer unhappiness, the effect my ineptness, was having on my Beloved.
Enter Holy Lover gift twenty-one (for the complete article and all 33 Holy Lover Gifts Click Here).
To Be A World-Class Lover
You Must Rise To Holy Lover!
The question of, what can a husband do to save his marriage, still sounds funny as I consider it. As I understand, how most men are. We neglect. We put uncomfortable problems off. We forever rationalize our situation is better than it is. Especially, when the problem concerns our marriage.
We in essence, take our Beloved for granted. We procrastinate, until the last second. Next, in an instant, we want to rush in like superman, and beg our wife for forgiveness. Even though, she’s given us several, if not hundreds, of clues of her dissatisfaction; her unfulfillment.
Why is Holy Lover (gift twenty-one) so vital? Because, your wife is the second most important relationship in your life, behind the Father. She is your priority. Her fulfillment, her happiness, vulnerability, feelings of security, should mean everything to you. Even above your own.
Remember, God first, wife second, children third, and your grimy butt; last! There can be no other way.
As I’ve addressed in the past, these are Christ's demands not mine. St. Pope John Paul II’s Theology Of The Body, has revolutionized the marital embrace.
It’s shown us, sex isn’t just sex. It’s divine; it’s holy; and forever connects us with the Divine Lover.
Later on in this article, I’ll give you at least 10 points to remember. Items that will help you understand, not alone what a husband can do to save his marriage. But, logical reasons to place the desires of your Beloved, foremost in your mind, as you engage in the marital embrace.
Moreover, if you apply the suggestions in this article, and allow them to lead you to the next level and beyond. I promise, you will not regret the work involved. They will help your marriage, and curb thoughts of divorce.
A further point to consider, society has warped our sense of what sexual intercourse is. How to do it the right way. What intimacy is, and how it can enhance our marriage; as well as, forge us ahead to becoming one flesh.
Not to mention, the misconceptions people have, of how God the Father approaches lovemaking.
So, continue reading, to get tips on answering the question many men are asking these days (What can a husband do to save his marriage?)
Unleash The Holy Lover Within
Look, don’t believe the hype. Sex is the most important thing in your marriage besides prayer. The Evil One has been busy over millennia, convincing us how unimportant sex is. How it’s only for a good time. Moreover, a recreational activity, designed for our own pleasure seeking egos.
However, what many don’t understand (Of course, Satan does understand.) that the marital embrace is of nothing but God. He is the Divine Lover. He created sex. Furthermore, sexual intimacy is how He connects with the married couple. By giving them a piece of His divine love.
As the couple bonds with each other building ultimate closeness, the Father is present. His grace; the gift of the sacrament of marriage; is forever looming.
For this reason, your mindset concerning intimacy, must change, to include God. Then and only then, can your marriage prosper as the Father would have. Only then, can you reach the potential of One Flesh!
I want you to reach world-class status, in benefit of your Beloved wife. I want you, to be able to start the beginning stages of answering the question, “What can a husband do to save his marriage?” I want the answer firm in your mind.
So, let’s get started. Below are 10 points of interest, you should start today. In addition, making them part of your philosophy, regarding sexual intimacy with your Beloved.
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What Can A Husband Do To Save His Marriage?
10 Tips!
One: Die To Self!
You must change your attitude. Lose your selfishness. When you sacrifice for something greater than yourself (your wife; your marriage; God) humility and holiness replace the old you.
Two: You Are The Server
You’re commanded by the Father (as a husband); to protect, to defend; to serve. These are your duty. And this means sacrificing yourself each day for your Beloved. And this starts in the bedroom. Serve her early and often. Die to self, be a joyful giver, as no other husband can be. Give your life away for her. What nobler cause could there be?
Three: Seek only the desires, wants, and needs;
Of Your Beloved
I mean total reckless abandonment. Focus all your sexual power on her; holding nothing back. Figure out what she needs, and at all costs give it to her. Odds are over the years, you’ve forgotten this insight; this gift. She chose you; you chose her. There was a reason for your marriage. Remember what that was. And keep this memory first in your mind, during lovemaking!
Four: Kill Your Ego
You are a man. Of course you have pride. And right now, you’re reading this, and dismissing all of, or most of, what’s being said. This mistake will cost you your marriage. I promise. Place a cloak over your ego and listen. Your marriage is sinking away. Don’t resemble most ignorant husbands, and presume you don’t need what I’m giving. Because you do! You don’t know it all. You don’t have it together. And your wife knows it. Stop perpetrating! Or would you rather pay that divorce lawyer?
Five: Lovemaking Is An Art
The problem? No one teaches us men how to make love. Be attentive; give everything we have to our Beloved; how to sacrifice every bit of ourselves. And many times, we just fumble through sexual intimacy. Big mistake. We tell ourselves; we understand, but we don’t. We tell ourselves we are doing it right, but we aren’t. LEARN YOUR ART! How?
Begin by clicking here to take the 20-Minute Marriage Makeover Challenge!
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- Secret #1: Chaos in your marriage and home?
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- Secret #3: Is your intimacy average or non-existent?
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Six: Each Time You Make Love;
You're Renewing Your Wedding Vows
You must change your attitude. Lose your selfishness. When you sacrifice for something greater than yourself (your wife; your marriage; God) humility and holiness replace the old you.
Seven: Your Wife Is Giving You A Gift;
The Doorway To Her Very Soul
Over the decades, men have forgotten this fact. We forget, how precious our wives are. We forget, what’s between their legs is more than a vagina; more than an instrument of pleasure for us. Her decision is a gift, each time. She’s giving her soul, her complete self; the love she offers; sacred; special. Remember?
Eight: Never Lose Your Cool (ejaculate)
Before your wife has experienced her first climax
Another lost art. Today we are selfish. We know it, and our wives know it. Sure, we pretend like we aren’t; but we are.
Many of us have no idea, how to last longer in bed. How to reach even 20 minutes; an hour; two hours; before we experience meltdown.
Over the years, this inadequacy can get worse. The older we get, other problems arise. Stamina for one. Remember what I said earlier. SEX IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR WIFE! Even more important; than to you.
This leads us to my next point.
Nine: Begin The Practice Of; The Gift Of Ten
What is The Gift Of Ten? The Gift Of Ten is a philosophy I created. The practice encourages you, to insure you give your wife the gift of 10 orgasms, before you Lose Your Cool (ejaculate).
The practice is advanced, and in many cases difficult. But only because, the technique requires the mindset of complete and total sacrifice by you.
In many of my writings, I speak very candid on selfishness and sacrifice. As well as, how husbands must give their life away, a little each day. And, The Gift Of Ten, is one of the main reasons why I push those principles so hard. To in fact, help answer the question, “What can a husband do to save his marriage?”
Well my friend, sacrificing everything for your Beloved, is where I suggest you start! BECOME HER HERO!
Ten: Ask your Beloved,
“Am I Fulfilling You Sexually?”
A significant problem for men today? Many of us are effeminate. We refuse toughness in any form. We want comfort, pleasure, forever an easy chair. Anything that makes us uncomfortable; we won’t do.
Well, you wanted the answer to the question “What can a husband do to save his marriage?” Sorry but this question is an important place to start. If you are here, your wife feels, insecure, unhappy, unfulfilled, and void of exhaustive love from you.
I’m willing to declare that your words no longer work with her. She is in most cases, tired of talk. She now wants action. Furthermore, you must ask this question.
You may get the truth, or you may not; doesn’t matter. You’ll be able to read her body language. Observing this, will give you all the answers you need.
However, when you get the answer, I suspect you’ll want to fix it. Next, what I want you to do is click on this link and learn how to fix the problem! BUT FIRST, YOU MUST HAVE THE COURAGE TO ASK THE QUESTION!
Summary
In this article, I’ve tried to give you one facet of the answer to the question, “What can a husband do to save his marriage?”
Believe me, what I’ve proposed, is an essential part of the answer. The task now? Take action! To man up, and get this done. To in essence, solve this problem as only you can. Study, grow, kill your ego. Become the man the Father is calling you to be. Don’t be among the many failures out in society. The growing number of men, unable to keep their marriages intact.
You are better than the inept. Smarter than this; a man of action. Don’t let your children down. Don’t let your Beloved down. Refuse to fail. God is waiting. She is waiting. Doesn’t she deserve better?
In This Article: How We've Rocked It!
- In this article, we’ve learned how important the marital embrace is to your wife. Moreover, the success of your marriage.
- Also, the sexuality of your Beloved, and how you must ask her the question concerning her sexual fulfillment.
- As well as, gift twenty-one of how to become a Holy Lover: Placing your desires, wants, and needs, on the back burner, for the benefit of your Beloved wife.
- Lastly, we discussed 10 points that if placed into practice, will help you get and keep your marriage on track. In addition, assist you in answering the question, “What can a husband do to save his marriage?”
- Are you already doing some of these points in your marriage?
- Which one of the items will you try to tackle first?
- Have you asked your wife point 10 yet (Are you sexually fulfilling her?)
What's Coming Next?
In My Upcoming Article We'll Focus On:
- One of the most important ways to build closeness in your marriage, which fuels the marital embrace.
- Also, understand how to start building the vital foundation, of placing your marriage and Beloved first behind the Father.
- Last, a highly neglected question that must be answered, but is hardly ever asked, until it’s too late.
