• A Holy Lover understands, he must at all times sacrifice his wants and desires for that of his Beloved, during the Holy Caress!
• You are the giver. She is the receiver. Givers give with joyous giving.
• Your Beloved has a grand gift, she’s offering you. Indeed, you must realize the importance of this offering.
• In essence, she is offering you a doorway into her soul; her union with you and the Father.
• She’s offering you her complete and total self.
• She is laying it all on the line for you; her Beloved husband.She is yours; you are hers; now and forever.
• More important, each time you and your Beloved, engage in the Holy Caress. You are renewing your sacred and holy vows, as on your wedding day.
• Try to keep this thought, in the fore front of your mind.This memory will serve you well.
• How do you sacrifice your wants and desires in service of your Beloved?
• First, you end your pleasure seeking attitude at once. Which means, complete focus on her at all times.
• Number one rule; you never under any circumstances,Lose Your Cool (ejaculate) before your Beloved has climaxed at least once.
• This standard is the minimum. Your Beloved needs many more than one. In fact, 10 or more isn’t unusual.
• Resulting in her complete satisfaction. Which I call the Gift Of Ten.
• And guess who’s the only one, who can show her love as I’m describing? Yep, you!

Gift Twenty-Two

• A Holy Lover understands his Beloved’s monthly cycle. As well as, how her body works, and responds to the marital embrace, during different times of the month.
• This knowledge is vital. You ought to have an accurate idea, when your wife’s menstrual cycle is approaching.
• Why is this information important?
• Because, your wife’s genitalia is more receptive or more tender, to the marital embrace. Depending on what stage her monthly cycle is in.
• This may seem unnecessary. But it’s not.
• She will approach you different.
• She will allow different penetration depths.
• These are few of many details, you as a Holy Lover should understand.
• This intimate conversation is important to have.
• The insight is powerful, and a must. Or you will blame her for things, such as rejection, or not being in the mood. And this isn’t the case.
• Things need to proceed a little different. And if you don’t understand this, you can make a mistake.
• Thereby, blaming her for something that’s out of her control.

Gift Twenty-Three

• A Holy Lover does not whine or pout when his Beloved is unable to make love.
• Why?Because in many cases, the problem originates from something you did or didn’t do.
• Is she sick? Is she on her monthly cycle? Does she hurt physically? Have you been making love to her outside the bedroom? Have you been engaging in meaningful communication? Does she feel close to you?
• During such an occasion, is prime time to realize your duty, when it comes to chastity in marriage. The solution? Change your mindset, to romance and building closeness.
• These are grand times to do more holding, touching, kissing, and caressing. Doing more favors for each other. Engage in deeper conversation.
• Why?
• Because the Holy Caress doesn’t start in the bedroom. Making one flesh love, starts outside the bedroom.
• So, when you’re unable to have sex, is an opportunity for you to focus more on serving.
• So, when you can make love again, the anticipation is so great and passionate, you almost can’t control the thought.
• This my brother, is love, this is sacrifice, this is friendship set on fire!

Gift Twenty-Four

• A Holy Lover understands it takes three to make love. You, your Beloved, and God (The Divine Lover).
• The principles I’ve pointed out to you in this article, can’t be done, without the grace given to you by God. These tasks are tough.
• Completing them won’t be easy.Not to mention, being able to finish and grasp, all of them. While incorporating each, into your Holy Union.
• See, many husbands fail here.
• The Father gives us special graces, just for being married.
• Understand, marriage is a sacrament. And including Him in all areas of your life (especially your marriage and sex life) is a recipe for success.
• Remember, you can’t even breathe without the Father’s help.
• So why not trust Him with everything?
• I do!

Gift Twenty-Five

• A Holy Lover must recognize; he is duty bound to give his Beloved the gift of at least one orgasm, during the Holy Caress.
• Notice, I didn’t say if you want to. I said, duty bound!
• Why?
• Because your Beloved is a human person. She’s your helpmate, your battle partner.
• She isn’t a robot or inanimate object. She feels pain, has emotions, and intellect. You must guard against treating her as an object, only for your pleasure.
• Secondly, according to the Catholic Church. Saint Pope John Paul II, backs up my statement.
• As a husband, you must make sure, your Beloved experiences at least a single climax. Nuff Said!
• And guess who’s the only one, who can show her love as I’m describing? Yep, you!

Gift Twenty-Nine

• A Holy Lover recognizes the difference between eroticism and intimacy.
• Quite simple, erotic is mislust.
• Eroticism gives you all the pleasure of intimacy, but with one difference.
• The pleasure doesn’t last! It’s like drinking a cup of coffee. Your heart rate rises for an hour or so, then the high fizzles out.
• Same with eroticism. It has no basis in love. In fact, society pushes eroticism hard.
• Why? Because our culture is based on selfishness. We aren’t going to take the time to build real intimacy. That’s a foreign concept.
• Eroticism and lust, are a favorite pastime of the Evil One.
• If he can manipulate you into engaging in contraception, sex outside of marriage, masturbation, pornography, homosexuality.

  HE HAS YOUR SOUL!

• And guess what? It will be hard for you to get it back!
• Eroticism isn’t real love. I refer to eroticism as pseudo love(false, fake, unreal). And if lust is your norm; your marriage will fail. More often; sooner than later.
• In contrast, intimacy is different. It builds and builds, and lasts for as long as you cultivate it.
• Intimacy is of absolute and total goodness. Which means, you include the Father, and let Him guide you.
• Why? Because he created you, and only wants the best for you. He has your best interest at heart. He’s even given you a plan, to help you through the maze.

• More often than not, we don’t listen. Well, you know, we’re broken!

   

Gift Thirty

• A Holy Lover understands, intimacy outside the bedroom, is just as important as, intimacy inside the bedroom.
• I mentioned this earlier. You must cultivate closeness.
• Wives crave closeness. No closeness; no intimacy; no sex. Sorry; the way of the world.
• You can try to dip and dodge, your way around building closeness.

  As a result, you will damage your credibility. And one flesh, will become almost, impossible.

Gift Thirty-One

• A Holy Lover, never Loses His Cool, until his Beloved has experienced all the orgasms she needs for unmitigated sexual satisfaction (usually 10).
• Notice,I didn’t say wants. I said needs.
• Why? Because this was my big mistake in my marriage. I deemed, climaxes for my wife was something she wanted (which is sort of true).
• In sharp contrast, I discovered orgasms aren’t necessarily what she wants. But something she needs, to sense security, happiness, and absolute love from you, her Beloved husband.

Gift Thirty-Two

• A Holy Lover must become a master of lovemaking, in service of his Beloved and the Father.
• This isn’t a game, or something I just made up. Above all, I don’t advocate this for your ego.
• But to help you realize, you have much more power and influence, in your marriage than you think.
• Many husbands get little feedback, concerning their lovemaking. Usually, because they’re intimidated, and don’t want to ask their Beloved’s insight.
• Or worse yet, receive unfavorable results.
• This is a huge mistake! And, a bit cowardice.
• It’s so funny. We can talk to our buddies regarding sex, and all kinds of stuff.
• But we can’t even say the word, in a serious discussion, to the person who can help us the most; Our Beloved wife. How unfortunate.

Gift Thirty-Three

• A Holy Lover must understand the female orgasm, in service of his Beloved.
• The female orgasm is somewhat complicated. Therefore, if you don’t verse yourself in the intricacies of your Beloved. You will disappoint her.
• Not on one occasion, but her disappointment can become a regular occurrence. Trust me, you don’t want this headache.
• Some questions you should present to yourself is as follows.
• How long does it take her to climax the first time during lovemaking?
• Is one enough for her needs. Or does she need 5, 10, 20, or more

  for total satisfaction?

• What are the many ways she can reach climax?
• How can I tell if she has climaxed?
• How can I tell when she is close to climax?
• Have I indeed, placed her needs first?
• I’ve given you a few. However, many more need consideration.
• Put your mind to work. Again, learn her mysteries.
• We’re talking about your wife; the mother of your children. Does she deserve any less?
• As I’ve said earlier. You must become laser focused, with reckless abandonment on your Beloved.

  BAM! TRANSITION