• Now to Catholic Alpha’s Radical Rant Of The Day.
• How to save my marriage when my wife has given up: The effects of premature ejaculation on a marriage!
• Today is gift 27...
• Which states: A Holy Lover is not a premature ejaculator!
• What is a Holy Lover and the 33 Gifts of a Holy Lover?
• I had a client tell me the other day that growing up Catholic really hurt his mindset about sex.
• He said that it was always about mortal sin and going to hell
• or the pain and anguish that he would experience if he got someone pregnant or he did it outside marriage.
• He said in college that is why it was kind of easy to begin the masturbation and pornography thing.
• Because he was not ever taught anything beneficial about the marital embrace, and its many beautiful aspects.
• He also said that everything he learned, he learned from sources outside the Church.
• And so, this harmed him in his marriage.
• He said he wished he had had more of what my program teaches about sex...
• How it affects his wife...
• How it affects him...
• How it should include God...
• and the benefits of including God in our bedrooms
• How sex is much more important for his wife and her fulfilment as a woman.
• And of course, how her body works during sex, her monthly cycle, and when she enters menopause.
• I felt empathetic for him as I went through the same scenario in my life, and I was not even Catholic or a Christian.
• Many people are disordered when it comes to sex and they are two-faced as well.
• They say sex is dirty or unholy or not appropriate to talk about.
• But how are we to combat Satan, who spreads porn, prostitution, lust, same-sex attraction, masturbation, infidelity in our society...
• If we don’t speak about the holiness of the marital embrace and why God created sex and all of its beauties?
• And even worse, Satan is where our innocent children learn about sex.
• So, when they have questions (and they will have questions) and we are unable to answer them...
• And worse yet, if they can’t get them from us, where will they get their answers?
• I must ask, should we continue to keep our heads in the sand on this subject?
• And moreover, who are we actually benefitting?
• And the reason Satan is able to do this is because we keep the marital embrace hidden behind some stone wall...
• that can only be brought out inside a dark bedroom
• And that may be fine, but many men have no idea how to sexually satisfy their beloved wife
• Which is a complete shame.
• Being a world-class lover for God and our Beloved wife is very important.
• Understanding the power of God and his creation of the marital embrace is of utmost importance right

• And if we are not taught about it properly right before we are married (especially for husbands) this can drastically hurt our marriage.
• I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the statement,“ don’t worry they will figure it out!"
• Sure of course they will. Why, because sex works.
• They will have children and satisfy their debt to Our Lord.
• But for women sex is much more than pleasure
• It is tied to their satisfaction and fulfillment as a woman.
• And women are just like men, they want to have a pleasurable and fulfilling sexual experience too.
• Women don’t like having sex just because of duty.
• They would actually like to enjoy it immensely and deeply.
• This is much more important for them than for men.
• As sex affects them psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.
• And for this reason, husbands understanding this cannot be underestimated.
• The key to the fulfillment of his wife begins and ends with his ability to sacrifice his wants and desires during the marital embrace.
• And that means he must, at all cost, remove premature ejaculation from his marital bed!
• So, what is the definition of premature ejaculation?
• Well, there are two definitions...
• The textbook definition and the more accurate and precise Holy Lover definition.

• The textbook definition is, a husband loses control before his wife is able to achieve one sexual peak.
• This problem is talked about in Saint Pope John Paul II’s book Love and Responsibility.
• The Holy Lover definition, which is much more accurate to the needs of wives is...
• A husband remains in control until his wife has achieved all of the sexual peaks she needs for that sex session.
• I WILL BE BACK AFTER THE BREAK TO POSE AND ANSWER QUESTIONS ON THIS ALL-IMPORTANT SUBJECT!
• FIRST BREAK...
• So, now we are going to answer some questions that will help you understand how premature ejaculation can harm our wives...
• thereby creating a lack of emotional closeness in our marriage.
• Again, this episode is based on the Holy Lover Gift 27 which states...
• A husband is not a premature ejaculator.
• So, let’s get going with the first question...1. How does your wife’s fulfillment sexually relate to her fulfillment as a woman?

  ❖  The love of her husband is top priority and why she signed up for marriage

  ❖  To have a complete and total love for life❖  The way her husband loves her directly relates to her fulfillment as a woman and her fulfillment sexually

  ❖  Because of her emotional need to nurture her children and husband

2. Why is understanding your wife’s inhibitions and trauma so important in your marriage?

❖  As trauma happens in a wife’s life, she begins to feel unloved and incomplete

❖  Healing can only be accomplished fully through God and her beloved husband

❖  Examples of trauma are...

➢  Having sex with any other man than her husband before, during, or after marriage

➢  An abortion or miscarriage

➢  Physical abuse such as rape or molestation

➢  The deep lost of a parent, sibling, child

➢  Once inside marriage and it begins to go bad because of the husbands neglect

or bad treatment and loss of emotional connection

3. Why are the 6 phases of fulfillment so important to a wife?

❖  Most women especially these days have much trauma, pain, and inhibitions

❖  They are filled with so much junk from their lives

❖  This pain builds up and they become combative, frustrated, depressed, unhappy.

❖  The anger and frustration most times is directed to their husband, and if gets worse can even transfer to the children

❖  The 6 phases of your wife’s sexual fulfillment help her to reach her sacred self.

❖  Which is the woman that God created her to be.

❖  Wives passion and arousal must begin outside the bedroom for extended

intimacy and fulfillment.

❖  Wives sexual fulfillment and fulfillment as a woman is very complicated.

❖  Many husbands realize that a woman’s sexual desire rises slowly and fall slowly.

❖  But many don’t realize why.

➢  For the virtue of patience in their husbands

➢  Who gets used to sacrificing his desires for that of his wife.

➢  It takes her body a minimum of 20 minutes to even be ready to completely receive her husband in the marital embrace.

➢  For this reason a husband must prepare himself for intimacy with his wife outside the bedroom with his diet and the removal of toxins in his body for high sexual performance.