How to save your marriage when your wife has given up: Defeating premature ejaculation in your marriage...And why a husband must become a world class lover!

• Again, what is a premature ejaculator? Let’s define this term.
• A premature ejaculator is a husband that Loses His Cool (ejaculates) before his Beloved is in complete satisfaction.
• Again, I didn’t say one orgasm. I said, satisfied.
• Why Because, your wife needs many more sexual peaks than one for fulfillment.
• And, if you get in the habit of denying her this gift, she will begin to suspect; you don’t care; you don’t love her; that you aren’t close.
• Which spells trouble, for your marriage, trust, and vulnerability.
• Now for her, this isn’t conscious. It’s unconscious.
• Which means, she’s not aware of what’s happening.
• But her actions, her emotions, provide the clues.
• Now we will cover why premature ejaculation is harmful to our marriage.
• And after that the negative effects of premature ejaculation on our wives.
• I must bring up these critical marriage stats one more time so that we are all on the same page...
• Remember...
  ❖ The divorce rate is 50 percent or higher

  ❖  Of the divorces filed as much as 80 percent are filed by women

  ❖  75 percent of men are premature ejaculators

  ❖  90 percent of wives never receive deep and fulfilling orgasms or sexual experiences.

QUOTE “If a woman does not obtain natural gratification from the sexual act.

There is a danger that her experience of it, will be qualitatively inferior, and will not involve her fully as a person....

It is usually the result of egoism in the man. Who failing to recognize the subjective desires of the woman in intercourse, And the objective laws of the sexual process taking place in her,

seeks merely his own satisfaction, sometimes quite brutally.” [END QUOTE]

~Saint Pope John Paul II ~ Book: Love And Responsibility

• Why is premature ejaculation harmful to our marriage?

• ❖  Premature ejaculation is harmful because through major toxicity in our blood system we as husbands are unable to maintain control during the marital embrace.
• ❖  This in turn displeases our wives, which means over time she will abhor making love with us because of her extreme displeasure and unfulfillment sexually as a woman.
• ❖  This will cause inhibitions, frigidity, and a low sexual desire for her husband.
• ❖  She will also unconsciously begin to feel like an object and used only for her body.
• ❖  Birth control multiplies this feeling in her significantly.
• ❖  Which over time will begin distrust in the marriage and a feeling that her husband does not love her.
• ❖  Again, love must have something on the line and that is children.

• ❖  Without the possibility of children sex becomes lustful, selfish, and demeaning...
• ❖  And premature ejaculation means that our wife is not having any sexual peaks (orgasms).
• ❖  And without sexual peaks, she will stop wanting to make love to her husband and begin to think of him as selfish and uncaring.

• If a wife constantly over months and years does not reach enough sexual peaks (orgasms) what is the consequences for her, the husband, and the marriage?

  ❖  She will have feelings of depression

  ❖  She will have feelings she is unloved

  ❖  She will have feelings she is unfulfilled as a woman

  ❖  She will have feelings of unhappiness

  ❖  She will have feelings she is unsatisfied

  ❖  She will see him as selfish

  ❖  She will become bored with lovemaking

  ❖  She will may refuse to even make love❖  She will see the marital embrace as a chore instead of a chance for unity with her beloved

  ❖  The emotional connection will all but leave the marriage

• Misconceptions By The Husband

  ❖ He will become frustrated with her and resentful

  ❖ He will blame her and think she doesn’t love him.

• ❖ The marriage will become lackluster and passionless
• Bringing It All Together...
• I understand how the subject of the marital embrace can be uncomfortable to speak on.
• But as I’ve said, men must understand how important the marital embrace is for women and the harm it can cause their marriage over time.
• Many would have me not discuss this and that is fine.